I am worried because he is just finishing uni and he hasn't really been around other women and all of a sudden he will be working with a whole bunch of HR and receptionist ladies OR heaven forbid he may end up with a personal assistant. I do trust him completely to turn down any advances but I don't like the thought of someone trying to tempt him away from me and I hate the thought of him 'trying' to resist or finding someone else attractive. The thing is he is tall dark and handsome and he is very intelligent and has a fantastic high paying career ahead of him, he is like the perfect catch and I don't want anyone else trying to get their claws in! Does this type of thing happen often in the workplace? He is only 22 (like me) and I am the only person he has ever 'been' with, I am worried he will become curious.
2007-09-20 14:03:42 · 17 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well he is definately not shy but he can be very arrogant around other people, teasing and the like. He is nice and sweet to me but I think that if another woman met him they might think he is bit full of himself or something. I think I would find teasing a bit flirty actually. It's ok he wouldn't do anything, I am just very protective and insecure yes AND jealous.
2007-09-20 14:29:44 · update #1
Well no use in worrying about those things. Can it happen? Yes, anything is possible. But one way to prevent it, is to remember all the things you write about him, handsome, intelligent, etc....... Remember he chose you! don't take him for granted and be a good loving wife, and he will have no reason to look elsewhere.
2007-09-20 14:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bigger question for you to ask is will your husband respond or consider any advances? In life you will always be attracted to other people and others will be attracted to you. The same will be true of your husband. How will you respond to those temptations? How loyal, trusting and honest will you be to your significant other? If you or your spouse cannot resist the temptations, you do not belong together in a trusting relationship. I work in an office with almost all women, many are extremely attractive. I would never have an affair with any of them. Even if I were single I would not because that can poison the office. I was divorced once from a woman who had an affair with my son's coach. It is devastating, it can happen anywhere if your spouse is looking or not honest or loyal enough.
Sit down an have a talk with your spouse. If you can't have that type of discussion, you need to work on your communications. Tell him your fears and needs. If he is considerate, he will do the right thing.....
Good Luck.
2007-09-20 21:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Hank 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure others may find him attractive and flirt with him. The important thing is that when he gets home he has everything he could ever want waiting there for him. Keep him happy at home and he'll have no reason to want to wander or stray. Lose sight of what you have and feel now or get too busy with your daily chores, kids, or whatever so that you forget to be a woman then he might. Keep the romance in the marriage is the secret.
2007-09-20 21:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be curious and you can bet your bottom dollar that someone will definitely flirt with him. I understand I am a jealous type myself, but you can't let him know (maybe a little), but if you start accusing him or a "her" from the office it might drive him away. The best thing to do is always have amazing sex so he doesn't see it else where and go and meet all the people in his office. Don't miss any office social gatherings and drop by every once in a while with coffee or pastries. If the other girls get to know you they might be less likely to betray you (not always, but most of the time). At best you will get at least one ally in there. Let them know he is attached by being present.
You know in the end he has to make the choice if it comes down to it -
2007-09-20 21:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked for myself most of my working life, but early on I had the kind of office job you describe. The pressures of corporate culture can for some become an aphrodesiac. Really a lot of flirting went on in the office and there were a few scandals about office romances that blossomed even if the participants were married but not to each other. There was even one long-lived piece of gossip about a married male and his gay male co-worker. But this was in San Francisco, and you have enough to worry about from the girls. However, from what I hear about today's high-school kids, you've probably already weathered the worst of slutty competition tactics! Don't worry. That's really the best advice.
2007-09-20 21:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was tall dark and very handsome and 21 when he started working in an office with all these pretty women around him i was going crazy. Everyday he would tell me about this one coming in his office telling him about personal problems she was having at home. This went on for years until he gave in to temptation. He moved out of our home to get his own apartment so he could sleep with a co-worker he had been seeing for 8 months prier to moving out. I would be very concerned if i were you,these women that work around our husbands get to see them at there best so why would they go after them. Make know mistake if a woman likes what she sees she will go after him. It's up to you to try to keep your husband happy and not to give him any reason to stray.
2007-09-20 22:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ann Landers wrote an answer to a question similar to yours. She said, "Keep your man well loved, well fed, and tired." Your man will work with and meet lots of women in the workplace. That does not mean he will be tempted by them. If he loves you, and knows that you love him, and you have a warm loving relationship, then he will prefer to come home to you. A smart man will also ask himself "Is it worth losing my loving wife and my kids and half of all I own for a romp with this other woman?"
2007-09-20 21:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be curious but if he loves he won't act on it. And you need to get over your jealousy issues. If you have married a hansome man then women are going to flirt with him no matter what job he is doing. Hell, if he is that much of a dime then women will flirt with him in the grocery store.
2007-09-20 21:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is married life. You can't worry about things like this. That turns into obsession which turns into jealousy. You can't control what other women do, or your husband for that matter. You just have to trust him and calm your nerves. But to answer your question, 85% that someone will try. Women have issues.
2007-09-20 21:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by lawstudntbynite 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him completely then what's the problem?
It takes two to tango. They can look all they want - as long as he's not biting, it won't come to anything. They can't tie him to their bumper and "steal" him unless he lets them.
If you "trust him completely to turn down any advances" then why are you "worried he will become curious"?
Talk to him. Open communication is the only way to overcome your insecurity.
2007-09-20 21:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋