men doing chores?

Question

do you think it is right for a stay-at-home mom to ask her husband, who works on average 80 hours a week, to help with household chores? there are 2 children, 1yr. and 3 yr.

i am a stay at home, but i only have 1 child. i don't ask my husband to help out. it is his friend, and i am friends with his wife. they work together. but she expects him to wash the dishes after supper, and give the kids a bath everynight. he does spend time with his kids every chance he gets, as does my husband. but they work so much, i don't expect my husband to come home after working in the oil field and have to work more. i just wanted to know if i was the only one who felt this way.

Answer 1

Working 80 hours a week he should come home and do nothing. She is being ridiculous.

Answer 2

You can't understand her position because you only have one child. It really doesn't matter what's "right" or not, just what's right for them which isn't for you to judge. I'm a stay at home mom with 4 kids and I promise you, adding more kids means adding more work. I also believe that the house and yard are my job and I do my best to get it all done on my own. I've had one child, life was easy, it's a little harder when you have two. Having three makes getting household chores even harder and having four makes some days(not all) nearly impossible. Each child is an adjustment and you've yet to experience that because you only have one. Each couple decides how best to work all of that out. You will only know what I'm talking about (or what she might be going through) when you have another child. Until then, enjoy your life and don't judge.

Answer 3

Nope, he's working that's his job. Since a stay at home wife doesn't contribute financially she must do 100% of the work including cutting the grass and such. These are not men's jobs just as laundry and dishes are not a women's job. That's stupid to even make those distinctions. Of course, the majority of the work with the kids will be done by the stay at home parent, but the other must contribute with parenting, but never with chores. If both partners work, then household chores should be divided equally.

Answer 4

If it is something that I need help with or am behind on somethings I might ask him to pick up some toys. But I try to make it as easy on him as possible. He dosen't work 80 hours a week. But being a stay at home mom I feel that it is my job to take care of the kids and house as much as I can with out help. When he comes home he helps with the kids because with them being so young it is hard for me to get what I want done. We have a 3 month old and an 18 month old. But he usually takes on the responsibility himself without being asked.

Answer 5

My wife dosen't expect me to do any household chores. She feels that it's her job to keep the home clean and tidy. I feel that it's a partnership when it comes to doing chores. I do everything that she does, laundry, dishes, vacuuming,making the bed...etc. She appreciates the help but will tell me that I don't need to but I tell her I want to and like helping her. We both work full-time jobs but she gets home before me and does the cooking so as soon as I get home I'll start washing dishes that she has used preparing the meal. It just keeps everyone happy and after all it's a partnership. If I was alone I would have to do it for myself so why should it be any different in a relationship. We all bring something to a relationship and do what we can to strengthen it if you wish to make it work.

Answer 6

Actually his chore is to bring home the bacon, he is doing that by working an average you say of 80 maybe + hours a week, if he volunteers to help with some things, that is great, but you shouldn't expect him to do anything, your a stay at home mom, if you can't get the work done there is something wrong with that picture, maybe spend less time on the computer and more time with your children and housework.........

Answer 7

This guy is working 12 hours a day 7 days a week? And in return, his wife is supposed to be "on duty" 24 hours a day 7 days a week? I'd be a mighty unhappy wife too. Maybe it's time for everyone to spend less money so that Dad has time to be a Dad instead of crabby exhausted money machine. With a REAL Dad in the home, Mom would be able to actually have a LIFE instead of being non-stop support personnel.

When I learn that someone spends so much of their time on the job, I wonder what is going on in their REAL life that they are avoiding. So I think the question is all ******** and should be "Is it right for a family to have a such a lopsided division of parenting responsibilities?"

Answer 8

I'm a stay at home mom also. My husband does about 60+ hours as well. I do the general housework and he does the major stuff such as mowing, cleaning the yard, doing repairs. This is something we both agreed on before we got married and moved in together. In the same respect he knows I'm tired at the end of the day as well as he is. In the evening we both help with making dinner and picking up the kitchen. It's a win win situation.

Answer 9

Anyone working 80 hours a week is doing plenty.... I can't imagine that many hours... considering the average work week is 40 hours. I would think he would at least like to spend time with the kids and maybe help there though.

Jessica C.... get a clue you idiot.... I'll bet you never worked even a 40 hour work week in your life.... so an 80 hour week is like 2 normal work weeks in 1 week.... I'm sure he is exhausted.... you need to get a clue because you don't live in the real world!

Answer 10

If he is working 80 hours per week to provide for you that is a heck of a lot.
Unless you have health issues, you should be able to handle the household responsibilities MOST of the time. Of course he should be able to do some when you need a break, but he should not be expected to do half, or anything close to half.