Can a women with 2 kids relocate to another state by going directly to a shelter, or do you have to be a resident there first. I want to leave my abusive husband and move to another state. I want to move near Allentown PA.
2007-10-20 17:25:53 · 8 answers · asked by Suzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be very careful with this. You need to contact a lawyer. Normally you can't go out of state unless you husband agree's. That's what my sister had to do and now even though he agreed he had filed for full custody. You need to report your husband for abuse and file a restraining order against him. I think going to a shelter is a good idea. Thay can really help you with this.
I did that with my ex for battering me. I am so sorry your going through this and I know this is really hard. Praise God that I didn't have any kids with this man.
I wish you the best
2007-10-20 17:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allentown? What is in Allentown? Anyway, the issue with crossing the state lines is that if you do so without the consent of the other parent you are entering dangerous territory. I would start with a shelter in and around where you currently live to establish care and then seek to move on. If you can demonstrate abuse and you are moving to be closer to a family support system, then you should be ok. Check with a lawyer first.
2007-10-21 00:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck i lived in Allentown (i didnt like it, but then again, that was a long time ago)... anyway i am sorry this is happening to you. what i would do first is go to a shelter, then get help to get a restraining order through the court. the shelter should be able to help you with this. Apply for food stamps, anything you can get for the time being to help you through. if you are broke, the shelter might be able to get you an apartment and Section 8. be sure to keep the restraining orders up to date and dont be afraid to call the cops if he shows up! the cops in allentown dont play games, they'll lock him up fast if he steps out of line. When you get your living situation settled, try to get job training or go to school,. to secure some income. I admire you for not being weak and deciding to leave this bad situation and i wish you the best of luck :)
No, you dont have to be a resident,. they might ask where you lived before but just tell the truth, you wanted to go far because you are scared. i dont think they will turn you away.
2007-10-21 00:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by Addie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think residency matters. Make sure that when you get there, you file for custody immediately. Whoever files first is where the hearing is held. You don't want to have to keep going back there to fight for custody. You can leave the state without his permission, but you must file for custody immediately. Also, you should report him and get a restraining order immediately as well. The shelter will help you with all of this. I have been there and done this.
To Bill P:
The system doesn't always work. I had a restraining order against my ex and called the police everytime he came around. He would go to jail and then continue stalking me for 4 years and found me everywhere I moved. He burned down my apt., broke windows in my car, let the oil out of my car, etc, etc. I finally moved to another state for enough away that it made it virtually impossible for him to continue with it and made sure my phone# was unlisted.
By the way, I hope he doesn't read this because if he does, you just told him where you were going.
2007-10-21 00:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by jennniferlea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you have to contact your local shelter and they will screen you to see if you "qualify: (i hate that word but thats how they do it)
If you choose to go into your local shelter and explain that you want to relocate they can help link you with social services, housing, etc in Allentown, PA
the idea is that the shelter is a secure and safe haven from a potential abuser, if your abuser isnt local there is no safety concern, therefore you wont be eligible for a DV shelter
call your local hotline and talk about with someone and also talk about having your safety plan ready for when or if you leave
Good Luck :)
2007-10-24 22:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by bells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can probably go anywhere and find a shelter but here is a link where you can get more information. Good for you for leaving an abuser but you may want to see an attorney first for help with questions about visitation, child support, and a divorce before you leave. Good Luck to you!!
2007-10-21 00:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to move to another state? YOu can have papers served to him and keep him away from you. He can travel to another state as well as you can. Stand your ground and stand strong against him. Dont be afraid to call the police EVERY TIME he disrupts your life.
2007-10-21 00:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bill P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can find a shelter in any area and go there. You have a right to be safe.
2007-10-21 00:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋