He is 50 I am 49 and physically fit - we have 3 children and have been married 25 years or am i reading into it
2007-10-20 17:40:39 · 15 answers · asked by julie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sometimes the pressures in mans life can be overwhelming that pay a heavy toll on alot of things not just sex. Are you ever the aggressive one in your sex life? It makes me feel good inside too if they now that they are desired sometimes that gets forgotten in our society. Just be open and honest with him about your feelings don't judge and listen. Good luck.
2007-10-20 17:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by apple3902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert on this subject but I think it's normal for sex to decrease after you've been married for a while. If you're in the UK then there's a programme on Channel 5 called "how to have sex after marriage" on Thursday nights at 9 o clock.
If not, then try and spice things up and talk to your husband about your concerns
good luck
2007-10-21 00:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what anyone says, I am 50 and I love sex. I don't understand any normal man not wanting sex. We are dogs. We will do it with most anyone that says yes. I would understand after 25 years that he might want some "strange" but why he would turn down sex is beyond me. Good Luck and remember it is not too late to turn cougar and trade him in on a younger model.
2007-10-21 01:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship goes through changes, Some subtle, other openly noticeable. Other than the obvious reply, which would be talk to your hubby. Think about things, have there been changes in his work situation, are there any changes to his health in general eg; Is he suffering from depression?. There are many possible causes. Of course the worse scenario people consider when its a spouse is, that he could of stepped out of the marriage and is seeing someone else. However I would not consider that until you have spoken to him or observed him in his daily activities first. He just might be plain old tired. :-)
2007-10-21 00:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i think its abnormal for any man Not to be interested in sex with anyone. ;)
i would see it more as normal. Perhaps he is uninterested in sex with you because it is getting to be mundane. This is not nesessarily a bad thing. It opens doors for the two of you. Maybe the two of you could work something out to make sex more interesting for the both of you. Talk with him about it. Try and think of something new, even if it seems strange, give it a shot, it can only be a fun learning experience and who knows, you might strike something that keeps you too intimate for years to come. Best of luck!
2007-10-21 00:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 52, my wife is 50, and I want it every day. We are very healthy and eat an exercise daily. I will be happy with it 3 times a week, however I want it more. I don't know why he wouldn't want it unless your not attractive anymore or he has a "friend" on the side.
2007-10-21 23:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know how you fell right know I'm going thought the same thing and we only been married for five years and we have 2 kids,and I wanna have one more but i don't anymore it seems like where growing apart and it scares me cuz I love him alot.men are just so wired about sex it hard to know any more.Right when think you know you don't.I don't think that its not normal I think when people love each other it should be a special thing when they have sex and not a core.
2007-10-21 01:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by The Broken heart Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, its normal. barring medical problems, men get tired, we lose energy, we get "comfortable" and we no longer feel the need to prove our sexual prowess. at 49 and 50, we are no longer honeymooners, we are in most likelyhood grandparents and content in just knowing our life's partner has been there and is still our best friend, at this point in my life, to call my wife my best friend is the greatest compliment I can give her. It doesn't mean she has let herself go, or she has become unattractive to me or to other men, it simply means I am tired and working for a living takes all my energy. I hope when I retire in 4 years, that my spark comes back and she will welcome me,
2007-10-21 00:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish my wife thought like that...lol. at being 49 i admire your sex drive,,, its a turn on,,im 26
2007-10-21 00:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Khan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if after all that time together,you might chalk it up to growing old together and our bodies are changing. I would think you know you husband inside and out.... I highly doubt he is cheating or thinks bad of you or any of that nonsense... don't worry
2007-10-21 00:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋