well here it goes again!! i am home with the kids on a friday night and my husband went out to have a beer. well my question is why is this always my responsibility to have the kids? don't get me wrong i love being here with them but it just bothers me that he can just up and do this kind of thing. he loves going out to have a few beers with his friends!!! i resent the *ell out of it!! there is a problem and i want to hear from you! tell me what u think about this.
2007-10-19 13:02:27 · 18 answers · asked by sunshine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to set up a baby sitter or let them stay over night with your mom. Set something up ahead of time and don't let your husband know about it. Go out with your friends and see how he likes it,give him a taste of his own medicine. People are telling you to talk to your husband,I guess they think you haven't thought about doing that. He knows how you feel about him going out he knows you don't like it. He doesn't care after all what are you going to do about it, nothing that's what and he is counting on it. That's why you need to show him you are not going to just sit around and take his s h i t like you been doing, you have had enough it's time to do one or two things here, One you tell him if you can't go with him then he stays home with you or two you get a sitter and go out with your friends on your own. Don't sit back and take it because the longer it goes on the worse it will get. The worse thing a wife can do is let her husband keep going out to the bars without her because sooner or later he will start cheating on you,that's why most guys go to the bars without theirs wives with them. Yes, even your husband is capable of cheating on you. I'm sure you been to a bar, how do the guys act towards you or any girl that comes in the bar. Well that guy most likely has a wife and kids at home but you would never know it from the way he is acting. Remember the man you married and think you know isn't the same man when he is out in a bar drinking with his friends.
2007-10-19 16:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he does this every Friday night, you need to put your foot down and let him know how you feel, also tell him if he's going to go out with the boys for beers on Fri. nights, tell him that your going to go shopping with your friends on Sat, and he gets the kids. That or have a girls night out on Sat. nights. It's not right that he neglects you and the kids. You and the kids should come before his friends.
Hope that this helps.
2007-10-19 13:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband, be honest about your feelings with him, tell him that you love him and the kids very much however you need his attention to. you are not alone there are alot of husbands who do this and at one time I was one of them, however my wife felt left out and after she told me how much she loved to be around me I started taking her with getting a sitter and we started to date in a way, now I stay home with my family and at times our friends come over for a beer. just be honest and tell him your true feelings. I think he is wrong and you and the chilren should be the most important thing in his life. that's just my opinion.
2007-10-19 16:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by mab 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He goes out for a beer Friday night, you go out with your girlfriend's Saturday night. Compromise.
2007-10-19 13:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I will agree with Simply Lo. Stop getting mad and think of a way to have your down time too. Just be ready to hear his mouth. Men like to do what they want to do and have you home with the kids.
2007-10-19 13:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a baby sitter and the two of you go out for a beer.
2007-10-19 13:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think u need to come to my house leave the kids w/my husband and urs and lets go get some tequila and shoot some pool... lol Im in the same boat...
2007-10-19 13:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by momof3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to consider several possibilities...
Is he an alcoholic? If so, go to an al-anon meeting. If not, you need to stand up for yourself. Get out of the house and go out with you friends.
Good luck.
2007-10-19 13:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alternate Fridays with him, you go out with your friends one friday then he gets the next....its that simple. Instead of being all resentful and bitter do something about it , tell him what you need.
2007-10-19 13:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't tolerate that out of my husband....You deserve time away from the kids just as much if not more...your are married to a selfish bastard in my opinion....
2007-10-19 13:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋