Suggestions: My husband works 65hrs so we can pay our bills. He is an hourly worker, so when things get?

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slow, his paycheck really reflects that. When he takes a vacation day, his paycheck is about cut in half. I write the bills and can see that there just isn't enough to go around. I try to just deal with it and not mention it to him, because he gets mean to me. I would love to work, but don't know what to do with my kids. I am a stay at home Mom and there is no after school care or bus service for my children. My kids start at 8a.m. and finish at 2PM. The two oldest are in one outside activity each and the youngest isn't in any activities. I am pretty frugal, yet there just arn't enough funds to go around. I write the bills and try not to mention it to my husband, but I did the other day because he wants to take some vacation days to work around the house. He is being so mean to me. When I say that I will get a job at night, he complains because he would make almost 3 times what I would earn per hour. He works 6:30-5pm and 2 days a week works 2nd job until 10:30 pm. HELP

Answer 1

Your husband is working 65 hours a week and you complain when he wants to take a little time off?

Pffft.

Sounds like you need a better sugar daddy. Why not ask him to sell off body parts, as long as you're already okay with him working himself to death?

Answer 2

I'm not sure where you live but get a part-time job from about 9 -1 pm at the local grocery store or something. They have part time positions available everywhere that will help bring in some extra cash. And don't pay attention to what your husband says about how much you will make cause if you guys need $50 more dollars you should be able to make that and more working 20 days per month 3-5 hours a day. Tell him you need to get a job to get out of the house maybe he feels inadequate thinking he can't support his family. Just say " honey I'm bored in the house and a part time job will help me use up some of my time and maybe even give us some extra saving money for a vacation or something"

Answer 3

Well, you need to talk to him about the fiances. Is he aware of the money problems you are having? I am in the same boat. Hubby has a great job, just not paying all the bills. I started babysitting. I hate it, I feel stuck in my house all the time, on the other hand, I am also helping out and it keeps me at home with the kids and I feel like I provide a little bit. It is hard to make it on a one income family anymore. Good luck, really look into babysitting or working part time. Is there anyone who can watch the kids for a little while? Good luck.

Answer 4

He is being mean to you? I get pretty mean too when Im exhausted. Dont get his permission to help him out. The male ego is sometimes fragile, just help out and tell him it is because you are "bored". Stop nagging him that he doesnt make enough money. All of the above ideas were good ( work 9-1 at ANY job, find an in-home thing to do, or get seriously frugal- try the frugal living websites for ideas maybe). good-luck.

Answer 5

Try finding a job when the kids are at school and then you will be there when they need you. Do you have any family or friends that could help you out? If he takes a vacation Day he should be getting paid for those.

Answer 6

Wow, that sounds really bad. I can't imagine working that much and not having enough to go around. Try learning the mortgage business, you can work from home and at your own pace most days. The mortgage business is in a crunch right now, however there are still enough loans to go around. Try a company like Countrywide, they will have to send you for training however they are recruiting for Reverse Mortgage loan officers and will train you. Try a Brokerage firm for mortgages and they can train you also. I went into this business and do really well at it. I work from home, have 5 kids and more than enough money to go around. Good luck.

Answer 7

You're husband is not a idiot.....he knows how much he makes.....he knows what happens when he takes a day off.

Just because you send out the bills doesn't mean he should be unaware what's going on financially.

Show him a paper where you've written down what comes in every month and what goes out every month.

Then the two of you should come up with a living arrangement that will take the pressure off......and will keep him from being upset with you.

This is not just your problem

Answer 8

Stand up. Move away from the computer.( the one your husband is paying for, and the internet access). go find a job while your kids are at school. even if it's fast food, it's still extra money. if you have time to be on here wining, then you have time to look for a job. stop making excuses and help the guy out!!!!!

Answer 9

You could sell items on Ebay to bring in additional funds. Stuff that you know a lot of about. Has for him being mean, maybe should see outside help. Maybe a priest at your local church could help you. He being mean, doesn't help the problems. Money is a factor in a happy marriage. You don't have to be reach, but both parties know how to handle the problem and compromise.

Good luck!

Answer 10

i hav taken on small cleaning and gardening jobs in my area. if you do a really good job word often spreads and you will have too much work. i generally choose my own hours and try not to work more than 5 hours a day so that i can keep the house to a standard. i sometimes make up to 200 per week.
tell your husbaND TO DROP THE MACHO **** SUCK IT UP and deal with it. every little bit helps

Answer 11

I know someone who watched other children in her home while her children were young to bring in extra income. This worked great for parents who didn't want to send their kids to day care and wanted a parent to watch their children. In our state you can get a home day care licence and watch up to 5 children. People get about $125 per child. You would be looking at $600 a week extra or $2,400 a month. It also helps bring other kids into the home for your children to play with.
Good luck