i really want to get even...it hurts so much its killing me...i know that the only way that ill forgive him is if do the same thing to him...
2007-09-20 14:51:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go for it
2007-09-20 15:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are so wrong if you think that will make you feel better or stop the pain. Nothing stops the pain but time, if your heart is broke getting even by sleeping with someone is the last thing that enters your mind. Why do you feel you have to forgive him. If you don't want to forgive him then don't.It's been 10 years sense my husband cheated on me and i still have no intention of forgiving him.I love my husband and he knows i will not forgive him,why should i if i don't feel it,anyway forgiving him he saying it's all right what he did.
2007-09-20 22:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going to get deeper into depression and hurtfulness. It would be really foolish to do that, because in the end you are going to feel horrible. You want to hurt him? When he is out of the house, working, you pack your things and leave. If you have a place to go that he doesn't know about it. Don't call him, do not let him know where you are. Spend a week there without even contacting him. After a week of him being really worry, you show up and if he ask you where you were, just tell him "don't worry about it" Keep him like that for a month. he is going to imagine you staying with another guy for a week, and that's going to kill him. When he comes to you and says that he is sorry, that he loves you, that he wants your forgiveness, then tell him the truth. If he does the opposite, and don't even care to know where you were, then you'll know he doesn't love you. I bet you that he is going to come to you as docile as a little rabit.
2007-09-20 22:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Have you ever heard the phrase "two wrongs don't make a right"?
I know you must hurt a lot. But as it is with relationships, sometimes couples do work through adultery and build an even stronger marriage/relationship. If you went out and cheated on him, not only do you hurt him more, but you cut off any possibility of repairing the relationship. In addition, you may do something you may end up regretting and hating yourself for. Once you go over the line, you can't take it back.
Yes, I know he deserves some pain, but this is not the way.
2007-09-20 22:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really believe it will make it easier to forgive him if you cheat. I know exactly how you are feeling, though. I wanted my husband to have to feel all the hurt and pain and anguish and shame and humiliation; all of it, so he could really know how it felt. I couldn't do it to him, though. Because of all the reasons above; I couldn't purposely hurt ANYONE that much. But I sure had fun thinking about it. If you cheat on him, then he is off the hook; no reason for him to feel guilty or that he did any wrong. Better to try to get through the pain and hurt, right now, then when your head is clearer, you'll know what action to take. I am so sorry; I have been there and know how you are feeling. You are strong; you will make it.
2007-09-20 22:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting mad is normal, but getting even by doing another wrong is not the answer.. If you can't forgive him without getting revenge, then the marriage is over..You will both never trust each other again and what kind of a marriage is that? Sorry, but if you can't forgive and forget, then it's over.. The big D time..
2007-09-20 21:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Joanie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why become as bad as he is.... keep your dignity and above him, and as some have said two wrongs dont make a right, doing that wont make you feel any better anyway.
Only you know if you can move forward with him, after his cheating.
Been there as well, i know the extreme pain it causes,the way i got my revenge, how i got even was to move on with my life, to be happy, and you know what to this day it gets to him, it is the most rewarding and sweetest revenge in the end.
2007-09-20 22:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm. Come on. Challenge yourself to be a better person than that. Don't stoop to that level just to get even. Forgive him or Don't. Its that simple. Don't compromise your own values because he screwed up. Remember, he will always have to live with what he did. You can hold your head high and say you are a faithful wife. Sleep on that.
You Are More Than What He's Done To You.
2007-09-20 22:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to get revenge is childish, immature at best. So you cheat on your marriage, what would that prove? That you and your husband are a perfect match because neither of you has moral values or self respect.
2007-09-20 22:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "you know that the only way that ill forgive him is if do the same thing to him..."
Then why are you asking us?
2007-09-20 21:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Elt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop so low. Kick him to the curb ASAP. I did it after my husband of 24 years cheated on me. It hurt like hell at first and was very scary - but I ended up better off. I am now remarried to a wonderful, handsome man who is six years younger than me. I won in the end! He, on the other hand ended up alone, 40 pounds heavier, and bald. C'est La Vie!
2007-09-20 22:03:23 · answer #11 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋