I made a mistake and got involved with someone I shouldn't have and he left me. My family and friends are not supportive and continue to criticize me. I want to live in the apartment I shared with him to save money and partly, I don't want to move on. I know that I should just move out and move on, but I just want everyone to support my decisions. I live out of state and don't like calling home because eveyone criticizes me when I talk to them. How can I get them to stop?
2007-11-18 13:29:01 · 4 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They just care about you & sometimes when we care strongly about our loved ones we get angry when they wont help themselves. I think you know what they're saying is partly right & it's hard for you to hear as it comes across to you as criticism, not sympathy.
Try not calling home for a little while whilst you sort yourself out. Home will call you & you can either ignore their calls for a bit or speak to them & try to get them to understand why you stopped calling. I think they deserve to know that all their well meaning words are causing you grief as they're coming across as critical - I'm sure it's not intentional, after all they are your family.
Good luck.
2007-11-18 13:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either stop calling them or just flat out tell them that you know you made a mistake and their rubbing your face in it is not doing you any good. If they continue all you can do is stop calling them. You do not have to please anyone but yourself and you do not have to take their crap just because they are related to you. They should be a little sympathetic to your situation. Not every decision they have made in their life has been the right one either. If you stop calling them after you tell them how you feel they will get the idea. Good luck.
2007-11-18 13:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should either stop thinking about what they say or completely not talk to them.. You will be criticized whether you like it or not because of your actions so you're just basically experiencing the consequences of it and there is nothing wrong with that...
Another way is to be just passive and tell them that you do not want to talk about it... Criticisms will be there as long as you don't move on... They love you so they want you to love and take care of yourself first...
2007-11-18 13:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Leander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your spouse and children must be helping you. no longer rubbing previous blunders on your face with an "I instructed you so" mind-set. tell them that you already know you made a mistake notwithstanding that's mandatory for them to attraction to close it changed into YOUR mistake and also you're coping with it as you spot in good structure. i understand in my view how difficult that's at the same time as your spouse and children makes it their mission to criticize you. you in basic terms ought to settle for that you do not choose their approval as a thanks to experience free. wish each and every thing works out.
2016-10-24 11:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋