what do you do when your marriage fizzles out?

Question

i do love my husband. he is a wonderful husband , father, etc. he treats me well. he is madly in love with me. i, on the other hand, have no passionate feelings for him. we get along well. help

Answer 1

have you considered swinging? that way you get all the excitement of new hunky men and he gets to watch lovingly as a devoted husband as you have lots of fun!

Answer 2

It doesn't sound like your marriage is "fizzled out". You are just going through some down time. Passion isn't always a constant in a marriage. Think about people who have been married for 50+ years. It is only reasonable that along the way they have their ups and downs. Something that I often think about women is that they don't take care of themselves. They work too hard and juggle too many things, especially with a young family. They don't take care of themselves, eat well, exercise, do medical checkups, etc. They experience exhaustion and have passion for absolutely nothing, let alone an intimate relationship with their husbands. I have friends like this. They are hardworking, high acheiving women who are good moms. If you are like that, give yourself a break. Teach yourself how to rest and relax. And don't feel guilty for doing so. Look at it as an investment in your marriage, your health, and your future.

Answer 3

you don't say how old you are, Could it be that you are just bored in this thing? There is so much more to a marriage than a passionate love affair. Most marriages have break downs in that field after awhile anyway. Honey you take it from someone who was in a miserable marriage with a man who was the exact opposite of what you describe, you are one lucky lady. Good men don't happen by every day. Maybe you need to spend a little time on trying to put some of that magic back into the relationship. After all you loved him enough to marry him to start with and you have his children. A little work on sparks and less on wondering about those passionate feelings that you think you might be missing with someone else will prove to be a very wise decision for you. I have been alone for nineteen years and how I wish I could have had a wonderful man in my life, especially one who was madly in love with me.

Answer 4

Well...u have to decide if u even want to fall back in love with him or not.Believe me it is possible. If u do, u have to take ur mind back to all the things that made u fall in love with him. He seems to be a good person, how could u fall outta love with a person which such characteristics? There are good men out there but finding them isnt exactly easy...so u would give that up-the father of ur kids? Girl u crazy! Yall just need to spice up the relationship...u've gotten bored-not outta love. Go 2 an adult novelty store, buy some fun toys-things u guys have never done b4, rent a nice room and decorate it with roses and store chocolates, whipped cream, cherries, and strawberries in the little frig. Buy some candles and some sexy lingerie. Send a card to his job OR drive by and put a card on his windshield saying meet me at Holiday Inn room 233 immediately...youve been a bad boy and must receive your punishment at my mercy and command. Make up something..sexy & kniky. Think how fun it would be! Try it. Dont throw your man away!

Answer 5

Start telling him that you love him eventhough you don't feel it. Make posiive affirmations, start flirting with him over the phone, go out on a date, pretend you are his girlfriend and not his wife. Probably is routine what is making you feel like that. Go spend some money on pretty lungerie, a sexy perfume if you like perfumes. Be creative, and also be very careful how you handle it, if you tell him how you feel you could end up hurting his feelings and things can get worse. But when you make positive affirmations your words become a reality. Is like when you are in trouble and you decide to give a big turn around, you start doing things differently, even the way you dress and other things. Is good that you are expressing yourself here cause you can get some good advice and noone will gossip with your close friends. Good luck! Keep trying and don't give up.

Answer 6

Your marriage does not sound like it has fizzled, just some of the fireworks are gone. Sit down with him at a quiet time when there are few distractions and tell him how you feel. He deserves to know if you are not happy. Best of luck.

Answer 7

When your marriage fizzles out, the solution is to re-fizzle it! The most successful methods usually involve 1) addressing and forgiving resentments, and 2) spending more quality fun time together talking, making love, and doing things you both enjoy.

Answer 8

You need to see a professional counselor or your Doctor. In a marriage the original passion dies out but the desire should still be there to some degree. You had better do something fast because your husband will start, if he hasn't already, feeling rejected and trivialized. That leads to cheating and divorce. For the kids sake at least, tell someone besides us on yahoo.

Answer 9

If your truly happy with this man and you want to keep things where there at you both need to find something constructive to do together find a way to tuck the kids away for a weekend have a romantic dinner wear something you would'nt ordinairly wear and give him a full body message do something spontaneous experiment with a toy or an adult film

Answer 10

What you are going through is normal, sometimes in marriage passion comes and goes. You might wake up tomorrow morning and look at him and feel that passion all over again. It comes and goes in waves, right now your tide is out, but just hang in there it will come back. Everything else seems fine so just ride.

Answer 11

Did you ever love him? Find a way to bring back the passion in your life. Think of the wonderful things that you both used to do when you started going out and do it again. If you truly loved him then, I don't think love just fades away you just have to keep things exciting again. Maybe things has become monotonous so do something fun and spontaineous.