Marriage & Divorce - 28 September 2007

I am 21 and my husband is 25, our son is three. We dont like leaving our son with anyone and plus we dont have any relatives or friends near us since we moved far from them. We live in Long Island, NY. We dont really have any spending money put would love to do something everyday instead of being home all day doing nothing. I am a stay at home mom and he gets home at about 3pm so we have the whole day to spend. Does anybody have any ideas on how we can all do things that doesnt include wasting money put that includes something we can all enjoy. If anyone has any suggestions on great places in Long Island please let me know.

2007-09-28 04:51:52 · 14 answers · asked by babinalinda 1

Me and my husband have been together for a long time, we have lived together for about 4 yrs and just got married this past June.
He usually goes down on me before so I can climax but I rarely return the favor. I don't feel that comfortable about it and I am not sure if he is that into it. He never asks me to do it for him, does he just not ask me because he knows I don't really like it? Does EVERY guy love that, or just some are more into it? Could he really not like it or just doesn't feel he needs it.

2007-09-28 04:48:35 · 41 answers · asked by It's a girl due 5/11/09 4

My wife and I have been married for 10 years, together for 12. Recently, she has been distant and unemotional. She has been confrontational at the drop of a hat and rarely speaks.

Our lives have been extremely stress filled in the last 12 months. Our neice and her young child had moved in for a year. (recently moved out), I lost my job in December (denied unemployment, out of work for 4 months) and took a job making less than expected.
We don't live extravegantly, but we are comfortable. Like most, we live paycheck to paycheck (especially now) and she told me two days ago that she can continue to live like this.
We have three wonderful children under 8 that mean everything to me. She means everything to me. I have recently gone back to school to get my degree and "do what is best for the family" I made some bad decisions in our past financally & careerwise, How can I get here to stop looking at the negatives and focus on what is right and that I am doing what is best for us. !

2007-09-28 04:47:03 · 19 answers · asked by Fantasy Champ 1

I would like my wife to attend parent/teacher conferences with me for my child who she is very close to.The problem is my exwife(mom) who DOES NOT want my wife to go "as she is not my sons mother".Can my ex "legally" keep my wife from going if i want her there?I have joint custody with my exwife and the only reason my ex does not want her there is bitterness and control issue.if this goes to court what will the judge say?

2007-09-28 04:44:28 · 27 answers · asked by Bob F 1

My husband is abusive emotionally and physically to my children and I. Today he was sleeping and my 2 year old got on the bed and he kicked him off so hard that he hit the wall and has a bump on his head and got a bloody nose. Before you look down on me, it's not that I don't want to leave him, but I'm so afraid. My husband supports me totally. I have no job, no money, no car, no friends, I just have him. He puts me down so much as a wife and mother that I sometimes wonder if he's right for staying and letting my kids live like this. I just don't know where to start. I know if I don't leave he's gonna hurt someone badly and I don't want it to be my children. I don't know why I'm so afraid to be without him. How do you get over that? I know its best for my kids, but I'm still scared. My biggest fear is that he'll get joint custody and I won't be here to protect them. If I stay I know he'll never be alone with them.

2007-09-28 04:42:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am truly happily married but can't get my mind off a guy who I know and see very little of, but so attracted to. He is married as well. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to know he feels the same way about me. I know its wrong and wouldn't ever go there with him, but there is a small part of me that would love to. This has been going on for almost a year. Thought I was over this fantasy but its come back WHYYYYYYYY? My husband is everything I want and more, I love him so very much, but he's not him.

2007-09-28 04:37:42 · 24 answers · asked by Maria 5

I was 17 and my husband 19 when we got married. We've made it through some rough times and are still together. Latelly though I feel that we are growing apart. We've been married for more than ten years and and have children together. He's a great guy and I love him but he never wants to do anything different and I feel like we're in a rut. I wonder how many people last a life time together when they were each others first.

2007-09-28 04:36:08 · 34 answers · asked by cindy 2

with me ever since. She even told me day before her wedding if i wanted her she wouldnt go through the marriage. Now she trying to sleep with me hard, but ive been married one year now. Its tempting because my wife has been in a foreign country the last months. However, given the time my x has been trying to get me back i dont think she would accept its just for the sex. What should i do?

2007-09-28 04:29:16 · 8 answers · asked by lee l 1

or will feelings attraction is happening n going to the next level of good friends n then, as lovers?

2007-09-28 04:22:11 · 13 answers · asked by candie 4

If you do hate divorce...why do you?

2007-09-28 04:11:20 · 17 answers · asked by BLI 5

They have a 4 years old son and they live in two different countries. They both love him and want him. If you were this child, who would you prefer to be with? Or do you know any story like this? Father or mother?

2007-09-28 04:07:46 · 16 answers · asked by ilke 3

I have 50/50 custody and last night she actually spoke to me for the first time in about a year. Our daughter is not in school yet but will start soon and 50/50 will not work at that time. So, since I had her on the phone, and since this is a once a year opportunity because she does not speak to me, I decided to ask her if she would like to come to some sort of agreement rather than let the custody situation drag on and cost us both more money. As usual, she beat around the bush and did not address any of the important issues relating to custody of our daughter and instead told me that she thinks I am dangerous and I cannot be trusted with my daughter. I think that she is setting the stage for some kind of accusation, perhaps that I am abusive to my daughter in some way, but I don’t see how such an allegation could hold merit. She never speaks to me and we have not had a conversation in over two years about anything really.

2007-09-28 03:45:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my wife and I live alone and once in a while my wife will invite her friends over for a movie and snacks it usually around 11:00 pm when they all start to show up(usually all females). Sometimes after the movie she will feel like going shopping for groceries and she takes her friends with her except sometimes not all of them go and one or 2 stay home with me becaus they don't want to go, by this time it is like 12:30 or 1:00 am...this makes me very uncomfortable ...My question is how can i tell her not to leave her friends home alone with me this late without sounding lustful or capable of cheating?

2007-09-28 03:29:41 · 42 answers · asked by Tx Guy 3

Last month at the shoe store, I was surprised by the way a salesman flirted with my wife and the way she reacted to it. She actually seemed comfortable with his flirting and allowed him to hold her foot in his hand for long moments as he helped her try different shoes. At other times he kept his hand on her knees or putting his hand on her waist when she would try the shoes in front of the mirror. My reaction to that is I got immensely aroused and I have not stopped fantasizing about this guy actually making it with my wife. I was really taken aback by my reacion and these images keep playing in my mind. I would like other people to help me understand my reaction. Why would I want this guy to have his way with my wife and successful bed her? It is also worth mentioning that the salesman was really good looking. I am also interested in knowing what goes in a woman's mind in moments like this. Would anything more have happened if I was not around on that day? Would my wife try to go to the store again on her own to try more shoes, and try to meet with the guy in my absence?

2007-09-28 03:27:34 · 15 answers · asked by Rick 1

2007-09-28 03:22:17 · 30 answers · asked by ? 6

Does anyone know how we can find ladies who might be interested?Locally of course. We live in Lake county IN.

2007-09-28 03:20:54 · 25 answers · asked by loki4975 1

i have a cook n a cleaner,but still i cant cope up with the demands of motherhood,it is also straining my relationship wid my husband............my younger daughter is too clingy n doesnt leave me at all.....i feel i have no time for myself at all........this part of the world its difficult to get a nanny or a part time maid at home which wud have given me relief..........also me n my husband disagree wid the idea of leaving our small kids outside wid a babysitter.........i need help in making my small kid independent and less clingy......also help required in planning my time such tat i can spend some quality time wid my husband..................................please help.because of stress me n y husband r alwaz fighting n cursing each othr..........dono wat todo

2007-09-28 03:14:32 · 12 answers · asked by eeta 1

my husband and I have been together for 4. i have a child from a previous relationship (he was a baby, now he's 4 1/2). my husband has a child from a previous relationship and she is now 15. she moved in with us about 2 1/2 yrs ago. we have loads of problems with her. she is promiscuous, talks like a contruction worker, is already failing 3 classes (school started AUG 22). she got left back last yr. but my hubby found a way to get her promoted. no matter what she does there are never any consequenses, however, let the 4 yr. old try to talk back and he's yelled at and punished. yesterday the 15 yr old slapped my 4 yr old in the face because he told her to "shhh". my first reaction is to slap her back but she's not my kid so I went to her father..who did nothing, as always. should i continue to work at this relationship or just move on?

2007-09-28 03:14:26 · 30 answers · asked by Melissa 2

When my husband writes or sends her emails she quickly responds to him? The weird part about it is she was the wife of a pastor and speaks about God/Jesus/being a good Christian. I am confused?

2007-09-28 03:14:03 · 8 answers · asked by Shells 4

what would you do? (considering killing either/both your spouse and/or the person he/she is ******* with is not an option)

2007-09-28 03:05:58 · 26 answers · asked by Moore55 4

wemon are always flirtting with me! how should I take this?Are they coming on to me or are they just teasing me with temtation

2007-09-28 02:57:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

If yes, what type of acts would be done? What setting? Who is in it? (You, a neighbor, your husband/wife, other family members) I am open to all manners of acts, be they regular sex, or more taboo kinks of yours. Please be as descriptive as possible. If I decide I like the story idea I'll write it for you. I can be contacted via my profile if there is additional info that you don't feel comfortable putting up in answers (but please start your answer here, so I have the option of giving you the best answer). There are no limits on the types of acts/fetish/kinks that you can submit. I am interested in hearing what you would like to read about/star in.

2007-09-28 02:56:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

slow, his paycheck really reflects that. When he takes a vacation day, his paycheck is about cut in half. I write the bills and can see that there just isn't enough to go around. I try to just deal with it and not mention it to him, because he gets mean to me. I would love to work, but don't know what to do with my kids. I am a stay at home Mom and there is no after school care or bus service for my children. My kids start at 8a.m. and finish at 2PM. The two oldest are in one outside activity each and the youngest isn't in any activities. I am pretty frugal, yet there just arn't enough funds to go around. I write the bills and try not to mention it to my husband, but I did the other day because he wants to take some vacation days to work around the house. He is being so mean to me. When I say that I will get a job at night, he complains because he would make almost 3 times what I would earn per hour. He works 6:30-5pm and 2 days a week works 2nd job until 10:30 pm. HELP

2007-09-28 02:50:25 · 24 answers · asked by chatter 2

i didnt find out from him i had already fell for him and now im having a hard time getting over him what can i do to get over him

2007-09-28 02:45:33 · 32 answers · asked by "T"Bird 1

if you're married for less than a year, do you still have to get a divorce when things end?
someone told me 'no, you would just go your seperate ways' but that doesn't seem right, because it's been a proper marraige for 8 months, living together and sharing bills and bank accounts..

2007-09-28 02:39:55 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 32 and she is 36. Her clock is ticking. She wants a baby, but I don't. The reason is that I suffer from depression and don't feel stable enough to take on the responsibility.

She is Catholic and doesn't want to use birth control. I "hide" as much as possible. Problem is, I am perfectly fertile (I have a 10 year old from a previous marriage), so I can't hide forever.

I want to get my depression under control before trying to have another baby, but I don't want to deny her life's greatest gift either.

2007-09-28 02:38:17 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-28 02:33:00 · 23 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

Our background in short form we have been together for 2 1/2 years we have an 8 month old baby and we have lived together for about 10 months. He hasn't worked for about 4 out of those 10 months and has been out of work for the last 3 weeks. My credit has ended up messed up and we are pretty far behind on bills. I work full time and take all financial responsibility for our child since he was born. I am also the primary caretaker. He is good to me but he isn't responsible which didn't show until we already had a child so please don't even lecture me on that one. What's done is done.

This morning I unloaded on him. It has been building up in one big ball of resentment and it spilled over the top earlier. I told him that for the last months I have come to the realization that I would probably be better off on my own as I pretty much do it all anyways. I came down on him for not getting ANY job he could get bc every bit helps. I also told him he doesn't even offer...

2007-09-28 02:30:50 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4

and is jealous, bossy ? i know a woman who is , and i told her
to leave him, because it is not healty, there is no future ! he
doesn't have sh! t .... well she will not listen... what do you
think ?

2007-09-28 02:29:27 · 39 answers · asked by rodriguez m 3

I recently asked a question about sex andsome one called "BeVeryCareful" responded claiming that her husband bangs her for 5-6 straight every night. When I politely doubted these claims, she sent me this crazy e-mail about how hey use X every night to last that long? I think she is full of sh it? What do you think?

2007-09-28 02:23:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous