I have been dating a married woman for 9months, both of us love each other, and want to be with each other, i am feeling that she has all the security with him , 2 kids, and she want's to move out and get her own place so she can be with me, thinking she loves him to, should i wait around, really care about her, just a big secrect and everyone is catching on, don't know what to do,
2007-11-18 02:15:58 · 22 answers · asked by 5885 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it'll be a bad outcome either way
2007-11-18 02:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her.
If she leaves on her own and wants to be with you after she is single then it could work.
You are just sitting around waiting for her to do something and she is too comfortable right now, in fact I bet she is confused too.
Do the right thing and just cut it loose. You can tell her that when she makes up her mind and if she moves out and has a divorce, then you can talk, nothing personal.
Than go out and buy a big tub of Ben & Jerrys Icecream or a Pizza.. and watch t.v. LOL
2007-11-18 02:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're having an affair with a married woman. Don't try to make it seem better than it is by calling it "dating" and saying you're "in love." What you're doing is morally reprehensible. I hope her husband finds out, because he doesn't deserve to have a tramp for a wife. And you ought to know that even if she leaves him for you, if she'll cheat on her HUSBAND she'll cheat on you too.
ETA: I'm also disgusted by the fact that she has 2 children in her marriage and you don't seem to care. You're helping this woman tear her family apart but all you care about is how this is affecting you and what you should do. You should break up with her and let her try to repair her own family, because you are not her family.
2007-11-18 02:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is looking for sex on the side...nothing more....and stringing you along until the next d*ck comes by....That's my opinion anyway.....What makes you so important and special that she would leave her husband and kids for??? You need to ask yourself that.... But then again, you never know...the husband may find out and come over to have a little "chat" with you....Personally, if I found out about some little prick like you that didn't care a woman was married....I would beat you until your mother couldn't recognize your face...Sorry, but I'm just not in favor of cheating...Why can't you find a single woman, without kids, husband, marriage....You don't f**ked up too many people's lives when you date someone single...
2007-11-18 02:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she is cheating on her first husband and in doing so clearly has not regard for her marriage or her children, are you sure this is the kind of woman you want to be involved with. How long before she throws your to the curb because of her own selfish desires for something fresh and new?
Drop her now before more damage is done. And NEVER get involved with a married women again. SHAME ON YOU!
2007-11-18 02:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should leave her, she just desires the intimacy from you and what you two are doing is sinful! If she is having problems in her Marriage they are probably because of you! You have given her an outlet to feel needed again but infact she is using you and she may say she loves you because it makes her feel better but you two need to split you will always be second in her life and you are a male homewrecker she has a family a real man would Step down!
If i ever did this to my Husband he would feel like his whole world came crashing down! It would kill him! She also stands a chance of losing her kids if they do divorce all because of you!
2007-11-18 02:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just setting yourself up for heartbreak by staying in a relationship with a married woman. The best thing to do is to stop seeing her since she will likely never leave the security of her marriage.
2007-11-18 02:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is starting to become my favorite phrase:
"If they do it with you, they'll do it to you."
If you were in it for casual it is one thing, but if you are looking for lifelong commitment... you aren't going to find it there. Believe me, I know.
They won't leave thier families. Why would they? They have a doting spouse, kids, a house, stability and a piece on the side. Even if they do, very little relationships that start out in an affair will last.
If you are truly looking for more than being a piece on the side you aren't going to find it with her.
2007-11-18 02:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Harley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in this life goes unpunished, so you should stop seeing her. Sooner or later she would do the same to you, she's gonna find another lover and abandon you. This is a bad habit some woman have do to just lust.
2007-11-18 02:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sad to tell you, you 2 are playing fire, and will get burnt soon!
stop this relationship now.
whatever you 2 have planned is not going to work.
the base for this relationship is too weak, what can a 9 months old relationship compared to years, best still, she got kids......
you may be a life boat to her, not sure what's her marriage issue with her husband that wanted to be with you.
she needs to know what she wants. you need to know that.
sad to know that.
happy that you bring it up and seek help.
2007-11-18 02:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is ask yourself this... If she cheated on him will she cheat on me? What are you setting yourself up for? I think you know the answer to those questions. You need to move on and find someone who is unattached and ready for a relationship, if not your going to be hurt. Good luck.
2007-11-18 02:35:52 · answer #11 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋