I have a friend who is bisexual, her husband knows she is bisexual, he has known since the beginning. Well she told me today that he asked her if she wanted a girlfriend. He told her that she could have a girlfriend, but the only way her and the girlfriend could have sex would be if he was there to watch or for a threesome. Now he told her that he would not have intercourse with the woman, just her. He said it was for her pleasure and he just wanted to make her happy any way he could. She told me that she had told him she had been having desires to be with a woman sexually, and that is how the entire converstation came about. She asked me my opininon, but I couldn't really give her an answer, what do you all think? Please no crazy or mean answers, I just want honest opinions.
2007-09-20 16:42:02 · 21 answers · asked by fglns 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of men are turned on by the thought of watching two women pleasure each other. In a marriage if the woman is bi and the husband is that agreeable, then I think it is ok. But I'm sure that it's not just for her pleasure that he made the stipulation that she could only have sex with the other woman if he was present, he wants to watch and get turned on completely by the scene. If she really wants to make it with another woman, then I think her husband is being more than reasonable and she should agree especially if he remains celebate with her during the whole thing. Who knows she may be turned on even more knowing her husband is watching everything, their sex may be even better.
2007-09-20 16:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY way this works, (and it does work in some cases) is that the husband and wife can not in the least be jealous of anything or anyone and can trust in the relationship. THEN everyone has to have sex with everyone. The new woman would probably be bisexual rather than lezbian so sooner or later she is going to want something from him or he is going to want someone else and her to watch. If they can find the right person that likes both of them (or loves both) then they could have a three way relationship without the mistrust and jealously. Otherwise, someone will get mad and this will end in a divorce. The ironic part would be if the girlfriend ended up with the husband rather than the man losing the wife to the girlfriend.
2007-09-20 17:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it okay for a woman to want another woman but if she said she wanted a boyfriend guarenteed he wouldn't want to watch. That's just being unfaithful. And that just shows his commitment to her as well. he wants to be able to "cheat" too by being with the other woman. Sounds like neither is really committed. And I don't believe u can be bisexual- you like one or the other. Sounds like they're both emotionally unstable. Too complicated. Don't get married if you're going to start invititng others into the relationship. Next thing you know there's going to be "threesome weddings"and 2 couple weddings legalized.
2007-09-20 16:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by whisperer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a disaster waiting to happen. I wouldn't bring other women into the bedroom with my husband in a million years. I'm not that foolish to think that I'm all that and he wouldn't leave for the other chick or they could continue on with an affair afterwards without the wife.
2007-09-20 16:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by marie s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hehe that's so humorous, i think of I quite have suggested 5 issues out of all of them, yet conserving in concepts i'm in basic terms a splash a tomboy and that i admire motorcycles, vehicles and nudity.. LOL.. this become a classic.. yet to be honest, i dont think of you will possibly ever come across a female that announces all of them.. :)
2016-11-06 00:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the wife is going to fulfill every guy's fantasy. Guys are always wanting to watch to women together. Don't think he is agreeing to this just to make her happy, he is getting something out of it, too.
2007-09-20 16:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both adults and consenting ones at that so I see no problem if that is how they choose to live but I would wonder how much impact it will have in their relationship further down the line.
2007-09-20 16:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that;s what they want to do fine, at least she;s being upfront with him about it. The downside is that if an emotional detachment develops between her and the girl it will likely break them up.
2007-09-20 16:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say that if her husband is ok with it than go with it, its not like shes doing it behind his back, and if shes open with him watching her then thats a plus for her she gets the best of both worlds....but if it was me and i was bi i wouldnt get married so i wouldnt have to be put in that kind of situation but thats just my opinion.
2007-09-20 16:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men have that fantasy of watching women have sex It's common. He thinks it will arouse him.. it probably will. If she is comfortable with that... He is in lala land though if he thinks that his wife's girlfriend would be happy with that plan.
Whatever turns you on I guess.
2007-09-20 16:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by teritaur 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋