Last month at the shoe store, I was surprised by the way a salesman flirted with my wife and the way she reacted to it. She actually seemed comfortable with his flirting and allowed him to hold her foot in his hand for long moments as he helped her try different shoes. At other times he kept his hand on her knees or putting his hand on her waist when she would try the shoes in front of the mirror. My reaction to that is I got immensely aroused and I have not stopped fantasizing about this guy actually making it with my wife. I was really taken aback by my reacion and these images keep playing in my mind. I would like other people to help me understand my reaction. Why would I want this guy to have his way with my wife and successful bed her? It is also worth mentioning that the salesman was really good looking. I am also interested in knowing what goes in a woman's mind in moments like this. Would anything more have happened if I was not around on that day? Would my wife try to go to the store again on her own to try more shoes, and try to meet with the guy in my absence?
2007-09-28 03:27:34 · 15 answers · asked by Rick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude....You might be kinda Gay.I think maybe you got a little jealous of your wife because the salesman was flirting with her and not you.
If I were a man,and that was my wife he was feeling on,He would have been punched!
That was very disrespectful of the Salesman and Your Wife to do that right in your face.
I think You and Your Wife should hire Private Investigators to watch eachother because both of you might end up sleeping with the same salesman!
That would make a good Lifetime movie;Husband & Wife having affair with the same shoe salesman,OOOHH!!
2007-09-28 05:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Luck 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude...thats how salesman are...they flirt and try to make women feel special because they want to make a sale...thats pretty much it...and the reason you are fantisiizing your wife with another guys is prolly because you are bored and want to spice things up in the bedroom maybe by adding someone else OR you the kind of person that likes to watch a little more than do so you had a thought of ur wife and this guy and thinking of your wife like that turned you on....you have nothing to worry about...relax
2007-09-28 03:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife's perspective seems clear - she is flattered by the attention, and comfortable with her appearance and her femininity, which would explain her reaction. No, I don't think that she wants to or plans to take this any further. She probably forgot about the guy the moment she left the store.
As for your feelings, that's slightly more complicated. I don't think it has anything to do with latent homosexuality. This is probably just a natural fantasy process, which is totally normal. Whether you choose to act on it or not is up to you, and perhaps you want to gently describe your fantasy to your wife, and gage from her reaction what the next step should be.
2007-09-28 03:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your guilt of not being able to bring your wife to orgasm and you really would like to see her pleased in bed.. And when your wife decides to have a fling let her pick the man she might not fancy sleeping with a shoe salesman..
2007-09-28 03:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No relax its all cool. She enjoyed being flirted with, made her feel good about herself. And a woman who feels sexy and confident is a woman who wants to take care of the man she loves, you. She doesn't care for him but he was good for her ego.
As far as your reaction I think that is pretty normal in a strong relationship to. And I really don't think it has anything to do with being gay. It wasn't the man you were lusting after, it was the act of sex that got you excited. Also the thought of watching your wife so excited was stimulating for you. My husband and I sometimes visit strip clubs, and we have both had lap dances. I can honestly say I am more turned on by watching him receive one than I am by getting one myself. I have no interest in being with another woman, but watching my husband in that position, well, wow!!!
2007-09-28 03:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooh thats hot!!! I think she enjoyed it. I haven't ever heard of buying shoes where physical touching was involved. No I believe he was trying to make a sale and she was enjoying his attention. Did she buy the shoes? Commission maybe? Or he liked her too, but guys usually back off when the hubby/bf is around. If he was good looking, she enjoyed every minute of his touch. She is probably fantasizing of the shoe shopping day too.
2007-09-28 04:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Flirting happens everywhere. It's quite harmless if not followed through. My guess is, this scene aroused you because of the intimacy involved. Don't worry about fantasising about it....it can actually do wonders for your sex life.
As for her going back and wanting something more, only she can answer that for you however, I'm thinking you just have an over-active imagination....harness it and make it work for you, not against you.
Btw, that was a very hot fantasy you had there. ;-)
2007-09-28 03:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you were turned on b/c you KNOW that your wife is a hottie and others guys notice as well.
I don't think anything would have happened any differently if you were not there. He was probably gay anyway..most (men) shoe salesmen are. And that's probably why your wife felt comfortable with him.
2007-09-28 03:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you not sure that she is not flirting with him first. You know woman love attain. You watch her walk in the mall and you will she flirt with other men to. You do know that flirting sales people make more money flirting with there customers.
2007-09-28 03:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by tadm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is Yahoo Answers, or as it is more commonly known , Cuckold Central.
You have plenty of pals, little fella - a bunch of spineless wonders who want to see other guys nail their wives.
2007-09-28 03:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋