Marriage & Divorce - 20 September 2007

I have been married 5 yrs and we havent had a good relationship bc right at the start of our marriage he got depression lots his job, was on tranquilisers and took him 2 yrs to get a job again. The reason was bc for 7 yrs he wasnt doing what he wanted to do bc he wanted to make me happy. I used to ask him things but he always said he was fine. Now 5 yrs into our marriage we always fight bc he contiunally works late, every weekend is out to sports events and nothing gets done around the house..eg establish our garden, organise a fence wall, put blinds in bathroom instaed of sheets, build our wardroom shelves so clothes arent everywhere...so my point is..these things dont get down the list grows and we fight. All bc he has other priorities in his life...WATCHING SPORT.Ive told him to comprise but he doesnti feel there is no love in the marriage..i keep trying to talk to him and all he constantly says is...things will get better..how much longer do i wait..bc it never happens..

2007-09-20 02:16:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I got engaged over a year ago but postponed the wedding due to financial difficulties and his cold feet. After much deliberation, I decided that postponing wasn't a bad idea...we're both young and in no rush. After about 6 months of just enjoying each other's company, I thought it might be ok to bring up the wedding again, just to see where he stood on the issue. He was nice about it, but said "It hasn't crossed my mind in a while". Then, mid-conversation he said "marriage is dead". His parents had a messy divorce, and so did the vast majority of his extended family. His boss, whom he is very close to, is currently going through a nasty divorce too. I understand that divorce is a concern of his, but I'm tired of paying for a wedding band that I might never wear.I love him, and our relationship is great otherwise, but I feel like he's cursing out marriage before we've even set a date. What can I do to convince him that we don't have to end up like they did?

2007-09-20 02:03:08 · 8 answers · asked by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6

2007-09-20 01:57:10 · 10 answers · asked by thing 2 2

i do love my husband. he is a wonderful husband , father, etc. he treats me well. he is madly in love with me. i, on the other hand, have no passionate feelings for him. we get along well. help

2007-09-20 01:56:20 · 23 answers · asked by chi chi rodriquez 1

I heard today less than 50% of married couples make it to their 25th aniiversary - and most break up after the 7th or 8th year...what's up with that?

2007-09-20 01:54:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friends husband will not allow them to have friends and socialize. They have been married for two years and do not socialize at all. They never go to friends or have friends over for dinner, etc. He tells her they are not ready for friends and makes strange excuses, like most people that are from his culture are not good people (at other times they are the best people in the world). It is as though he is ashamed of her.

2007-09-20 01:41:01 · 13 answers · asked by Mina M 2

he steals from me every chance he gets i am behind on bills and i am raising 9 kids 2 i adopted three are his and three from my previous marriage. i work ft and take care of him i needed him around for his 25 dollar an hour job that he lost because of smokeing crack i know i should leave or make him leave and i do but he comes back and i fall into the trap and he steals everychance he gets he cant stay clean a week i need help just letting go any suggestions i need to know how to stay strong and keep him away from me...... i have no support my family is in another state but i have a job i love and dont want to move..... i have a proterction order against him but i cave in

2007-09-20 01:31:49 · 18 answers · asked by mom 2

Husband has been cheating for some time and says he is in love with his mistress (he does not know I am aware of his affair). I no longer want anything to do with him as a husband. However, he has two kids with me...ages 5 and 1. I asked him to move out and he plans on doing so. A divorce is in the works currently. I intend to make him pay financially for his obligations because of how I was treated during my pregnancy. I was given the choice of having my last child or him as a husband. I chose the life of my unborn child. I have thought of all the ways to get back at him but is it really worth the energy. How do I tell my 5 year old that his father was busy leading a double life and could not focus on his marriage to make it work? How do I tell my 1 year old that his father never acknowledge him prior to him being on this earth (though we lived in the same household), has never spent one penny toward him but now wants to claim him as a son now that he is moving out. Should I let him?

2007-09-20 01:11:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

don't like me and we have nothing in common. I work in a seperate department at my job so I really do not have to communicate with them to get my job done. I try my best to get my job done and go home, without talking to these immature employees, but it seems like they are always wanting to talk to me for some reason. Please Answer. I know that this is not the category to ask this question, but I will get the most responces here.

2007-09-20 01:00:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I go to court next thursday, and there they will determine who gets temporary custody. Right now I have my 7 month old son. But the father has hired an attorney to get temp and full custody of our 7 month old. I am in florida, and he is in greorgia. The baby was born in georgia, so i have to go to court in ga. I left the relationship becuase he hit me one too many times. I also have a 6 year old. The kids didn't need to grow up around it. I have alot of affidavits saying what a wonderful caring mother i am ect and how i am with my kids, i also have affidavits from the people I called after the abuse happened. I never called the cops, i was scared and i loved him. i am scared hell get temp custody or even full. IF he gets temp custody. How long will he have him. Also I had to go to a dv shelter from there i moved to fl in another dv shelter. I got a FT great job, my own apartment, kids are in daycare/school. I really dont think I have ne thing to worryabout...

2007-09-20 00:25:07 · 12 answers · asked by Amanda 2

My boss and I have been sleeping together for 6 months. His wife is so, so close to finding out and confronting me about it, I don't know what to say if she does.

I am in no way attempting to justify my actions. It felt like such a good idea at the time but I am regretting it immensly now.

I just want to ask advice as to how to apologise to her so that I sound genuine (because I am sorry) and to cause her the lease amount of anguish possible. I am in no way seeking forgiveness because I don't deserve it and what I did is unforgivable. I just don't want to make things worse.

What I really don't want is for their marriage to break up because of me. I know that it was fundamentally his fault for asking, and coercing me into it (to begin with) but that does not excuse my actions when I agreed to pursue it.

Has anyone been cheated on before? I know that no apology could make up for the breach in trust but what did you wish the other man/woman had said to you?

2007-09-20 00:17:11 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous