Marriage & Divorce - 20 September 2007

I am a stay at home mom to two little girls. My fiance is self employed, and his job involves a LOT of after-hours work and preparation. I have to do my job all day, then when he comes home I have to do MY job and his. There's no extra money coming in so we can't afford daycare for the kids, so that I can get a job. There's just enough $ to pay the bills, nothing extra like going out, and I'm starting to feel like I'm in a cage or something. Everytime I try to tell him how I feel he basically says it's his way or the highway, and we end up in a screaming match and nothing gets resolved. I get so PO'd at him sometimes that I just want to knock some sense into him. What an overbearing, arrogant as.s!

2007-09-20 17:16:15 · 9 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

I know he hears me but when I ask something there is silence...if I ask again there is the raised eyebrow "sorry honey what?" Why does this happen? I hear everything

2007-09-20 17:06:11 · 8 answers · asked by Michelle C 2

iam a 32 yr old married for 8 yrs. prior to my wedding had a boyfriend, due to circumstances we were seperated by our families. After 15 yrs, we have met and our past realtionship has made our hearts come close to each other again. Both of us are happy with our respective married lives and both of us have children. We want to continue our realtionship of love without any thoughts of marriage or sex.both of us want to be faithful to our married partners. someone pls advice if there is anything wrong in this? how do i go with this realtionship since there can be no fruit for this r/ship. but both of us really love each other that we cannot end our relation. pls help me

2007-09-20 17:03:47 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

He lives in the same street as me and he lives with his wife, kids and his or his wife's mother.

I caught him staring at me a few times before, should I tell his wife about it or would that be wrong? I'm 21 and he is in his late 30s.

2007-09-20 16:51:54 · 22 answers · asked by fading 2

2007-09-20 16:51:12 · 19 answers · asked by rich s 1

Would this MARRIAGE work? For example: She is 30 yrs old and has only dated just 2 guys at that age-still a virgin. He is 35 and he dated at least up to 15 female dates, lost his virginity at age 20. I am not talking about sexual compatablity guys! I am talking about DATING RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX. How much experience does she know and understand how to take care of a man's needs, etc,etc.

2007-09-20 16:50:29 · 12 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

2007-09-20 16:47:02 · 3 answers · asked by SEknoian 1

2007-09-20 16:46:32 · 12 answers · asked by johny on the spot 1

I have a friend who is bisexual, her husband knows she is bisexual, he has known since the beginning. Well she told me today that he asked her if she wanted a girlfriend. He told her that she could have a girlfriend, but the only way her and the girlfriend could have sex would be if he was there to watch or for a threesome. Now he told her that he would not have intercourse with the woman, just her. He said it was for her pleasure and he just wanted to make her happy any way he could. She told me that she had told him she had been having desires to be with a woman sexually, and that is how the entire converstation came about. She asked me my opininon, but I couldn't really give her an answer, what do you all think? Please no crazy or mean answers, I just want honest opinions.

2007-09-20 16:42:02 · 21 answers · asked by fglns 2

Haha I was debating this with my husband. He said that a wedding ring on a woman's finger won't stop a man from trying to get with a woman. I disagreed and thought the majority of men, if they realize a woman is married won't even bother. What do you think?

2007-09-20 16:36:22 · 27 answers · asked by stilletto_killers 3

Or from Europe

2007-09-20 16:35:45 · 23 answers · asked by Ekepounds p 1

she showed some signs of liking me i berly know her but now all she does is ignore me and hang on this other guy that is her friend (there not GF and BF) could she be playing hard to get she still steals a glace at me sometimes and walk really close to me (in my personal space) and brush up agaisnt me a couple of times dont know if its on purpose or what but she lets me get close enough to her to touch her
i never really talked to her or told her i like her im just to shy and afraid.
Today i smiled at her when we made eye contact like a light smile and she seemed to start paying more attention to me
Does she even like me when im around her she constantly (i know this is sign of nervousness but idk if its me or some one else) straightens her clothes, fix hair and kind of tilts her head in my direction doesnt look at me though
i know i should just tell her but i dont want to just throw myself out there she has to be more clear if she likes me not ignore me She acts

2007-09-20 16:32:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-20 16:22:03 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-20 16:08:26 · 17 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

2007-09-20 16:06:47 · 23 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

Been together since they were 12, been married 26 years, happiest couple anyone has ever seen, and I really mean that. I accidentally stumbled upon a website my dad was loggged into when I borrowed his computer one day. Apparently he is into things sexually (being dominated) that my mom won't hear of. Yes, they have sex often, unfortunatly I know this... but he is into this other stuff that he has to have fulfilled. I saw the emails between him and some local women and am about to loose it. I thought he was the perfect man, I vowed to marry someone just like my dad, I have more respect for him than anyone(or atleast I did). He's the perfect dad, husband, friend, and boss, all american dad. I can't believe this. I can't tell my mom cause literally she will die, and I know she will leave him (devout Christians.. yeah I know funny huh??) What do I do. I know for a fact my dad loves her more than anything and her him and I know its just sex. But its wrong!!! What should I do? Please HELP!!

2007-09-20 16:06:03 · 57 answers · asked by smith.isabella 1

I am 40, housewife, 2 kinds,
Six months ago, He started to coming home late... from 8pm, then 10pm then 12pm... sometime saturday he not coming home. I found he send sms message to more then one girl. all about " I love you, I miss you so much..." , everytime I asking him about those message, at first he just keep quiet... Now his answer :" can you just closed one eye..."
This is so painfiul....
Please someone help me...what can I do now...

2007-09-20 16:00:37 · 26 answers · asked by marylin 2

2007-09-20 15:51:59 · 5 answers · asked by LOie 1

ok I was dating this guy 71/2 year ago we broke up cause of something stupid. We got mad about what we heard and did not talk for a while. I dont know how it happened but he married a good friend of mine and I married his cuz. Me and my husband broke up for about 2 years. In that time I started talking to my next again, we had sex. Now me and my husband are back together and he is raising my baby. The problem I have is my next's wife read his emails and found out. Now she want to know everything and he will not tell her the truth, so she want me to be the one to tell her. I dont want to brake her heart. (even if she did it to me ) She lost two kids with him now to tell her he might have a kid somewhere else is alot. Or to tell her I know he cheated on her the whole time cause he told me and I have seen him. Or that he has been messing with me for a year, Or the holidays she sent alone with her baby girl he was with me. Do I tell her the truth now, or lie to save the friendship?

2007-09-20 15:46:58 · 11 answers · asked by apple m 1

how many people have married their high school sweetheart? if you didnt get married, did you think you would while you were together? what happened between you?

2007-09-20 15:45:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband never treated me the way i shouldve been treated and i found another man that is more than wonderful to me and now my husband wants to step up to be that man! my husband is a good man but really didnt know what he had until this other man. we were seperated awhile then came back cause i felt guilty for divorcing him while he was being deployed to iraq. my husband is aware of this other man and knows im in love with this man as well. i know i came home for the wrong reasons but i just could see him going through this by hisself but this other man is just out of this world and i feel the love he has for me.. my husband never gave me that. but know after he lost me for awhile he realized what he had i knows how the other man makes me happy.. the other man wants to marry me and my husband has divorce papers in iraq with him! i feel like such a bad person but i try telling myself that sometimes its to late to make up what you should have already been doing!! im just so confused!!

2007-09-20 15:36:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

At the moment I am 18 years old and going to college to becomed an English teacher. My boyfriend (22) is also going to college but to become a history teacher. We have been together for about a year now. I want to get married just not right now, but there is a problem: I have to have a child at 24. My mother had me at 24, her mother had her at 24, and so on and so forth as far back as we can remember. But when, between now and 24 , would be the time to get married. I know I don't have to have a child at 24. I shouldnt be rushed, but I want to keep the family tradition.

2007-09-20 15:30:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please use lots of details. What age were you? How long have you been married? Are you happy now? Please tell me your reasons with lots of DETAILS.

2007-09-20 15:20:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got engaged about months ago but now I find out that my fiance was in love with some one , according to the person who told me about this it was her first love! I wanted to be straight forward to ma fiance and asked her but still she insists she never been in love with some one else. I feel kinda upset why she is not telling me the truth,either da person who told me about her is wrong or may be my fiance is not telling me the truth whether If she is or was in love wit that person. she says she loves me but i feel like i dont believer her. Wen im askin her again and again some times she cries and it makes me feel even worse, I remember wen she listened to love songs, she goes quiet... and then i assume she is thinkin of her x lover.. it sucks.. do u people think she is lying to me? what should i do? I just cant bear it! becoz i know she wont forget him as he was assumbly her first love! i hate my self... even i tried to sucide to get ride of dis troubled world!

2007-09-20 15:19:51 · 9 answers · asked by Gabrail 1

My 11-year-old has read her way through thousands of pages of the Harry Potter series and is half way through the sixth book. My ex-husband's fiance doesn't want the books in her home. She has also been praying that my daugher won't grow up to be "bad". My daugher was in tears tonight asking me if she is a bad person. I told my ex-husband we agreed long before this woman came into the picture how we were raising our kids and that I would not allow her to butt in. I'm so furious that she would plant this seed in my child's brain that there is something bad in her! He has asked me to let him handle it. He says he's on this fence with this issue and not sure what he believes anymore. Oh. He is also not sure she should be able to trick or treat anymore because that is evil, too! Should I let him handle it or talk to this woman?

2007-09-20 15:01:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

1month ago my 5 year on and off relationship when my ex cheated on me.. After the many times he's broke up with me, I am now convinced, it's not worth it. although i was kinda stupid to held on to it sooo long.

last week, this guy a schoolmate from highschool, messaged me in my myspace.. that i look familiar and we used to go to the same church.. then exchanged yahoo IDs and from then on we chat almost everynight until early morning..

I dont know if he knows, but meeting him means a lot to me.. He works with a nonprofit christian org for the street kids and he asked me to help out in the music program cause i play the piano.. Meeting him, has made it easy for me to let go of the past.. because in just a week of meeting him.. I felt he's soo much better... I dont expect anything with what we have.. But it sure has helped me heal fast..

But do you think he likes me? or is he just being nice?

Thank you very much...

2007-09-20 15:01:13 · 16 answers · asked by terra 4

i really want to get even...it hurts so much its killing me...i know that the only way that ill forgive him is if do the same thing to him...

2007-09-20 14:51:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am worried because he is just finishing uni and he hasn't really been around other women and all of a sudden he will be working with a whole bunch of HR and receptionist ladies OR heaven forbid he may end up with a personal assistant. I do trust him completely to turn down any advances but I don't like the thought of someone trying to tempt him away from me and I hate the thought of him 'trying' to resist or finding someone else attractive. The thing is he is tall dark and handsome and he is very intelligent and has a fantastic high paying career ahead of him, he is like the perfect catch and I don't want anyone else trying to get their claws in! Does this type of thing happen often in the workplace? He is only 22 (like me) and I am the only person he has ever 'been' with, I am worried he will become curious.

2007-09-20 14:03:42 · 17 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6

or am i missing something i work with a lot of guys and their hearts are destroyed because their women have cheated on them ??????????

2007-09-20 13:27:14 · 42 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7

My husband has been talking recently to some chic at his job and because of his past (cheating) Im not so sure that I trust that she is only a friend. not real sure what more I can do other than ask him about it but he has also lied to me in thepast so I dont know how much ill believe... i guess im torn because i really dont wanna leave him because of our shildren but i know had i never had children i wouldve been gone a long time ago because to me trust really is everything....back to the question can you really love a person you dont trust and can u reallly have a healthy relationship witthout trust?

2007-09-20 13:21:37 · 53 answers · asked by brown_eyez 2