Marriage & Divorce - 19 October 2007

well here it goes again!! i am home with the kids on a friday night and my husband went out to have a beer. well my question is why is this always my responsibility to have the kids? don't get me wrong i love being here with them but it just bothers me that he can just up and do this kind of thing. he loves going out to have a few beers with his friends!!! i resent the *ell out of it!! there is a problem and i want to hear from you! tell me what u think about this.

2007-10-19 13:02:27 · 18 answers · asked by sunshine 3

I am with my husband now for 21yrs but still cannot get my first love out of my mind. He left me when i went away for school for my best friend we never did it or anything just heavy petting but I still feel like if i was to see him today I will proberly have an affair with him and i sometimes find myself dreaming of making love to him. What is wrong with me helppppppp?

2007-10-19 13:01:14 · 9 answers · asked by vislander35 1

i need to register as soon as possible, due to my family situation.

2007-10-19 12:58:41 · 2 answers · asked by Mhac D 1

I am desperatley trying to save my marriage! My wife is bipolar and her mother has convinced her to divorce me. I know that we can work through this. She is unable to take her medication as she is pregnant. We have a beautiful daughter as well. The problem is, we are to go to court next week (Austin, TX). I cannot pay $5000 which is the fee for representation. I may have to represent myself in which I risk losing my family. My preference is marriage counseling and/or mediation. What can I do to prevent losing my girls and wonderful wife?? I've emailed pro-bono, legal-aid, church & pastors, etc. No responses yet. Help!!

2007-10-19 12:58:03 · 2 answers · asked by cjsimmons269 1

I have been married for four years. me and my husband we had a lot of problems that we couldnt resolve but none of us wanted the divorce. two months ago I found out he is cheating on me. He refused to leave the other woman and to try together again with counceling and all what will take to work the marriage, his excuse was that he knows I will never be able to forgive him. Right now we decided for the divorce as soon as he is baCk in the US. With all our problems in the marriage , I always felt alone and living as single since my husband was away for school most of the year. Since the separation i m thinking about getting back in the game and see if i can meet someone. I know i m not ready for a relationship but will it be bad if i date someone and then see what will happen?

2007-10-19 12:52:14 · 20 answers · asked by babe 1

Is it okay to share things with your partner e.g. how was work and asking questions like why you don't you do something about work. Here is example of his behaviour one day he asked me that he want me to do his work all the time and I was happy to help but when I ask a question relating his homework , he shouts and blames me. He shouts all the time and blames me so I just want to know if this is normal...You know whats funny that he sayz that he not himself so i just need to igornore him and if I dont like it I can find someone else so How does that works gayz...

2007-10-19 12:48:52 · 13 answers · asked by Rani 25 2

2007-10-19 12:36:00 · 12 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

Generally, some of the happiest partners are the ones that have a great, healthy sex life. Just don't mean the act of penetration. It's the overall connection they develop through great communication, intimacy, and openness.

I also believe if we make passion and intimacy a habit, make time for it even in the busiest of times, and the do the best we can even if we had like 10 minutes... Just a little romance can go a long way. Something done to surprise her...... something intense and spontaneous.... even something very playful.

What's your thoughts on how we can make passion an integral part of our lives??

2007-10-19 12:32:18 · 10 answers · asked by this_big_one_is_4u 3

and i liked it....i had always had a thing for him, and i've been with hime twice already, and he wants me to leave my husband for him, but i think i love my husband more, his friend just makes me feel good, but i think im falling in love with him now...what should i do?

2007-10-19 12:29:05 · 29 answers · asked by Mimi 1

she treats me very well and I have no real complaints

2007-10-19 12:21:22 · 9 answers · asked by grasonr692000 1

He is being such an a**hole! I have pneumonia and since having a weird episode on thursday the doctor has told me to rest not to cook, clean or chase my kid around. Anyway my husband has been useless in helping me which I expected because he is extremely busy with important stuff right now BUT last night he got home at 8pm and smelled like beer, he said he had been drinking for half an hour only, i asked him to clean the kitchen so I can cook (since he wont cook anyway) and I was starving, he said in a few minutes and an hour and a half later it still wasn't done so we ended up having takeaway at 10pm. I asked him to clean it before he went to bed and he didnt, he stayed up til 2.30am working on his lap top and at 6.30 our daughter woke up, I told him I am not getting up on my own because he wanted to sleep in, so he called me a b*tch and slammed the door. I am so annoyed, am I wrong to be annoyed? I know we are both under pressure, me with my sickness and him with his studying...

2007-10-19 12:06:54 · 17 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6

2007-10-19 11:52:22 · 35 answers · asked by ? 3

My hubbie is about to go into hospital for a double heart bypass, he has been married before and two of his stepkids still live with their mum. She will not let them visit him as it is too far to travel on the coach(they are 15 and 17) but I want them to see him beofre his operation. What I want to know is, would it be out of order of me to send her a letter explaining all this. We have the youngest child (12) living with us and my hubbie is not allowed to drive so we cannot drive to take her to visit her mum and bring the others back. Advice please

2007-10-19 11:48:32 · 11 answers · asked by dixidan_2000 5

She left him in a financial mess. i lent him some money. He was struggling to pay it back. He agreed to be spanked in return for the money. It honestly wasn't anything sexual it was because i could.

2007-10-19 11:48:23 · 13 answers · asked by Billy Hughes 1

Or when do you feel that you are in love? And when do you feel that you are out of love? Some times loves comes and goes are you supposed to feel love all day?Or the thought of it sometimes causes pain? Are these things that we all feel when we are in love? But most important when do you know that the other person loves you back? Are they supposed to tell you all day? Or show you? Or does this whole concept even have a reality?

2007-10-19 11:42:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-19 11:42:02 · 13 answers · asked by ashlaaaymarie 1

So we just broke up, but we still like eachother and tonight she is going to a dance where she could possibly grind with other people and maybe even more, i was supposed to go, but now i can't so her and i won't dance togethor, so what do i do if she does something with another guy? do i forgive her or leave her?

2007-10-19 11:39:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ive been married to her indoors for 6 years and though she is no angel she cooks,cleans,does errands and all the other normal women stuff like picking up the kids picking up beer for when its raining cutting the grass etc.I do love her..but she has this one really annoying habit of nagging me of my one slip up(I had a thing with her mate) all she does is say things like where have you been or whats that on your collar.yak.yak.yak come to think of it she has always been that way even when me and her sister were at it like rabbits and she never knew..she nagged anyway..she says once a cheater always a cheater Im so fed up with it I just might as well move in with the little minx out of accounts Ive been having sex with at lunch break..why do they make us do these things? Im not proud of what Ive done but feel I am given no choice as Im starved of affection and am dismayed at how easily it is to get it on with any women and they have the nerve to say all men are b'stards

2007-10-19 10:48:12 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been married for 5 years. We have had a lot of plroblems in our marriage, and i feel unloved an appriciated a lot.

Our new neighbors introduced themselves to me while my husband was at work, a few weeks ago. Their marraige is pretty much the same as ours. The husband feels neglected and unloved alot. Him and i talked for hours last week, and we have a lot in common. I feel like we really connected. I even get butterflies in my stomach around him, like a little girl with a crush. He even admitted that he wished we would have meet before any of us got married.

I am starting to have feelings for this man, and he is having feelings for me as well. Both of our spouses work out of town, and him and i are home at the same time. We hang out alot and watch movies. I feel so comfortable with him. But i feel guilty that we have feelings for eachother.

What do i do? Do i stop being friends with him, confront my feelings, tell my husband, or what? I am serious...

2007-10-19 10:45:22 · 32 answers · asked by mom 1

If my husband said that he was going to Denver after his ex becasue she has suddenly decided she wants to be a mother to the 2 kids I have raised for the past 5 years, without asking what I feel, do you think I should be upset? I know she was a meth head and she is pg with another man's baby but I can't help feeling upset that he would spend our time and money to go after her when I seriously don't think she will stick around anyhow. She has never contributed a dime to these kids for support, never sent a birthday or Christmas present or has not been consistent in calling them.She has pulled this several times over the years, she came home, his family loaded her up with money, he gave her a car and each time it was back to where she came from. I am tired of seeing these kids hope only to be hurt. And dad having such hope for her to be a mother to them when I see these things. Do you think one more chance will be the lucky one? Oh, in all fairness she is in treatment until Decembe

2007-10-19 10:38:48 · 13 answers · asked by LaRae 2

2007-10-19 10:29:35 · 45 answers · asked by cha_parralinda 1

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2007-10-19 10:24:05 · 16 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6

My best friend is a newlywed. She and her husband are very happy. However, my friend has told me that she had a secret hobby that she does not tell her husband about, and it is somewhat of a sexual nature. She writes and posts online erotic stories, on an erotica site. She does not contact other readers or authors, or so she says. And she doubts her husband would be upset if she did tell him. She just enjoys keeping it to herself. She didn't tell me which site she uses or what her user name is...because she said she wouldn't feel comfortable having someone close to her read her stories. I am not sure if she should be keeping secrets so early in the marriage. Is this harmless, as she says it is? Or, is it wrong?
Thx!

2007-10-19 10:20:41 · 19 answers · asked by ~Brenda~ 4

Do you keep it after you get married or only before?

2007-10-19 10:18:14 · 4 answers · asked by Surfer J 1

And if you think about it howmay of those 49% of married couples cheat on eachother or have open affairs? I'm engaged to get married to a wonderful man. He treats me perfect and is so much in love with me. He always takes my insucurities and feelings in consideration before doing things. And he is at home every night and works hard to provide for me and my child. But he has a past of being a womanizer and sleeping around before we were together. I know he has done me right cause he is at home every night and never does things I don't feel comfortable with him doing. I'm just worried cause people change people fall in and out of love through out relationships. There's temptation and down the road I'm scared of him cheating when were 30, 40, or 50. I don't beleive in affairs and I don't think I could be in a marriage with someone who cheated on me. Doe's it always happen at least once in everyones marriage? Is it something you accept with marriage. People change I'm scared!

2007-10-19 09:58:11 · 17 answers · asked by Lisa 1

I've been married for 4yrs and my husband and i have sex MAYBE one time per month. Also, when we do have it, he has premature ejaculation.So, it is hell for me.I've given up always looking for him sexually, he always denies me and it hurts me so much and tells me "no"because he's stressed out or tired (which is always). So I don't look for him anymore, i just wait when he wants (which is almost never). We had many fights over this,i asked him in many ways how and why is like this. He hates the topic so we haven't spoken about it since. I'm sexually frustated.Also, i'm starting to pay more attention to men interested in me. Since for my husband, i am invisible or made of wood. I want my marriage to work, but i'm also considering divorcing him because of this. I am not happy. It is not only sex, but i feel whatever i do,i am invisible for him. He is cold, he doesn't talk to me. We can be in the same room and say nothing. I try talking to him but he either nods or yes/no answer. (Sigh)

2007-10-19 09:55:04 · 24 answers · asked by Magia 1

I was with this guy for five years. He proposed to me about a year ago.

During the first year of our relationship, I was the only one with a job and I paid for the rent, groceries, everything. It was my idea for us to move in together, and he said he wasn't ready to leave his mom's and make it on his own. I said ok, he didn't have to pay for anything until he's ready. We were 19 at the time.

About a year into our relationship, my dad told me that he wanted me to earn a college degree and that he would financially support me while I attended school full time. I agreed, and then told my boyfriend it's time for him to start chipping in for half of everything. He was very upset, saying I never should have asked him to move in with me in the first place when he wasn't ready to move out of his mom's. (But it seems to me that he got out of there because he didn't like living there anymore.) I just let it go at the time.

He has a decent job now, and I'm in my last year of school. But

2007-10-19 09:50:47 · 9 answers · asked by questionable 2

Husband is always acting negative and being mean to me. I was told I should act like I do care about him anymore and he will start acting right what do you think? Please serious answers only

2007-10-19 09:44:08 · 19 answers · asked by LivingMyLife 5

My 3 children and I live in Missouri. I recently remarried. My new spouse is in the military and has gotten orders that require us to move to North Carolina. My ex-husband knew this was a possibility and he agreed to this when we divorced, signed the papers and it is filed with the court and everything. we even have an alternate visitation schedule for out-of-state moves. Now it is time for us to move and he is saying no, I can't move with the kids. What do I need to do? Can I still give him the proper notice and move because it is already ordered in my divorce decree or will I get in trouble for doing so?

2007-10-19 09:38:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a predicament...

I'm 21 years old and still in college. I got married when I was very young (~19) to a man that I still care about and have feelings for... We met in High School. He was my first and I was his.

The problem is, I don't think I'm IN love with him anymore. He's a different guy from when I first met him. Now that we're living together and married for almost two years his "other" side is starting to come out and I don't like it. His unbelievably short temper, demoralizing remarks and laziness are starting to get to me. I've had enough of being the only one putting an effort into the relationship and I've expressed my concerns numerous times only to be told that "That's the way he is" or "I should help him change". Unfortunately, he doesn't WANT to change and it's frustrating as hell. I used to be a happy person, but now I'm filled with anxiety, I'm depressed all the time, and worst of all, I feel guilty for it. (cont.)

2007-10-19 09:33:35 · 24 answers · asked by Mrs. Mustang 4