At the moment I am 18 years old and going to college to becomed an English teacher. My boyfriend (22) is also going to college but to become a history teacher. We have been together for about a year now. I want to get married just not right now, but there is a problem: I have to have a child at 24. My mother had me at 24, her mother had her at 24, and so on and so forth as far back as we can remember. But when, between now and 24 , would be the time to get married. I know I don't have to have a child at 24. I shouldnt be rushed, but I want to keep the family tradition.
2007-09-20 15:30:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get married during your bf's last semester in college or just right after he graduates and gets and job. You can have two children one after you get married and the second when you are 24.
2007-09-20 16:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't base the start of your family on a tradition honey. It's not fair to that child. Suppose you wait, get married and that child comes late? Will it be a disappointment because you were 25 instead of 24? Or what happens if you rush things, you get pregnant way before you want to? There are so many variables here hon. Infertility, miscarriages, etc. I'm not wishing anything bad on you. I just think that for you to base your goal on something so meaningless, you are only setting yourself up for disappointment. I'm sure your mother didn't plan that, nor did her mom, and so on and so forth. Those things just happened by mere coincidence. Fate, if you believe. Finish school, make sure he's the one, and then plan your future. Alot can happen in six years sweetheart. WHen the time is right, you'll just know.
2007-09-20 15:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family tradition is happenstance and you shouldn't try to plan your life to fit into a rigid timeline. If I would have married the guy I thought I was going to marry when I was 18 I'd be very unhappy now. I also wanted to have kids by 24, but my twenties were a blast. Because I don't have kids I was able to go to law school after I worked for a few years. I'm married now, and my husband and I are excited to start a family. My point is, if you let it happen, it will--if you force it - it might break.
2007-09-20 15:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by AFM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to get married right away? You can wait a while just to make sure he is the one. Have fun being single. Being married is a big commitment, and at 18 and in collage are you ready for that just yet?
Having a baby at age 24 isn't bad and I'm sure you want to carry on with the tradition but don't just have a baby to have a baby because that isn't right for him/her.
This is also your choice. You really need to think this one down. Good luck!
2007-09-20 15:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamer! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't base your life on your parents past. your education should come first and marriage should be the furthest thing from your mind. I would wait and see what happens after you enjoy life for a while. I've had a son with my X-wife when I was 20, I struggled for a long time, with no further education but a few years of collage. I had to drop out to afford child support for my son. I waited a long time before even thinking of marriage again. Don't screw up your life at such a early age. Enjoy life and have fun for awhile. There is plenty of time for marriage and children. Good luck
2007-09-20 15:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere around 35 years old.
1st. You need to know what you really want out of LIFE in general
2nd. You need to know what you really want out of a MAN in general.
Just two major things! In other words. How do you want to live your life AND how do you what your man to be like with you? Example: do want to be with a life of party man OR a hardworking, old fashion, simple, sensitive family man. Do you want to be a hardworking wife that works hard at a job or something OR do you want to be a simple, housewife 24/7. DON'T GET PRESSURE INTO MARRIAGE! Just live with your boyfriend in like an apartment or something, just to get the feel of living with someone 24/7 and to be a full responsible adult...taking care of the bills, etc,etc. Stuff like that. Hope this helps.
2007-09-20 15:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by pain_of_unhappiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have babies in your twenties is insane why strap yourself in a house at an age where you should be out having the time of your life. I'm not putting down anyone who has had kids in their twenties I myself had a baby at 28 so please no thumbs down from you 20 year olds. Forget about the family tradition and do what is best for you not your mother or grandmother.
2007-09-20 15:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im pretty sure that is the one of the dumbest reasons I have ever heard to have a baby. Babies are supposed to be brought into this world out of love...not because of a time schedule. That is ignorant.
2007-09-20 16:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by stephensbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 18.
that's 6 years away.
so much can change in that time.
and the best time to get married is after you are done with your education and have stable jobs and can afford your lifestyle without a challenge.
2007-09-20 15:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts Get Over It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
2007-09-20 15:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋