Been married 5 years, We have no kids which is good. But these were the flaws:
1. He hasn't made much income the past two years
2. He believes he's more valuable than being a W-2 employee
3. His mom is psycho
Let me further explain each flaw:
1. He was in the navy so he does know how to work. The agreement we had when he got out was that i would work while he started his real estate investment company. But for two years he's barely made anything and I'm struggling to pay our bills. And he KNOWS how frustrated I am
2. I've told him to get a job but he won't because he said he's worth more than $15 an hour. He hasn't tried hard to look for a job because he's so devoted to his slow progressing business
3. His mom forced us to have a wedding celebration to show off to her friends and get money. I asked him if I had to go through with it because I was uncomfortable and he said i had to. He is a servant to her before a husband to me
So I want a divorce. What do you think?
2007-10-20 17:54:34 · 23 answers · asked by smooshcrickets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself if you'd be happier and have a better life without him in it. If the answer is yes, then go ahead and file for divorce.
2007-10-20 17:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by ms_upsidedown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I heard that when your in the Navy while married and if you cheat on your spouse the Navy will make you call your wife & explain it to her then give you both marriage counseling. Anyhow the problem at hand is something no one here can tell you. You need to find all that out with the state that you live in. Most states say that all you need to do is file for sole custody first & your granted. This will obviously land in court. You & he should take an attempt to resolve this yourselves & not let someone who you don't know make the final decision about your child. You both need to have a mature, serious talk for your child. That means don't go yelling at him because that wont help, that will make him want your child more. He may only be giving you a fight for this because of your mouth & what is coming out of it. I know how you feel believe me, you are fighting for your daughter; that can be loud & dangerous. Can you be smart & calm for her now? The choices you make now will reflect on her life later. Be wise.
2016-05-23 23:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have work to do on your marriage - at least, you did before you told him you wanted a divorce.
I think asking for a divorce was a bit pre-mature. You didn't say that he was violent or abusive or addicted to something or cheating. You said that he didn't make a lot of money and it was frustrating you to pay the bills for your both.
Ask yourself why you opted for a divorce rather than working on your relationship. No judgement on my part - I just think that it might help shed some light on the big picture. Maybe it's more that he is a leech or just does not care at all about how you fell, both of which are much more sympathetic reasons for wanting a divorce.
2007-10-20 18:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by banana6464 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were in your position, I would definitely get one. While I would not normally encourage divorce, sometimes enough is enough. Things will only get worse as time goes on. Do it while there are no children involved. Best time to get out. You still have time to find someone who will put you first and not expect you to carry the whole load. Marriage is teamwork; obviously your husband has not shown any of that. I think that you have already answered your question, but just need some reinforcement. Good luck and be happy!
2007-10-20 18:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine75 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My hubby was out of work a few times. Now he's totally supporting us in two locations while I'm back in school.
Why did you get married - there was probably a reason, right? Didn't you expect there would be hard times? Five years - that's a lot of time and effort to walk away from.
You need to do what's best for you not what people on YA tell you to do!
Anyone who says that marriage is easy is lying!
2007-10-20 18:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think this is the best place for advice on such a personal thing like divorce, but it sounds like u dnt love him becuase supposedly wen u marry u say ull support each other no matter wat thru thick and thin i think u should have given more time and tried to fix thing s or give him an ultimatum before jus saying i want a divorce but then again i also am for divorce if the couple isnt happy cause there are lots of people on this earth that could be ur true love if ur husband wasnt it good luck
2007-10-20 18:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Femme Fatale 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got a divorce for the same reasons, I still love my ex-wife though.
I hate it that so many women bail on their husbands but if he won't get a job then what are you going to do?
You can't be expected to pay all the bills by yourself....
It really sounds like you got married for the wrong reasons.
I really don't know, I don't have enough details about it all to tell you one way or the other.
It does sound like you've already made up your mind though...
Good luck
2007-10-20 18:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want a divorce? Everybody has flaws, and none of the flaws above shout out 'adultery' or 'abuse'.
1. Didn't you promise 'for richer or poorer'?
2. Sounds like he's discouraged. Needs your emotional support, not a boot out the door.
3. I thought you married him, not his mom. You've held a grudge for 5 years? Time to learn to forgive.
2007-10-20 18:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by David F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Based on the info you've said, it sounds like a mistake, but I'm sure that there's more to it than any of us on Yahoo Answers could possibly give insight on.
I guess, if he's hardworking, that counts for something. If he was lazy, that would be a COMPLETELY different story. I just think that marriage vows need to be taken seriously, unless he's done something to break them.
Inlaws are always going to be a mess to deal with. Believe me, tons of people face the same problem.
If you feel like working it out, maybe give him some conditions that you need met, even if he wants to live his dream. He needs to bring in some income SOMEHOW, and he needs to show you in a real way that he puts you before his mother.
2007-10-20 18:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jefferson F 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you're going to listen to anyone on this site who gives you a definitive answer that you actually count as VALID advice, you should be committed.
While I personally would not leave my husband over the points you have outlined, only YOU know yourself and your emotional status well enough to make that decision.
Do what you feel you must for the reasons YOU feel are right. Whatever you eventually decide, you will have to live with.
2007-10-20 17:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i agree 100%
right now RE investment is for suckers
the housing market is in the dumps
and recession is soon to follow
he better get a job
any job while he still can
but basically you married a mommas boy
or a loser
either of which is not a good choice
2007-10-20 18:02:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋