1month ago my 5 year on and off relationship when my ex cheated on me.. After the many times he's broke up with me, I am now convinced, it's not worth it. although i was kinda stupid to held on to it sooo long.
last week, this guy a schoolmate from highschool, messaged me in my myspace.. that i look familiar and we used to go to the same church.. then exchanged yahoo IDs and from then on we chat almost everynight until early morning..
I dont know if he knows, but meeting him means a lot to me.. He works with a nonprofit christian org for the street kids and he asked me to help out in the music program cause i play the piano.. Meeting him, has made it easy for me to let go of the past.. because in just a week of meeting him.. I felt he's soo much better... I dont expect anything with what we have.. But it sure has helped me heal fast..
But do you think he likes me? or is he just being nice?
Thank you very much...
2007-09-20 15:01:13 · 16 answers · asked by terra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we see each other twice a week at the org teaching the kids together, then we IM everynight.. when im not on.. he sends me phone messages to get online cause he's bored..
2007-09-20 15:02:05 · update #1
Hon, you keep asking this question in a variety of ways... You have been holding on to the past and that's never good. If you hold on to something you can never really move forward more than arm's length. If you like the guy then keep doing what you're doing. Be a firend. If he likes you then he likes you and if he isn't seeing anyone else then he may just ask you out. Let the man do the asking. That's just how it should be.
Forget the old guy. He cheated on you. Once that is done than trust is forever broken and the possibility of cheating is always there.
Moving on and dealing with change are never easy and in fact they can be quite scary but they are necessary. Change is inevitable. You just have to learn how to deal with it.
Best wishes with the situation.
Put God first and trust Him. For all you know, God put you in this position to accomplish one or more things. You may meet the man He wants you with, but you may also be in the position to know what the rest of your life will be dedicated to. It sounds like this organization is a great tool to reach out to the community and share God with them.
"Seek ye FIRST the kingdom of God and all these things will be added on to you.... Which of you, by worrying, can add even one minute to your life?" (Matthew 6)
Don't worry. Put your life and future in God's hands and it will be all right. (And, no, this is not easy. In fact it is as the old cliche says- "easier said than done." But work at it. Believe me- it is so worth it!)
2007-09-20 16:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Too Blessed To Be Stressed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you sit down with him, and casually say that he means a lot to you, and that you would like to know if he considers you only as a friend, or if he thinks that your relationship has the potential to be something more.
Most guys who grew up in the church do not have a lot of experience with women, and it is possible that he has no idea what to say, or how to say it, and he is probably very shy. If you want to know what he is thinking, then you will probably have to ask him directly.
God bless and good luck!
2007-09-20 22:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, quit b.s.ing yourself. You havent even been on a date, not even for coffee. Until that works, you are in fantasy world with the IMs and telephone stuff. For all you know, this guy could have a girl already.
Life's too short, stop beating around the bush. That time on the phone could be spent in person.
2007-09-20 23:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Shell Answer Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christians do, for the most part, take discretion seriously and he's probably just trying to devise a way to gain your trust and that he doesn't want to offend you. Maybe he's sort of shy in that field and that he needs a little coaxing but, in any event, it's a good thing and that you two should hook up and make a go of it.
2007-09-20 22:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by !~"Fish On"~! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are about as receptive and keen to flirtation and suggestive hints as a brick wall. Go ahead and engage him further. Stop beating around the bush and next time he "IMs" you, stop talking about how Jesus is so wonderful and how much satisfaction you get from helping kids in God's name and talk to him honestly about how you feel. I'm sure he will reciprocate those feelings.
2007-09-20 22:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by FANatic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just being nice, but if he likes you, he really isn't worth it the way he cheated on you and with you on and off relationship. Go with that other guy you talk to.
2007-09-20 22:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it helped you to heal and get over the last relationship it sounds like he was going to be your rebound to begain with. So focus on the positive and take my advice ask yourself is he realy what you want or is it that he seems safe?
2007-09-20 22:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by sky_gray2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes you, there is something great about building a relationship on a solid friendship, take it slow and enjoy the ride
2007-09-20 22:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by shes_marie77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like if you two go for it, it could really become somethin'. You'll never know by askin' random online people! Go talk to him...
2007-09-20 22:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lucky Charmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a nice guy to me....
2007-09-20 22:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by loofa36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋