I am 40, housewife, 2 kinds,
Six months ago, He started to coming home late... from 8pm, then 10pm then 12pm... sometime saturday he not coming home. I found he send sms message to more then one girl. all about " I love you, I miss you so much..." , everytime I asking him about those message, at first he just keep quiet... Now his answer :" can you just closed one eye..."
This is so painfiul....
Please someone help me...what can I do now...
2007-09-20 16:00:37 · 26 answers · asked by marylin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure this is not what you want to hear but he is definitely not in love with you anymore. You need to either separate yourself from him or you desperately need marriage counseling FAST!!!
I've got a degree in psychology and if you don't do something now, whether it be KICK HIS *** OUT, or seek help for your marriage, he will continue to USE YOU!!!
I'm so very sorry to hear this is happening to you; I know it must be heart breaking and I wish you the best of luck!
Please don't allow him to walk all over you for another minute! Take care of YOU and your children! You all deserve MUCH better.
2007-09-20 16:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of I'm sorry to hear about the circumstance that your spouse has now placed you in.
If you let him get away with this and close your eyes as he suggested , he will continue this behavior. You would be enabling him. Not good.
Let him know this is not acceptable and he needs to decide if his marriage to you is more important then these other girls he likes to carry on with.
Be prepared to back up your decision. See if he'll get marriage counseling.
Be prepared for anything he throws at you. My grandfather told us just because we are wives and mother we forget to get dressed up and look good for the husbands. Some of them will stray for reasons of their own choosing. The second thing my grandfather said was if you don't respect yourself and stand up for yourself no one else will either.
The last thing i have to say is don't feel ashamed or guilty . The majority of the blame if not all lays at his feet.
2007-09-20 16:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by oreo8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to stay married to this jerk, or do you want someone who will cherish you?
One of the best gifts you can give your kids is a happy marriage so they have a good model of what to find for themselves when they're ready. You're not doing them any favors by staying in a bad relationship.
I wouldn't trust this guy as far as you can throw him. Face it, your marriage is pretty much over, for all intents and purposes. I think you should make the legal papers agree with reality. Life will get better; trust me. You might have a tough year ahead of you, but there is life after divorce. 50% of people do it, after all.
2007-09-20 16:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i've got been you : identity be ticked off, and annoyed and heated up through that on the 2nd, yet i think of if i gave it time and didnt yell at him or supply him that an excellent number of a concern approximately it, that is superb via fact i think of this might blow over. definite he replaced into sneaky through doing this, yet he needless to say states he likes you basically. He misses a chum and thats all it feels like right here. He doesnt want her back in any respect it style of feels like. So identity be mad, identity permit it flow, yet identity verify he's accustomed to he wont injury out with something like this back.
2016-10-19 06:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 40, you should know what to do, leave his a.s.s., don't put you are your kids through the pain, there are alot of guys out there that won't do this sort of thing. Just talk to him see if he still wants to be with you, if not, tell him not to let the door hit him in the a.s.s on the Way out!!!
2007-09-20 16:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation but you should talk to your husband, ask him to quit contact with all these women if he still loves you and the kids.
Be prepared for some awesome situation cos' right now he is "blinded" by his affairs.
Yes, I believe in praying to God, it really helps .....
All the best and god bless you.
2007-09-22 04:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by Charlyn Lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how painful it is. I feel the same.My husband even worst all dirty words in his smses.
Ask him is he having an affair ? That is what you like to know,right?
I asked my husband and he admitted it.
Are you ready for the answer? It will be more painful.
If you want to safe your marriage ,you need to talk to him. If not just leave.
God bless you
2007-09-21 01:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obtain the evidences of his adultery, then file for a divorce and ask for a huge amonut of maintenance fee for yourself and the kids.
This man don't deserve a chance.
2007-09-20 16:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need us to tell u he's cheating and he's into all those girls but try doing things different, spice it up in the bedroom, cook his favorite n take it 2 his work for lunch, plan a romantic evening. basically ya'lls fire has burned out , consider if its worth rekindling
2007-09-20 16:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by pretty black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you pray above all. Ask God for guidance. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
Do what you have to for you and your childrens well being. Pray and go with God!
2007-09-20 16:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Queen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋