While we are going through a divorce and its far from over, my husband is busy hunting for gals on every matrimonial and dating sites. And guess what ? He lies about being divorced, living in a lavish out (where i live and he is out), talks about his lovign dog (who has been with me for 2 years and he cares a damn about) and uses all the pictures on these sites that I took of him with my baby dog.
I am mad . GGRRRRRR.
should i worry about him cheating other innocent females with his lies ? what should i do ??
2007-10-20 18:02:30 · 24 answers · asked by Romi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL he's doing the cute dog thing...to 'lure' girls.....
If you are getting divorced then its none of your business.
Dont worry about 'other innocent females' ............just worry about yourself.
2007-10-20 19:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be mad cause your going threw a divorce and that hurts. He maybe going on these sites as a way of drawing his pain of the divorce. I would say that is a common trend that men move on way ahead of the process legally The divorce may not be final legally but is spiritually and emotionally for him.
He should say he is separated and be honest, and for his sake he should let some more time go before getting married. However that is easy to say and hard advice to follow when your lonely.
I know your hurting just remember your anger is about the loss more than his actions. I think much of what he is doing will hurt him and not serve him well, he may find life was better with you. I would continue to be the best of who you are and be positive to him. It is like a teenager the more you tell them no the more they do it. If you just see mid life is like second adolescence for men. I sorry for you loss. I have to say your story sounds like my own, I was in your husband shoes two years ago.
I have to say I feel sorry for the pain I caused my family too. I can't get that message across to them and maybe that take years too. I hope I can say a word of encuragment to you in this time. He did love you at one time, be that love still as a friend and begin your healing.
God Bless you
2007-10-20 18:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what he does but concentrate on the divorce to get rid of him. you can perhaps contact some of those sites and inform them that he is still married but then he may do something to delay the divorce so it is probably better to just get the divorce and document the sites you see where he has done that in case you need it during the course of the divorce. you might be able to get your attorney to add that you get all pictures taken during the marriage and if he lets you do that, you can have your revenge after the divorce by having the pictures taken off the internet as fast as he puts them on. Just be glad that he is out of your life for now.
2007-10-20 18:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried about what he does? It sounds like he's emotionally divorced already ... and you aren't. In some ways he's further along in "emotional" work of going through a divorce than you are. Sorry to be harsh dear . . .but that's the way it is.
2007-10-20 19:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Skully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time when you have to take a deep breath and say "I am better than this".
Are the things you've seen online infuriating? HECK YES! But as far as it being "your duty" to save these other women, no- by no stretch is it your job. Quite obviously he doesn't have a whole lot to offer so hopefully the women "worth" saving will figure that one out pretty quickly and the dumb ones out there will be a match in heaven for this loser.
As cliche' as this might be, my mother once told me "The best revenge is to live a happy healthy successful life."
SO- I wish you all the luck and success in the world. And may your life be much better without this jerk in it!! =D
2007-10-21 00:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, most women know that men are lying on these sites. Even when they don't lie and say they are still married there are hoochies that will hook up with them. Don't waste your time worrying. If you are getting divorced, take care of your self, and find happiness. Don't let him drag you into this crap.
2007-10-20 18:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're divorcing him, why should you care? They'll find out soon enough. What's far from over? A few months?
2007-10-20 19:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad that you are working on freeing yourself from him. Period.
There is virtually nothing that you could do to stop him from lying to these people - and they'll figure it out sooner than later. After all, YOU did.
2007-10-20 18:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by banana6464 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're already going your own separate ways, let him face the consequences of his own actions, and don't waste your energy.
Anybody that would fall for him isn't innocent, so don't worry about protecting them.
And hey, if the photos really bug you, provided you are the photographer, you can sue him for the use of your copyrighted or intellectual property.
2007-10-20 18:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by David F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its his loss really. I mean if he wants to spend his life as a liar let him take that path. Things have a way of coming back to you when you awful things to people.
2007-10-20 19:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by Iamscaredformylife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋