Ive been married to her indoors for 6 years and though she is no angel she cooks,cleans,does errands and all the other normal women stuff like picking up the kids picking up beer for when its raining cutting the grass etc.I do love her..but she has this one really annoying habit of nagging me of my one slip up(I had a thing with her mate) all she does is say things like where have you been or whats that on your collar.yak.yak.yak come to think of it she has always been that way even when me and her sister were at it like rabbits and she never knew..she nagged anyway..she says once a cheater always a cheater Im so fed up with it I just might as well move in with the little minx out of accounts Ive been having sex with at lunch break..why do they make us do these things? Im not proud of what Ive done but feel I am given no choice as Im starved of affection and am dismayed at how easily it is to get it on with any women and they have the nerve to say all men are b'stards
2007-10-19 10:48:12 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ive taken the advice of some of you repliants and have come clean and admitted all...she has threatened suicide and has left to stay at her mothers for a while...then her sister has been in touch to offer comfort ..I thought it was just a quickie but am thinking of asking her to stay until my wife calms down what do you think especially as they are very close?
2007-10-19 11:59:40 · update #1
I declare you the "Official Jacka**" of Yahoo answers. You actually expect pity from us? I wish she would leave you, nitwit!!!
2007-10-19 10:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by CBS Network fan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, we're happiest when we don't know men. OR other women for that matter. But seriously, u should give her something to be happy about. OK, she nags, but u shouldn't sleep around! Especially with her sis and mate! WTF! U should talk to her. U don't love her, u seem like u tolerate her and are happy that u can cheat and she'll still be with u. ITs not easy to trust someone once they're wronged u...especially in that way. I think she might take her marriage vow seriously, and since u pooed all over it, that hurts. She's trying to get the hurt out...and she doesn't trust u...so she wants u to prove ur trust and love to her. But u won't...she probably thinks u'll go out and F again. From what u say here, it seems like u just might, and blame it on her since she's always think'in u cheated anyway. Cut her some slack. Be home on time for a while, make sure ur all clean, take her out, pamper her, show her affection...and next time u've got a problem, TALK to HER, don't stick it who ever it'll fit! u wouldn't like it if she slept around on u right? U'd feel hurt, betrayed and all sort s of stuff right? U'd wished she would've talked to u right? Y not give her the same consideration? Empathize with her. I commend her for sticking w/u even though u cheated on her! That's not easy for a woman to do...especially since typically after marriage, a woman is all alone to face her problems(unless her man helps her).
2007-10-19 11:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have issues. You need to be single again and stay out of the married life. You can't be trusted and your wife has every reason in the world to nag you about what you are doing. Once you lose the trust of your spouse you lose your privacy until the trust is restored which could take a long time. But it doesn't even sound like you want to be with your wife, if you did you wouldn't be screwing these other women and possible bringing something home to your wife. Its also not fair to your kids. You really need to rethink what you are doing. Its men like you that give all other men a bad name plain and simple. You choose to do this your wife is not making you do anything. Its a cop out to blame your wife for your infidelity and you should really be ashamed of yourself.
2007-10-19 10:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by BreakingHeart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is bitter. It takes women longer I think to gain that trust back for the guy. It's good of you to not be proud of what you've done. But if you are still doing it, you have issues you need to work through before you can expect her to ever be happy with you.
It is true however that women tend to nag and that's because we like things to be organized and feel like we are in control of all the little things since the guy covers all the big things usually. It's something you have to see if she is willing to work on or not. If you can't handle it ever, then she doesn't have much room to improve. She has to want to be better too though.. It's just part of a partnership. Good luck!
2007-10-19 10:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by In over my head 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is NEVER a good excuse to cheat, she probably nags you becuase she knows something's up, you have alot of nerve to go behind her back like that, and you wonder why shes not happy, if you dont feel anything for her or feel that shes just to annoying for you, then all you had to do was break it off instead of cheating behind her back. no wonder single women are more happier.
and she is right, Once a cheater always cheater, pat yourself on the back for being like the other manwhores
2007-10-19 11:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is spiralling down.
Trust is something earnt; you haven't been doing your part and her nagging is a way of saying she doesn't have it with you.
Stop the affairs and the nagging should stop.
If you feel that you're starved of affection, be open with her and tell her that directly in a sensitive way. Try not to let the nagging get to you whilst you're at it - the fist step is hard.
2007-10-19 10:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a wife who cooks, cleans, cuts grass, buy beer , takes care of the kids. You sleep with her sister and a work mate at lunch and then you wonder why she is upset and nags you? HMMMM? WhY is this woman unhappy?
Did you think this would make her happy?
2007-10-19 10:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and I am HAPPY!!! Of course my man doesn't cheat on me with my sister, his co-workers and my friends. Did you ever stop to think that maybe she "nags" b/c she has reason to? Maybe if you were loyal and a decent husband your wife would be happy. Oh and I don't have to cut the grass either b/c where I'm from that's not "women stuff". Oh, and if you loved her you wouldn't cheat on her. You are a MORON! Have a nice day :)
2007-10-19 10:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by h&t_oct282007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is a REALLY bizarre idea. Why don't you give her something to be happy about!
Think about it, she runs errands for you all day....wow, what a life she leads, huh? Is anyone else suprised as this guy is she isn't happy?
You cheated on her and now she doesn't trust you and YOU are mad? LOL! you have some nerve. You cheated, live with the consequences.
2007-10-19 10:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Bill S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well atm i aint that happy with my fella (well ya can read it on ma profile cause ive posted it as a question cause i need advice) but at the start i was cause i was thinking yeah hes the one cause he knew how 2 treat me and even my parents liked him.... but im only 18 ive got plenty more time to settle down but im just fed up of getting with lads a feel sometimes am getting used but ahhh well there all idiots :) xx
2016-05-23 20:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i understand you on he nagging stuff 100% a lot of times i feel that I'm no longer good enough for my wife. But it isn't a good idea t cheat because it just makes things worse.....and gives them ammo in court should they catch you. I feel frustrated but all you can do is wait to see how things turn out. If you get to the point where its too much just get out of there.
2007-10-19 10:56:18 · answer #11 · answered by Mr Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋