Marriage & Divorce - 18 November 2007

I recently had an affair with a married man who was seperated from his wife at the time of our relationship. I was single at the time.
We were seeing each other for over a year when I found out that he was sleeping with both myself and his wife although they were not living together. I ended the relationship but choice not to tell his wife about the relationship as I felt it was his place to be honest with her.
He chose not to tell her and she just recently found out that I am pregnant with his child. And as a result she calls me everything under the sun and he gets of scotts free. And takes him back into her home.
Why is it the wifes always blames the mistress?

2007-11-18 14:30:53 · 17 answers · asked by april 3

From my marriage. I need some time to myself and have made plans to go away for about a year across the country to stay with friends. I plan on coming back to him but feel I have to decide if I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. We have been married 8yrs, together 9, no kids. Do you think that by being away and re-evalulating will help the marriage? I really, really need this time. He does not listen to me when I tell him whats bothering me and his communication skills are 0. He has no idea that I plan to go, but he loves me so much that I know for a fact he will take me back, when I return.I think our marriage will just end in divorce if I dont go. We've tried everything and this is my last resort. I don't think I will get in touch with him since I need time alone. Maybe he'll appreciate me more too!
Thoughts?

2007-11-18 14:30:04 · 14 answers · asked by Azul 2

2007-11-18 14:29:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

How long has it been since you last paid them, and why don't you do so more frequently?

2007-11-18 14:26:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

with no paperwork involved???

2007-11-18 14:18:13 · 15 answers · asked by JENN-JENN 2

I've was married 23 years now I find myself single again at 43. Have no idea on where to start could use some good suggestions. Thanks

2007-11-18 14:17:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for 9 years and we argue as most couples do. We have been throwing around the idea of a divorce for a couple months now, but not acting on it. During a very heated argument, I got right in his face and he grabbed me around the throat and choked me hard enough that I couldn't breathe.
This is the first time he's gotten physical with me but I called the police and had him removed immediately. I have court tomorrow for an order of protection despite that, we have talked a few times. I don't fear that he's gonna kill me or anything, at least not unprovoked. I know that I don't want him living here for now and he has no place to stay. I also have no one to watch the kids while I'm at work. Since he's been gone, we've both realized that we want it to work out and we want counseling.
Am I just being an abused woman? I'm looking for outside advice from people who don't know me because, of course, my friends and family think I should leave him.
Please help

2007-11-18 14:14:33 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

And your partner tells you that before they can get any more emotionally attached to you, they want to do a background check on you.
Would you allow them to do so?
Would you feel your privacy was invaded?
Would this be a reason to break off your relationship with them?

2007-11-18 14:09:33 · 12 answers · asked by Ella 7

2007-11-18 13:50:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years and since April of 2006, he's been lying to me about things...some of them are random and others are really important. He lies to me about our finances and has actually gotten a past bank account closed due to fraud on his part.
I don't know what to do anymore because I find proof that he's done something to mess up our money again and he lies even when I confront him about it. He lies about working and reasons that he's not at work. I feel like I can't trust him to tell me anything now.
What should I do?

2007-11-18 13:44:06 · 16 answers · asked by Kristy H 2

I am having a really rough time right now. I'm going through a divorce and things just suck. I have 2 kids and they're both crying their heads off. I would LOVE to be out with my sis right now but I don't have anyone to watch them so I'm stuck at home. oh yea, and I'm only 20. I'm scared no one is ever going to want me because I'm so young and already have kids. I have no social skills and am terrified to talk to new people. I have no education [I'm working on getting my GED and then go into law enforcement] and no job. I know I put myself in this shitty position but I learned my lesson and I'm trying to pick myself back up now. I just need a little booster... <3 thanks.

2007-11-18 13:43:05 · 24 answers · asked by Kera L 3

Is there anything that used to excite you a lot but that now excites you much less than your lover thinks it does?!

2007-11-18 13:42:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-18 13:32:08 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married before and would like to one day do it again. However, It seems some people think that you can't marry the wrong person at one time and be happy again with someone esle. Can anyone who is currently in a second marriage and happy offer me some kind feedback?

2007-11-18 13:30:33 · 11 answers · asked by Sheba 2

I made a mistake and got involved with someone I shouldn't have and he left me. My family and friends are not supportive and continue to criticize me. I want to live in the apartment I shared with him to save money and partly, I don't want to move on. I know that I should just move out and move on, but I just want everyone to support my decisions. I live out of state and don't like calling home because eveyone criticizes me when I talk to them. How can I get them to stop?

2007-11-18 13:29:01 · 4 answers · asked by torn 3

When do you think you will get around to doing those things?

2007-11-18 13:19:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

your feelings or simply refuse?

2007-11-18 13:17:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I see this here on this site and I've come accross it twice recently - I never heard this until recently - is this a new thing?
Why use such a derogatory word? It seems that a women can be single and on the dating scene and get called a whore, a woman is dating a married guy (ok its contensious, but a whore is surely extreme? )

2007-11-18 13:16:22 · 9 answers · asked by Sunshine Girl 3

out what you like? If you don't, is it more because you are unsure of what pleases you, or because you are uncomfortable talking about it?

2007-11-18 13:06:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-18 13:00:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my husband and I met, I was very thin. Too thin, really. As I straightened out my life (kicked drugs and alcohol, developed better eating habits) I gained weight and got to a normal size. Then I had my second child and he's 10 months now...I still have a good bit of my baby weight.

I look at pictures from now, and pictures from before we were married and think I look much better thinner. HOWEVER, my husband insists that he loves me best this way and that he doesn't think I should lose any weight.

I'm not obese or unhealthy at all, but when looking back at old pictures, I get kind of sad and wish I was back in the size 4's again....I even still have my old clothes saved in storage! But then when my husband tells me he loves the way I look now, I question that. It's hard because I felt I looked better then, but it's also a huge ego booster for my husband to tell me he thinks I'm sexiest the way I am.

What would you do in this situation?

2007-11-18 12:58:29 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you didn't tell your partner how strongly you were touched, why didn't you?

2007-11-18 12:57:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm very civil with the ex wife and i want her back. She remarried and had 2 more kids after having 3 of my own with her. I have brief phone conversations with her and she still laughs at my jokes but I'm afraid to hint my feelings towards her. How can I show her i still love her without sounding like a complete jerk and having her husband lash out and come knocking on my door. Or should i just let things be and accept that if she wants me back, she'll let me know. All her kids hate the hubby. He is too strict and a real asshole.

2007-11-18 12:51:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why are cops stereotyped as cheaters

2007-11-18 12:49:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi we have an 8 month old son and I have no idea what to get my husband can someone please give me some suggestions. He loves our son to death so I was thinking a stubby holder with a pic of our son on it but what else is out there are there any recommended sites I can go to Im in Australia.

2007-11-18 12:45:29 · 6 answers · asked by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5

Did the results turn out to be true?

2007-11-18 12:36:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do I get her to be more quiet when she's getting ready for work..
we have the shower, blow dryer, then the dang hair spray smell, the shoes, the perfume..C'MON !!
I'm sleeping..
I have enough problems of my own..
I took a few years off from work to catch up on "being me"..
we are late on the rent..credit card people calling night and day and my wife thinks I can do all this on no sleeep.
then she gets home..loud as an OX and changes uniforms for night shift work.

I'm at my end.
Did I marry a loser or what?


ya think she would find a better paying job.

2007-11-18 12:34:44 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

does that spouse forfeit all finacial rights and community property and what are the laws specifically in california where this is concerned

2007-11-18 12:30:58 · 13 answers · asked by erik d 1

She was wearing a real sexy low cut top, a short silver skirt with these diamond pattened tights and tall black leather knee high boots w/ sky high heels. She has never gone out like this before.. shes kinda quite and shy, and honestly I thought she was joking at first, because its not her style at all (shes a 26 yr old elementary school teacher, lol). Maybe I am just being paranoid and a bit jealous because she looked amazing. I didnt want to tell her to change, because she looked so happy and confident. She was practicing walking around the house in her stiletto boots, untill I got so excited i suggested she should go with her skirt pulled up a little higher, and she did it...lol! Anyway, now Im wondering and watching the clock waiting for her to come home... should i be concerned??

2007-11-18 12:29:54 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous

This 25 y/o guy invites a girl he went on 3 dates with to his housewarming party, and he asks her to crash over, but she chooses to leave. He has been pursuing her and impressing her for about 3 weeks and asked her to become his gf (too soon). His intention is just after sex (a lot of red flags) but she's not the type to sleep around. He thinks by making her his gf, she will more likely to give it up. The night before the party, he was so positive that she will crash over and sleep with him, that he already prepared an exit strategy after he has sex with her. He started telling her that he will soon be fired from his job and even asked her why she is still hanging out with him since he has nothing to offer her. At the housewarming, his plan to sleep with her failed and she only made out with him when he dropped her off. Will he give up pursuing her or stick around to make her his gf? How long will he stick around for if she never gives it up to him.

2007-11-18 12:26:58 · 4 answers · asked by angelgirly555 1