I was married for about a year. we were together for about 6. We have 2 children. Things ended poorly and suddenly. He became frustrated, unhappy and ultimately abusive emotionally and then physically towards the girls and myself. I am living in my own now with our children after leaving our home and have not seen him since he was arrested. I am unbeliveably happy to have our children, but for some reason I still miss him and kind've wish hed get some help and that we could work things out. I know this is unhealthy and I know that this is beacuase he is a huge part of my life and i love him. but what do i do?? I am happy to be away from the abuse and that we are safe. God i wish the counselling list wasnt so damn long lol. any ideas???
2007-10-20 18:15:45 · 6 answers · asked by dawna m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell youre self that youre children are more important to you and you will never go back to the abuse and we all wish they would change but they dont they get worse and keep youre self busy with youre kids take up a hobby with them good luck and bravo for being strong to leave the abuse
2007-10-20 18:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by lil momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep on reminding yourself WHY he is an ex.
you have done well in realizing that you have children together and that you and your children ARE better off without him.
you are only missing the good things about him...all the bad that you went through should NEVER be forgotten...keep reminding yourself
go out and make new friends...they tend to know good men...get out there and don't settle for anything less than what you and those kids deserve
2007-10-20 18:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably still love him.. but you know that the relationship is no good. The more you think about him the harder it is going to be to get over.... do something else. You can love someone and still know it is no good
2007-10-20 18:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church, become a member, enter counseling with the minister. It's free and there's no waiting list.
2007-10-20 18:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
concentrate on the kids. take them out. talk to a friend.
2007-10-20 18:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
attend church god will ease this it.s very bible and christ never will leave you , my honest opion?
2007-10-20 18:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋