My husband is very negative about everything what should I do about it?

Question

Husband is always acting negative and being mean to me. I was told I should act like I do care about him anymore and he will start acting right what do you think? Please serious answers only

Answer 1

I would stay as positive as you could. Show him from example, like someone else suggested. But definitely get both of you in counseling. Your spouse needs to know how this is affecting you and to learn new ways of thinking. He's obviously learned this behavior, and needs to see it's not something you are able to take much longer. And even if you decide to stay married no matter what his attitude, he has to realize he will have a much happier life with a happier wife. And he won't get that with the way things are. Good luck. I've been there too.

Answer 2

Negative behavior can be quite unintentional and very habitual. He needs to learn how to practice positive thinking a little bit at a time, day by day. And there is nothing you can do to bring about this change unless he decides he wants to be more positive.

What could motivate him to want to be more positive? Check out some self help books like The Power of Positive Thinking (forgot the author) and see if you get any ideas.

Sometimes we lead by example. Perhaps you could display positive behavior in a way that inspires him to try to see things the way you do.

Answer 3

I honestly think that if you stop responding to his negative comments then eventually he will stop making them. Men like that are like bullies on the playground. As long as they can get a reaction out of you, they will continue to bother you. The next time he gives you a negative comment, look at him with the blankest face you can muster up and walk away with saying a word. The key is to show no emotion. Act as if nothing was said.

Answer 4

My husband gets hypercritical sometimes where everything and anything he has something negative to comment on, ie the weather, the traffic, the lack of soda in the fridge, ahhhh! Drives me nuts when he gets in those moods, but it's usually when he's stressed out or depressed about something. Gently reminding him to try to be more positive usually works and he makes an effot to not gloom himself and everyone else in this house! That works for me, but I'm not sure what will work for you.

Answer 5

No one here can answer the question because you need to know why he acts the way he acts. You have to talk to him and do it in a constructive way...staying calm...letting him know you DO care about making the marriage better. Tell him all the things you do love, but that you think things could be better. There is no "trick" to this. You have to talk and make commitments.

Answer 6

You start acting like you don't care about him expecting him to change won't help the situation at all. It will probably make it worse. You can't make him change, only he can make the decision to change. Suggest counseling to him. If he declines, then unless you want to stay unhappy, move out, move on and move up.

Answer 7

alot of people act in this manner is because you always accomplish what you do and instead of giving you "you did a wonderful job/thing, etc" these half empty glass people are always finding negative things to say - it's just simply jealousy and it's sad because it's your husband. keep doing what your are doing if it makes you happy then keep it moving - good luck to you

Answer 8

I had one of those...he brought me down to such a bad attitude everyday because of his bad attitude...

Yeah I finally divorced him..I look back and realized how miserable I was because of being around such bad and negative energy and vibes on a daily basis.

Answer 9

Even if you don't shower him with attention, that is no reason for him to be negative and mean to you about everything.

Answer 10

Wow, are you sure you didn't marry my ex husband? Just kidding! I would ignore him and do well for yourself...prove him wrong. Like they say, the best revenge is living well.