i didnt find out from him i had already fell for him and now im having a hard time getting over him what can i do to get over him
2007-09-28 02:45:33 · 32 answers · asked by "T"Bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Getting over someone you genuinely have feelings for is hard. But remember, you fell for an illusion of someone. He is not who he claimed to be and you can only pretend for so long. Get out and get distracted!
2007-09-28 02:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by michims 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I would first have to say to you that going forward, you should dig a little bit deeper with a man before you get into him like this. I'm sure there were questions that could have been raised and possibly tell-tale signs that he was married.
As for getting over him, you need to look at what a negative person you are actually dealing with. He put you in a very potentially dangerous situation. And this is who you're still wanting??? He must have really put it on you girl....
2007-09-28 02:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, just had a flash back..
Same exact thing happened to me although I didnt find out that he was married until about a year later.
It was the biggest slap in my face ever, it was the hardest thing I have went through to date.
You cant get over him? I understand that...no matter what he did you're thinking back to the good times and its hard to believe it was all a lie. Its just going to take time...I dont have any magic words to make your heart feel better...give yourself a little more time to heal.
I never told my "guys" wife about it because to top it all off he had 3 kids...I didnt want to ruin those kids lives.
2007-09-28 02:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by stolen car 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets start by thinking about his wife!!! he was already married before he met you and he didnt even have the guts to tell you. why would you want to be with someone like that? yea you fell for him but guess what he's married!!! he has a wife...so just get over it!! there are too many guys out there. leave him alone and find someone else that you can trust, and thats willing to be with you and only you!!! good luck
2007-09-28 02:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by ~I'm A Keepa ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So this 'dude' you met was a lair and unfaithful to his wife. He's a cheat and took advantage of you and no doubt screwed you every which way but Sunday all this time and now you say that you're having a hard time trying to get over him?
LOL...well baby he sure 'got one over' on you. This is laughable. In fact...hysterical. You have any sisters at home like you? Where can I find a woman who I can have sex with any time I want, never questions me as to my whereabouts for 9 going on 10 months and then pines away for me when I'm not around....despite the fact I'm married to another woman.
You're precious...you really are...LOL
2007-09-28 02:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi hon... i'm sorry the guy deceived you like that. it certainly was horrible of him!
getting over someone takes time.. we just don't through our feelings into the trash after a relationship ends... even if we are angry, we still have feelings.
i think a good thing to do right now is keep your mind occupied.. exercise/walk for stress relief or join a gym, maybe work on a hobby in your spare time. spend time with friends and family when you can... and pamper yourself.. nothing wrong with a nice bubblebath and candles!
take care of You, ok?
2007-09-28 02:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over him is to realize that if he can cheat on his wife with you, he will do the same to you in the long run. Go out, have a good time and meet someone new.
2007-09-28 02:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Realize that he actively deceived you, probably his wife as well. Is this your Mr. Right? Someone who doesn't care about his actions and their effects upon the people in his life? Someone who is an adult but still acts without integrity? You just need to consider what you want in a mate and a father to children (if that's what you want in life) and I think you'll easily realize he doesn't really live up to your standards and what should be your expectations.
2007-09-28 02:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes a dog and Im sure you are not the only one he has on the side and why would you want to date a man that is Married anyway. It will never lead to anything more
2007-09-28 03:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, he is married. He isn't going to leave his wife for you. It is going to be tough getting over him....just think about the lies he has been telling you...you have been dating for almost a year and you just found out he was married...sneaky man. You can do better than that. You deserve it.Don't be the other woman.
2007-09-28 02:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by sunnysideup 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋