iam a 32 yr old married for 8 yrs. prior to my wedding had a boyfriend, due to circumstances we were seperated by our families. After 15 yrs, we have met and our past realtionship has made our hearts come close to each other again. Both of us are happy with our respective married lives and both of us have children. We want to continue our realtionship of love without any thoughts of marriage or sex.both of us want to be faithful to our married partners. someone pls advice if there is anything wrong in this? how do i go with this realtionship since there can be no fruit for this r/ship. but both of us really love each other that we cannot end our relation. pls help me
2007-09-20 17:03:47 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHEN YOUR HUSBAND WILL KNOW IT LIFE WILL BECOME MISERABLE. SO AVOID IT TO SAVE YOUR FAMILY LIFE.
2007-09-23 02:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See the Keyboard and look for "Delete" button, you know what is the function of this "DELETE" button, it erases the undesired things from computer. Like the same way you "Delete" all those sweet memories which you had with ur Ex boy frined before your marriage, from you Mind.
Beacause those memories are the only one reason that you want to keep your relationship with him.
As you have mentioned that you both are happy and want to remain faithful with your respective partners, then how you can do same with activating this relationship. NO its not possible.
Think of the day when your or his partner will come to know about this relationship. Will they accept it? If the answer is Yes then carry it on otherwise dump this relationship.
Other thing is possible if you have dare enough to take that man to your family and introduce him with your husband, and if you hubby accepts him as family friend then you can carry it on.
2007-09-20 20:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by The Answering Machine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Nirupama,i have read all the suggestions for you.i think you should move forward with this relation.marriage doesn't stop you from talking or being friends with any1.there is space for all the relations in one's life and every relation have an important place which no other relation can take and when we loose one, there is always a vaccum. you are a human being and have full rights to be happy and be close to your dear ones.you havn't written anything about your husband,so i can only say that your happiness should not trouble or hurt any one..so set your limits according to the circumstances and go ahead..all the best
2007-09-20 22:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say married for 8 yrs, and happy with your marriage. This means, you and your husband understand each other very well? so, will you let your husband know about your relationship with your boy friend?
If no hiding business, and If your answer is "Yes" to the above questions, then go ahead. If not, then something is not right.
2007-09-21 04:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by Prabha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
There is nothing wrong in this. Look in friendship / love does not fruit for this r/ship if but both of us really love each other than pl. continue your relationship.
The thought both of you have Both of you should continue your relationship of love without disturbing and be faithful to your married partners also.
2007-09-21 00:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by Brij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kinda confusing for you to say that each of you want to be faithful to your married partners and yet you are both having an affair...when you got married you lost all rights to find love with someone else...don't you think its unfair of you to be cheating on your husband when he thinks you are being faithful to him all this time? how would you feel if he was the one with an extramarital relationship? im sure you'd be crying your eyes out by now...if you can't stand by your husband and your family and you'd rather be with your lover, then stand up to your mistake, admit to your husband that you are having an affair and ask for a divorce...i just hope that your lover has the same intentions (he might just be after fun outside his marrieage) or else you could end up alone...
2007-09-20 17:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a realtionship of FRIENDSHIP and stay just friends... And do not tell us that that you just could not end the relationship. You did it last time when you separated... Do not blame the circumstances for your separation... You just had given up and now you should not create complications for yourselves...
Take Care...
2007-09-20 23:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it ok 4 man, it is quite ok for a woman. But do u still love him like before or yr husband has taken his place in yr bed and yr heart. think your self. do you really want to hurt yr husband or u really want to live your life fully
2007-09-22 00:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by mausamifrench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...stop seeing or contacting him now!!
Isn't it abit atrocious act gonna make ur hubby suspect and hate u to the extreme core if he get to learn abt it later. Pls u might have re-united and cant seem to get rid of each others thought out of ur mind. But it can rotten ur marriage life,pls stop it now sis.
Try and 4get all those mussy stuff and learn to love only ur husband and kid with all your heart!!!
May god bless you!!
2007-09-20 20:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by *♥sugar♥* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
expensive Dove, What you're desiring is a "friendship with reward." This female depended on you with communications that she ought to proportion nowhere else. Now, you prefer to take great thing approximately this great verbal exchange line the two one among you have and use it for identifying to purchase intercourse. somewhat of annoying approximately what she has happening with this guy she has had a toddler with, you have to be thinking why you at the instant are not pursuing a dating with somebody who's closer to you, bodily and mentally. The plus for you is so which you are able to use this female and then, pass homestead. So, it variety of feels to me which you're desirous to apply her as a sperm receptacle, not as a loving being concerned person. reassess your impulses. you will possibly be able to desire to convey extra to the table than a waiting libido.
2016-11-06 00:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not ok you both have families think of the effect it would have on them if you went ahead with this guy devastating i would say, it is lust simply because he reminds you of your youth and what you guys shared in the past which is exactly where this person and passion should stay,in the past cheers
2007-09-20 17:22:53 · answer #11 · answered by MWAHXXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋