I've been married before and would like to one day do it again. However, It seems some people think that you can't marry the wrong person at one time and be happy again with someone esle. Can anyone who is currently in a second marriage and happy offer me some kind feedback?
2007-11-18 13:30:33 · 11 answers · asked by Sheba 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been divorced for a very long time, but I think I finally found someone who will not drive me nuts. I think you have to be careful and not settle, but I also think if you are cautious (and you seem to be), that you will find someone who you will do very well with. JUST DON'T SETTLE. Find someone that is right for you and that you are right for. It may take awhile, but isn't your happiness worth it?
2007-11-18 13:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my second marriage. I have been married for almost 15 years. I am very happy. We have problems and disagreements from time to time but that is normal. He took to my 2 year old and has raised him as his own. We have two more children and you cannot tell that the oldest is not his. Do not let anyone tell you that you cannot be happy with someone else. They are wrong. A lot of the time when we are young we pick the wrong people and just do not know it. If I had picked my current spouse the first time I would not be divorced. Mr. Right and happiness is out there for you all you have to do is find him. We even started having kids right away since I already had one. Everyone thought that was a mistake but we did it anyway. I am very happy that I remarried and I am more happy about who I picked. Don't let them discourage you. Good luck.
2007-11-18 21:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a mentally and occasionally physically abusive man. We divorced and a few years later I met my current husband. I had no intention of getting married but we both have learned a lot from our first marriages and decided to go for it. That was 15 years ago. A few hints:
1. Appreciate him/her
2. Always treat spouse with respect
3. Keep your mouth shut when it comes to his kids unless they're being disrespectful or unsafe
4. Realize you've been given a 2nd chance. Choose your battles and only fight over things that matter. Sometimes it's the stupid, little, things that can break up a marriage.
5. Remain friends and keep doing things as a couple
6. Don't become complacent about sex. If ya don't use it, ya lose it.
Good luck!
2007-11-18 21:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, it seems everyone has what is
now being referred to as a trial marriage.
I'm on my third and am quite content. Sometimes it
takes a while to find the right one. Be patient, don't
take the first one who comes along. It's easy to fall
back into that feeling again. Just take it slow, be sure
you really know the person.
Best of luck to you.
2007-11-18 21:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by wuvie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married three times, and was happy for awhile in all of them ... I'm now married for the fourth and LAST time ... it took awhile, but I finally got it right! What YOU will do is up to you, but if you are 'open' to change, then you may find the 'right man' for you ... sooner or later ...
2007-11-18 21:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 1st marriage took me 4 years to come to my senses and 1 more year to end it. It ripped my heart out and scarred me like nothing eles.
My 2nd marriage - we are goin on 10 years we are far from perfect but we are truly in love and respect each other.
2007-11-18 21:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo! That describes me! I took my time when I started dating again, and found a woman with common sense, a feeling of personal responsibility, intelligence and two young kids. I treated her with courtesy and respect, made her feel she mattered, and accepted that it was a package deal - the kids were part of the package. Haven't regretted it once in the eighteen years since...
2007-11-18 22:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both my husband and I were married before.....I am far happier with him then I ever was with my ex....and he says the same thing as well.......we just celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary but it feels we've been together for ever...and I mean that in a very good way.....We're both in our 50's so this aint a kid talkin'....Love for us is wonderful the second time around....
2007-11-18 22:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my second marriage,and VERY happy.
This man is the sweetest man I have ever met.
I think happiness is always possible, you just have to be open to it...
2007-11-18 22:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Hot Moma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never met someone who is happily married the first time, forget about the second and third time LMAO
2007-11-18 21:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋