I heard today less than 50% of married couples make it to their 25th aniiversary - and most break up after the 7th or 8th year...what's up with that?
2007-09-20 01:54:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I made up 7 reasons why.
1. People start to realize that marriage is not like it is portrayed in romantic comedy's. The spouse is SOOOOO far from perfect that it takes them by suprise.
2. People start to realize that marriage is not about you being loved but about you loving the other person. If both spouses did this, both sides would actually end up being loved by the other person. lol!
3. The 7th year is also around the time they decide to have their first child or second. Children cause people to have to be less selfish >>> and that is a challenge.
4. Economic issues often occur during this year, especially if they have children. Often because of this, many families, the men, have to commute, communiting is the most dangerous thing you can play with, when married.
5. This is also around the time, more woman than you think, start getting bored of sexual intimacy. This is often when the men started begging. Men don't stop running, when they are even 60 they are still fuming.
6. The people start getting to know each other...... a little too well. lol! The spouse starts getting relaxed. You know like when you are dating, how you are forever trying to be your best and being perfect for then? When people get married, they treat their spouse like they did their parents. Men stop helping with the chores, they throw their things everywhere. The woman stops cooking the man his favorite meals and just makes any slap of garbage she can dig out of the fridge. All types of drama like this starts happening.
7. Then of course other things that come in and cause thing to slowly come off course. Such as inlaws interferring and your spouse being too friendly to the pretty girl at work.
This is definetly my most thought out answer. lol!
2007-09-20 02:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People fail to qualify their partners. The stupidity of love at first site is seen right here. They are in heat and lust after the other person and decide that that is love. They rush head first into a relationship. They ignore warning signs that the person they are with isn't right for them. They get married chasing down that dream of forever companionship regardless of the fact that their partner stepped out on them or has been drinking daily. Around the 7 to 10 year mark people truly accept that they are in a terrible relationship and that it's time to move on. Unfortunately there are usually kids involved by this time.
2007-09-20 09:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
With this day and age, everyone depends on eachother. Many people are so selfconcious about the way that they look and feel rather than what matters most. Most marriages don't last because alot of men that are married, change. They take on responsibility, they pay the bills and occasionally hang out with the guys. They tend to feel that if they dont need compliments everyday, why should they compliment their ladies? Unfortunatly, us "ladies" like to be told that we look great in a certain outfit, or if we get our hair and nails done, we love to be noticed. For the outsiders looking in, they think that they can "open up and once closed box" meaning, they will get what they want just by saying nice things to us once in a while. So we develop feelings that we once had with our spouses, but this time its with other people because we feel like maybe there isnt anymore passion in the relationship. Affection means everything to women and men just like to be left alone with their TVs. LoL Its a tough road and with so many homewreckers out there, its hard to say exactly how long a marriage will last. Especially with children involved. Hope I helped a little Take care <3 Tab
2007-09-20 09:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by jzbebegyrl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have been married for 33 years. I think that marriages go through cycles. Things get bad, we get bored with each other or there are stresses in our lives. Then we realize why we married this person in the first place and things get better again.
Some people can't seem to get through the hard parts and go looking for something else.
Of course sometimes there are REAL problems - abuse, mental health issues, infidelity and some people just need to get out of that situation.
2007-09-20 09:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This generation has no concept of family morals and values and its easier to take the easy way out. We are a wasteful society. So if this marriage isnt wrking, we just throw it away. And then you have fashion, if thats what ya wanna call it. I realize women cheat, too, but look at the way these women dress. Very provacative, their lack of clothing is screaming, "F*ck me" and these married men fall to that. And then theres the media. Sex is all around us. Hell the other day I was watiching a Pontiac G6 commercial, and the fcous of the commercial was a barely dressed woman. Now are we buying the car, or are we buying the woman? I guess sex sells, or women, take your pick. Bottom line is, there are too many temptations and we as humans have proven to be a weak wasteful generation.
2007-09-20 09:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It happened to me in the 7th year and now we are getting divorced in the 10th.
It has to do maybe with our life cycle? I don't know but a marriage will never work if both parties are not committed to solve issues and find better ways to interact.
2007-09-20 09:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by ruebezahl2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes about that long to figure out that you made a mistake. I don't have a problem with the divorces, I have a problem with people who get married thinking they can change someone when its impossible. It takes about 7years to figure that out.
2007-09-20 09:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋