Seems to be that the college generation lives together before marriage, then after one graduates they get married, one moves away to their new job and other stays and goes to school another 4 years and the first 6 years they are married don't live together but for 5 years before marriage they do. I know it is short term and eventually they will get on same path, (I hope) but I've seen couples do this and studied it in school also. Nobody says what happens to them?
2007-10-20 17:32:38 · 14 answers · asked by Peggy Pirate 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is a name for this (can't remember what) but I'm curious what they statistics of divorce are. I guess if they are never together they wouldn't fight
2007-10-20 17:36:40 · update #1
will end up in a divorce like Heidi and SPencer will
2007-10-20 17:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Josh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ironic, isn't it?
In college, you both live near the college and are established in a routine. It's convenient to live together.
But after college, you enter a new world with new demands and possibilities, and you have to find a new life routine. When starting life after college, the world defines you by your major and skills. So career usually is a lead priority for a while; each person has to individually compete for jobs and then go to where the opportunity is. They may have to separate a while -- and it is hard, I'm sure.
If they make career a priority, it will be difficult at first, because marriage takes the back seat. If they make their marriage and family a priority, then they'll find work that supports them as a couple and it'll be easier.
Like you said, hopefully they'll find a way of life where they can be a family with new careers. My hope is that most of them do.
2007-10-21 00:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by Joe_D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's strange. I wouldn't want to be apart from my fiance. I understand that it can be REALLY hard to find a good job and usually an undergraduate degree isn't enough (depending on your field).
Still, I feel like it's better to try to stick together. It's an important time and you need to make sure your relationship is solid. My fiance and I went to the same graduate school--it was a good school, but I never cared about going anywhere too fancy. Some degree programs are more specialized than mine was (English--not hard to come by!) and there are fewer schools for certain degrees. Still, marriage does require a certain amount of compromise, and I think it's best to find a solution that works for both of you, even if it's not perfectly ideal.
2007-10-21 00:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by saddison2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they break up some people can make it work but marriage is something you have tto be prepared for people jump into marriage like its no big thing. school especially college can be hard on an individual the class, grades trying to keep up and on top of that your married. sooner or later something has to give
2007-10-21 00:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both newlywed couples that I know that did that (live separate after the wedding) are now divorced. This is a recipe for disaster.
2007-10-21 00:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by banana6464 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce.
2007-10-21 00:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by Addie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They get divorced? HA who knows! They start to lead completely different life's and grow apart?
If you find out let me know!!
Good Luck
2007-10-21 00:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by justwondering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probley end up in a divorce look at the divorce ratings on his it.s free at. www. collagedivoce . com
2007-10-21 00:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is much better i hang out with my friends all of the time but when i hang out with them to much it makes me kind of hate them because after long enough they kind of get on my nerves so i think if you don't live together you will get along much better.
2007-10-21 00:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really odd. but hey their marriage might last longer lol
2007-10-21 00:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by princess1226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋