She was wearing a real sexy low cut top, a short silver skirt with these diamond pattened tights and tall black leather knee high boots w/ sky high heels. She has never gone out like this before.. shes kinda quite and shy, and honestly I thought she was joking at first, because its not her style at all (shes a 26 yr old elementary school teacher, lol). Maybe I am just being paranoid and a bit jealous because she looked amazing. I didnt want to tell her to change, because she looked so happy and confident. She was practicing walking around the house in her stiletto boots, untill I got so excited i suggested she should go with her skirt pulled up a little higher, and she did it...lol! Anyway, now Im wondering and watching the clock waiting for her to come home... should i be concerned??
2007-11-18 12:29:54 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only if you don't trust her.
2007-11-18 12:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tina D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you go with her? OK, let's just say it was a company thing or with her friends or something like that. If she has been a quiet woman, she might just be feeling more body confidence due to some advice from other women or if she has lost weight. She might have had a bad body image and had some friends tell her to dress it up. Women usually are dressing for other women and for themselves - they want to be admired and envied, not touched. So just respond to her sexiness when she comes home, She is likley to continue to dress is a slightly more spicey manner because she is feeling better about herself - support her by being turned on - but I would not suggest she hike the skirt up on a regular basis! But you are also her spouse, not her father, so you should just be appreciative and admiring of her look - she will figure out what degree of sexiness is appropriate and she might be a little over the top in some instances, but she is experimenting with a side of herself you should be enjoying with her. It does not mean she is straying, but it would be a mistake if you responded negatively to her desire to be seen as more attractive. This is about her, not another man.
2007-11-18 12:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she will cheat on you tonight but it could also mean that she just wants to feel sexy and be admire by other people. I really doubt that a person will cheat on another person so blantantly. That takes a lot of balls. I think most people hide the fact that they cheat other wise it wouldn't be cheating. By this logic I don't think she will cheat.
To be honest marriage is no guarantee that a person will cheat on you or not. As a matter of fact there isn't any real guarantee. You could treat the person the best as a queen but they can still cheat on you. What I'm saying is not to worry too much about it because if they want to cheat on you there is nothing you will be able to do anyways. Just comunicate your concerns to her. I think you will get some hints that she is cheating if she changes her behaviour towards you. If she shows less interest, hides things, etc etc. A miniskirt by itslef does not makes a cheater out of a person.
2007-11-18 12:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be concerned. But not because she's cheating or trying to... but because she needs you to be concerned anyway. A little jealousy can be good sometimes. Why do you think she dressed like that? Probably wants you to notice her. If she was trying to "get away with something" you can be sure she wouldn't have let you see her like that. Seriously... tell her you know she would never do anything to hurt you, but that it still made you uncomfortable to see how hot she was and know every guy at the party probably wanted her. Then f her brains out -- as a chick trust me this would come as a total ego boost. Just don't question her loyalty unless she gives you a *good* reason to.
2007-11-18 12:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dee G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's 26, she's young! just because she's married doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy feeling beautiful and showing off sometimes. Maybe its not how she is all the time, but thats all the more reason that women love kind of "playing a character" and playing around with a more provocative, sexy version of themselves. Everyone wants to try that out sometime, all women love the attention.
The best thing you can do is encourage her in her newfound sexy confidence. The key here is to convince her that you're her biggest fan of this new self of hers! Then you'll be sure to enjoy it all to yourself, and reap all the extra sexiness that comes from when she feels good in her skin. Don't worry, just, turn it into great sex tonight!
2007-11-18 12:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Janelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be all that concerned but you should watch what she does lately . If something ever goes wrong with your wife just read this it might make you feel better.
All I ever wanted was to love you
As when I saw you first from far away.
But then it was my sweet mistake to have you
Too young to hold the demons long at bay.
For years I hated you, for only hate
Could cauterize the wounds that would not heal,
And gorged myself on fantasies to sate
A hunger I could neither suage nor feel.
Eventually, we both found other loves
And settled into other lives. And yet
The past like some unquiet ghost still moves
Within, too fraught with longing to forget.
We have moved on, as is mature and wise.
But love, though long abandoned, never dies.
2007-11-18 12:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shoudln't be concerned...especially if you guys have been together for a long time. She is probably just looking to see if she can get compliments from other men. Maybe she has been with you so long that she is concerned that she couldn't get another man if she tried. She's trying to build her confidence. You may not realize it, but I'm sure all men do the same thing. It feels good to get hit on. Even if you have a significant other and our in love. She'll come home to you and will want you bad.....
2007-11-18 12:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by J9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! Women do not dress for anyone but themselves. She probably feels great. Encourage her to be open and honest with you. Do not turn into a jealous husband because she looks good. You know the woman you married. Would she cheat on you? You can not stop it by worrying. Let her have fun, when she comes home it will be your turn to enjoy her outfit. Tell her how sexy she is then ravage her!
2007-11-18 12:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decency is decency. Why would a married woman go out like that, certainly you understand that attracts the wrong element. You already understand when a woman dresses like that a guy thinks she is on the make. Times have not changed that much. I know I have a tart of a daughter who is a 10, and she is one thing to her husband and another to other men. Another words her husband hasn't got a clue, but his family can see her for her behavior and way to sexy clothes.
2007-11-18 12:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. The times that I got dressed and went out by myself were some of the happiest in my marriage. Hubby would often show much appreciation for my appearance before I left or after I came home. I loved the hubby. We just didn't have a lot in common. He hated dancing and I loved it. I got to dance and received many compliments while out, but it was the ones I got at home that meant something to me.
2007-11-18 12:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have gone with her or have enough faith in her to trust her. Perhaps She is trying to get some attention out of You. If she gets home really late and has some lame excuse then be concerned. Distrust is the first step towards divorce so decide what you want but it is better to face facts than hide until they kick you in the butt.
2007-11-18 12:35:00 · answer #11 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋