Only answer please if you have or have had a fwb?

Question

I've known this guy a few weeks now....he wants to be fwb & hopefully build up to something more but he knows we have to be careful so neither one of us will end up hurt. I am divorced from a cheater. We hooked up once last week & since then we've talked every day & he's told me that he misses me. He said he doesn't want to scare me or fall for me too fast but that he thinks of me all the time. He wants to meet up again tomorrow at a hotel(like last time)..we live about 45 minutes to an hour away from each other. I wasn't really nervous the first time but I kind of am now. I guess I'm kind of afraid he won't like me as well the second time & also that he just wants to sleep w/me & that there really won't be any building up to something more. He's more experienced than I am...he's only the second person I've slept with. If you have a fwb is it normal to feel nervous like this? I'm thinking all this stuff like what if he doesn't like the way I look, that he's just using me, etc

friend with benefits

Answer 1

Whatever you're feeling is normal to you; this is an arrangement purposely void of rules...except one. And that's where my concern is: Are you sure this nervousness isn't a sign that you may be on the verge of developing "feelings'' where this friendship is related? That could easily happen; you're vulnerable from a recent break up, and you're sexually young with just your second partner. It's not wrong if you are, but it may be wrong for you right now. At the very least, it's something to be cautiously aware of. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Being friends with benefits means that you're using each other. I suggest that if you ever want more than sex from the relationship, that you stop having sex with him. I've been in your position and if want him to think of you as something other than a sex object, stop being one. Take his mind (and yours) off of sex, grab dinner and talk. I know it may seem like he's being sweet, and if you stop the sex and he's still interested, great! Good luck

Answer 3

Hi pardon my inexperience but fwb to me is Free Will Baptist so if you don't make yourself plain you may not get what you want. I'm 60 been married 40 years Dec 10. From my experience if you gave him sex he probably has what he wants but if your giving it to him whats once more.

Answer 4

as long as you're the two open and trustworthy approximately what you % and assume out of your courting, you're no longer "being used." once you're enjoying what you have have been given, follow it; once you're searching for greater, stroll away. you ought to consistently propose that he furnish you with a decision after he's performed fooling around.

Answer 5

FWB= getting screwed and used then flushed down the toilet.
Make him wait until your married for sex, he will respect you and you can get to know one another well enough to know if you are compatible or not WITHOUT sex.If he dumps you ,then sex is all he wanted hon.

Answer 6

read patti's response again, she hit it head on. this is not the way u should start a relationship. the key is to not let him fall for u to fast. u need to be in control and u dont have to be mean about it, be sweet, sincere, honest but virgin like until he commits.

Answer 7

WHAT THE HECK DO YOU THINK A FRIEND WITH BENEFITS IS. YOUR NOT A COUPLE YOUR JUST TWO PEOPLE THAT LIKE EACH OTHER AND WANT TO HAVE SEX... THIS IS SEX WITH NO STRINGS AND BELIEVE ME SEX ALWAYS COMES WITH STRINGS IN THE END SO MAYBE YOUR NOT READY TO JUST BE BED BUDDIES.

Answer 8

I'd love to help, but I have no idea what a "fwb" is.

Answer 9

I have no idea what you are asking because I don't know what fwb stands for. Please clarify.

Answer 10

fwb????