here is a question to all married guys / those in committed relationships...
What would you say if your wife told you that she is bisexual and that she wants to have an open relationship -- but only for herself, to experiment with women (he does not get to sleep around, only she does).
guys would you feel jealous and cheated on if your wife was with another woman, but it was just sex, and she came back to you at the end of the night??
2007-10-20 17:40:52 · 17 answers · asked by kallista 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
p.s. I am the wife in this situation! I am just wanting to explore my bisexual side, not date or have a "relationship" per se just sex with a woman!
2007-10-20 17:52:05 · update #1
If he can not join in, he wont be happy. Maybe the only solution for most men, if they're not invited in on the fun, is to video tape the affair, or take pics, so he can also enjoy!
2007-10-20 20:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by gemini6187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair of you to ask your husband to wait around while you sleep with other people and figure out your sexuality. That's something you should have done before you got married and if it didn't occur to you until now, then be fair and ask for a break from the relationship. If he still wants to be with you after you've explored women, then great. But it's SO unfair to ask him to not sleep around when you are.
What if your husband was screwing around with asian women and just wanted to explore his asian fetish...would you be okay with it being 'just sex, and he came back to you at the end of the night'?
2007-10-22 12:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ladies, it is possible :)
I have a deal worked out with mine. He watches, no touching or being involved in any way. We just ignore him and have fun. Most guys would love the show. Many men have fantasies of seeing 2 women together. I'm not saying all, depends on how much of a prude he is. Just tell him you find yourself wanting to explore another woman. He may have you bring her over that night! ;)
Good luck!
;)
2007-10-21 01:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by ivy_trick_mess 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I actually just heard about my ex-boyfriend's wife doing this to him. It's so wrong. Cheating is cheating. If you want to swing, then he should be able to have his fun too. You can't go ahead and have sexual relations with a woman and then expect him to think it's alright. Watch porn and do your thing, but don't cheat.
2007-10-21 00:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by sun day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets put the shoe on the other foot, how would you feel if hubby said to you he wants to have sex with another man it's just sex but he does not want you to have a relationship with anyone else? it is wrong, it makes a man feel that he is not man enough to satisfy his wife and that is a self esteem issue.
2007-10-21 03:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Brian C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IT would be cheating.....if she came back to me at the end of the night, the locks would be changed and her stuff would be on the front lawn. If she wants to munch a carpet she should get a divorce first. After the divorce, I would still want to watch though.
2007-10-21 00:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bobo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds unfair. I know how your wife feels though, I kinda am the same way, but I would never do that to my husband
2007-10-21 00:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not a guy, but it is my belief that anyone not satisfied with their partner (anyone who feels the need to cheat) shouldn't be in the relationship.
2007-10-21 00:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by nobody's angel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I'll be mad at the fact that she cheated period. But I'll also be relieved & turned on to the fact that it was with woman.
2007-10-21 00:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by ill_state00 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what happens, what the situation is or what happens after, the marriage is over concerning infidelity
2007-10-21 00:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by acortezrojas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋