What do you do when you have tried to help your partner get the help the need but they still think you?

Question

don't love them because they think you are focusing on

what os wrong with them

Answer 1

give up or keep fighting against the odds. good luck. sounds complicated :p

Answer 2

you can do something to show love for each thing you do to get them help. For example, if you go to a doctor together for the condition, afterwards have a romantic dinner somewhere. Do things perhaps to build up their self esteem because the fact they have the illness may be causing damage to that.
On the other hand if it is something they can do to help themselves but do not - in the case of an alcoholic, not trying to stop drinking for example,- the point may come where you have to get on with your own life and not worry about the other person in order not to not let the other person drag you down with them. This is general because I don't know what is wrong with this person so the only other advice would have to be to know and realize when you can help or when you can't and are being dragged down also. I hope this answer helped you!!

Answer 3

Often times, the closer you are to another person, the more difficult it can be to help him. That is why it can be so hard to fix a husband, boyfriend, friend, etc. It may be a good idea to bring in a third party, if you efforts to help him aren't making things better. You don't describe what his problem is, but do family members or friends know about it? If so, maybe they could help him realize what the problems are and encourage him to get some help from a therapist or doctor. Depending on the situation, he may benefit from a life coach. Life coaches help with a variety of issues, including relationships, family, health, business, career/education, and general wellness. Perhaps there is something in his life that he is not happy about, and a life coach can help him set goals and achieve them. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions!

Answer 4

Depends on how you approach the whole thing.
If you are married , you have to remember that the two of you have to treat the marriage as the most important entity (above yourseld and the partner) and then do things that's good for the marriage.
Communication is the key.

Answer 5

We can't fix someone else, only ourselves. A great book "You don't have to take it anymore" is good to address this question. But back off, let your partner work on his/her stuff, while you work on yours. What responses do you have to the behavior? How can you react compassionately and caring? How can you take care of yourself instead of making him/her a project?? No one wants to have a finger pointed at them, so change your focus.