Marriage & Divorce - 20 October 2007

i am 31 i have been married for ten years and been with my husband a total of 12 years. i started dating him when i was 19
we have spit up numrous times. i spent 3 years in prision which i stood by his side the whole time. a year after he got out he cheated on me and we split up for 3 months got back together. for the last 8 months him and my bestfriend got real close and all he wants to do is hang out with her and be around her all the time how do i let go and not go back. we do have a daugther together. +

2007-10-20 18:54:32 · 9 answers · asked by godmothersara 2

I sent the messages from my boyfriend (of 7 yrs) to his ex... I sent them an "expert" online, and she came back with.. "you shouldnt worry, it sounds like they are just sorry for how it ended, but nothing more" and that I had no reason to worry??? I am going to give a link to the actual words exchanged between them...and someone tell me she is right!?! I was fine with what the ex was saying, it was HIM that made it sound like he wanted her back... please help.. thank you

Here is their conversation... what do you think about the expert saying I have nothing to worry about?
http://hometown.aol.com/makescentstrong/index.html

2007-10-20 18:50:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

do you think it is right for a stay-at-home mom to ask her husband, who works on average 80 hours a week, to help with household chores? there are 2 children, 1yr. and 3 yr.

2007-10-20 18:39:04 · 16 answers · asked by Sunshine 3

Im not married i dont have a girlfriend, but i think America is as only as strong as the family is strong and divorce in America is a way of life single mother homes are very common...will it always be like this and why has it comes to this does the blame fall on any one thing? if youve been divorced or been married for awhile id apprecaite if you could explain this to me since im not in your shoes and havent experienced anything like this...if there is any way that marriage in our country can be fixed what do you think it is...thanks.

2007-10-20 18:31:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I talked to the person on the phone who saw my husband making out with some woman in Walmart's parking lot, her description of his cloths and vehicle matched.

After he came home with a Walmart plastic bag, I kicked him in the nuts and proceeded to grill him for an hour about what happened, yet he denied everything saying it was a misunderstanding.

I packed up some cloths and I'm now at my brother's and his wife's house. My husband came over finally admitting to kissing this lady and in tears, he was begging me to forgive him. Being angry, I told my brother send him on his way.

I asked my brother and his wife what I should do and they said for me to do what I think is right and I can stay as long as I need.

The problem is, not only did he hurt me, but he also humiliated me since all my friends now know. I wondered if I could forgive him, yet when think of him I'm disgusted and have no trust anymore. I can't see myself going back.

Am I being to harsh? What would you do?

2007-10-20 18:30:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and I are going through some major issues of cheating from the past....we were both guilty of it. I was a merchant marine traveling all over and we would fight all the time. now we are trying to striaghten things out but my wife doesnt want to go to counseling because she doesnt want to re-live the past. What good is counseling for me if my own spouse wont participate. at times im like should we stay together or just split but i really want it to work at all cost. My last resort was this marriage counseling before I make make any stupid decisions. appreciate the advice

2007-10-20 18:27:33 · 8 answers · asked by Mr Confused 2

My husband and I love each other, but I don't think we're IN love anymore. We've been married for 2½ years, we're 25 and we have a one year old. We just seem to have grown apart, and after some counseling and hours and hours of talking, we realize that we're just drifting apart.. we don't even have sex anymore, yet I can't stand the thought of my son growing up without his parents together. I know that it's not going to be any more beneficial to him for us to fight all the time, either. So, we're thinking about living together, and just sort of being friends. We're not considering an open marriage, I couldn't do that, but I just don't know what to do/expect. We want to raise our son together, he's only one, and neither of us can stand the thought of missing even a single day with him. Has anyone else been in this situation and had a decent outcome? I just don't know what to do anymore.. I feel like he's my roomate already, might as well stop pretending, right

2007-10-20 18:17:26 · 21 answers · asked by ... 1

I was married for about a year. we were together for about 6. We have 2 children. Things ended poorly and suddenly. He became frustrated, unhappy and ultimately abusive emotionally and then physically towards the girls and myself. I am living in my own now with our children after leaving our home and have not seen him since he was arrested. I am unbeliveably happy to have our children, but for some reason I still miss him and kind've wish hed get some help and that we could work things out. I know this is unhealthy and I know that this is beacuase he is a huge part of my life and i love him. but what do i do?? I am happy to be away from the abuse and that we are safe. God i wish the counselling list wasnt so damn long lol. any ideas???

2007-10-20 18:15:45 · 6 answers · asked by dawna m 2

it is on the back of my neck, it is the red emblem that looks like this *.. an astris.. anyway my question is is that I am 36, married 14 years, 4 kids.. the oldest is 18 youngest is 6...anyway, is it stupid for a girl my age to get a tattoo of the chili peppers??? I am so crazy when it comes to them,, I feel like a 16 year old the way I love them... is it an old lady trying to be young? or is it accepted nowadays.

2007-10-20 18:12:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I went on business trip and a female coworker of mine was leaning up on me with her arm around me. I, being drunk as well, put my arm around her and basically was holding her up for a chunk of the night. Nothing else happened, but I felt guilty about it so I told my wife. Now she is rightfully furious and has lost all trust in me. What can I do to earn her trust back?

2007-10-20 18:06:55 · 15 answers · asked by I wanna talk to Samson 3

While we are going through a divorce and its far from over, my husband is busy hunting for gals on every matrimonial and dating sites. And guess what ? He lies about being divorced, living in a lavish out (where i live and he is out), talks about his lovign dog (who has been with me for 2 years and he cares a damn about) and uses all the pictures on these sites that I took of him with my baby dog.
I am mad . GGRRRRRR.
should i worry about him cheating other innocent females with his lies ? what should i do ??

2007-10-20 18:02:30 · 24 answers · asked by Romi 2

Everything's all set for the marriage to go forth between a man and a woman. Her dowry has been set. Her family pays the dowry. She marries this man who says he'll accept her until she dies. Then they have sex on their wedding night or whenever they feel they're ready. Now, his parents, accepted money from her parents so they could wed, and have relations. Doesn't that make him a hooker? Didn't his parents just pimp him out? Didn't her parents pimp her out? Doesn't that make her a john? What are u thoughts on this? Be honest, but nothing vulgar or rude please. thanks.

2007-10-20 17:59:18 · 22 answers · asked by Uncertain Soul 6

I'm getting remarried next week and my gf is very excited about being a stepmom to my 8 yr old son. The problem is my exwife who is possessive of our son and very jealous of my gf.She has already been a problem with my gf's involment with our son and its only going to get worse once we get married. I have joint custody with my exwife and see my son every other day and have to deal with my ex often. I really want to take the high road with my ex(for my sons sake) so whats the best way to handle my gf becoming my son's new stepmom without making waves with my exwife? Divorced moms what would piss u off if your ex got remarried?

2007-10-20 17:57:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend turned 28 today and says he is still in his mid twenties but I would consider that late twenties.

2007-10-20 17:57:20 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married 5 years, We have no kids which is good. But these were the flaws:

1. He hasn't made much income the past two years
2. He believes he's more valuable than being a W-2 employee
3. His mom is psycho

Let me further explain each flaw:
1. He was in the navy so he does know how to work. The agreement we had when he got out was that i would work while he started his real estate investment company. But for two years he's barely made anything and I'm struggling to pay our bills. And he KNOWS how frustrated I am

2. I've told him to get a job but he won't because he said he's worth more than $15 an hour. He hasn't tried hard to look for a job because he's so devoted to his slow progressing business

3. His mom forced us to have a wedding celebration to show off to her friends and get money. I asked him if I had to go through with it because I was uncomfortable and he said i had to. He is a servant to her before a husband to me

So I want a divorce. What do you think?

2007-10-20 17:54:34 · 23 answers · asked by smooshcrickets 1

I work with a married man who's been wanting an affair with me. After much thought and hesitation, I have decided to move forward. Now that I've given him my decision, yes, he's turned cold toward me? Why?

2007-10-20 17:46:15 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

don't love them because they think you are focusing on

what os wrong with them

2007-10-20 17:43:16 · 5 answers · asked by matters 2

here is a question to all married guys / those in committed relationships...

What would you say if your wife told you that she is bisexual and that she wants to have an open relationship -- but only for herself, to experiment with women (he does not get to sleep around, only she does).

guys would you feel jealous and cheated on if your wife was with another woman, but it was just sex, and she came back to you at the end of the night??

2007-10-20 17:40:52 · 17 answers · asked by kallista 3

He is 50 I am 49 and physically fit - we have 3 children and have been married 25 years or am i reading into it

2007-10-20 17:40:39 · 15 answers · asked by julie w 1

Everytime I would like to talk to my boyfriend about something he says that he "doesn't want to deal with it." I mean, he's a grown man. Should I just get the hint and move on?

We've been togehter for a year and are living together. I think sometimes we have communication problems. I was telling him something today that was really on my mind and that I needed to talk to him about and he started getting frustrated with me and yelling. So I hung up on him because it was making me more upset and I didn't want to fight with him.

He just called me back and was trying to attempt to talk to me and he started yelling at me again. When I asked him what his problem was he told me he didn't want to deal with it. I can't be with someone who treats me like that! He should be my partner and listen when I speak.

He's 30 years old and I think he still doesn't get it. Should I stick it out or stop wasting my time?

Keep in mind that regardless of this flaw, we are deeply in love.

2007-10-20 17:33:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seems to be that the college generation lives together before marriage, then after one graduates they get married, one moves away to their new job and other stays and goes to school another 4 years and the first 6 years they are married don't live together but for 5 years before marriage they do. I know it is short term and eventually they will get on same path, (I hope) but I've seen couples do this and studied it in school also. Nobody says what happens to them?

2007-10-20 17:32:38 · 14 answers · asked by Peggy Pirate 6

2007-10-20 17:31:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've always complained about DeBeers' stupid monopoly on diamonds and how diamonds are so overrated. I also said that engagement rings are a waste of money. I also said a few times that the idea of marriage scares me.

Why then would my boyfriend propose to me with an engagement ring with three diamonds on it?? It seems sweet of him, I know, but at the same time he totally disregarded my opinions and fears. What do you think?

2007-10-20 17:31:34 · 35 answers · asked by ? 2

Can a women with 2 kids relocate to another state by going directly to a shelter, or do you have to be a resident there first. I want to leave my abusive husband and move to another state. I want to move near Allentown PA.

2007-10-20 17:25:53 · 8 answers · asked by Suzie 2

I mean, I know anger is justified in this situation, but as he's obviously a selfish narcissist and not worthy of any of my time or consideration, I'd like to write him off completely. Thing is, everything seems to remind me of him and all the recollections make me angry.

Will it simply take time? Should I just grit my teeth and tough it out? Should I throw myself into a hobby or a job? Should I sleep all day and all night until I forget about how much he hurt me? Should I get a tiny voo doo doll and stab it in the eyes?

2007-10-20 17:22:31 · 31 answers · asked by ZER0 C00L ••AM••VT•• 7

What should are wedding song be? I was thinkin somethin like Welcome to the Jungle (GNR!) but the misses ain't to excited bout that. She wants somethin slow and romantic, but that ain't me? Besides, I don't think the legion has any slow stuff like that an that s were the reseption is gonna be.

2007-10-20 17:15:36 · 8 answers · asked by Ghimraab 2

My husband left to work about 5 hours away, I already miss him alot. He will be away for 1month, could be more. What are some things that I could do to keep me busy??
Since he just got this new job we don't have much money right now so I can't go shopping or anything like that.
Also I have 2 kids ages 1.5 and 3 what are some things besides going to the park??
Does anyone have any advice on how to make this month go by quickly or any advice at all. He's only been gone 1 day and it already seems like it's been alot longer!

2007-10-20 17:13:44 · 18 answers · asked by ~Mommy*of*3~ 3

sorry, this is a statement not a question

im a man btw (straight) i want to say now ... some woman endure more than men will ever imagine ... and most men are cowards!! ... im almost ashamed to be one .. i just want to extend a kudos to all the single mothers out there

2007-10-20 17:12:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been in a very great relationship for 5 years and friends for another 2 now i am engeged. to my fiance would like if i decided not to work . We do plan on having kids in the future and i would love to home with them but i do have a pretty good career at the moment but it would be no problem for me to be at home especially since we want kids in the future.

2007-10-20 17:11:10 · 13 answers · asked by cash 1

2007-10-20 16:32:47 · 18 answers · asked by Pariah 5