Marriage & Divorce - 31 August 2007

I have bitched too much about this in yahoo answers, but it's really painful and confusing. After two years of being separated my wife has asked me for divorce. We had been seeing each other all these two years and having some kind of relationship. We live in different cities and now she decided we should end it definitively. She even recognizes I'm a good man but she says we're not in the same channel so to speak. I tried to find friends where I live and go out, but didn't find any. Suddenly, she says that we should divorce and not even have contact as friends, which hurt me pretty bad, days later she says: maybe we should talk more about it, I'm afraid to be making a mistake. The back and forth things hurts a lot too. I know I won't find a definitive answer here, but it feels good to just share this... and know other people's thoughts.

2007-08-31 08:13:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-31 08:04:04 · 74 answers · asked by Anonymous

to pick up some books before i start working,i already told my husband the night before and he didnt say anything, we went in a restaurant and had 1 drink, and talking about job,my husband call me 2 times, and was angry because his friend didnt ask him to meet me..afteri left i called him and he started yelling at me why i went to the bar with another guy..we just meet to get those books, and thats all..i never even thought about cheeting my husband..he is saying that is not his friend any more , even though they know eachother for many years, and that i trust him..before that i went to visit his parents, and he asked me did i tell his parents that i am meeting guy in a bar..today his mom called me to see did i get the books i told her that her son is angry because i meet his friend to get that for work...what to do

2007-08-31 07:54:42 · 10 answers · asked by Marina S 2

2007-08-31 07:50:12 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1

I can tell. I've always been sought after by men, but this is different because I feel he's being blatant, though subtle enough so it's only him and I who are aware of this.

Trouble is, i've had a crush on him since before he got married, when I first started working here. He's very attractive and highly established and asserts authority and exhudes confidence, to the point of *********. I'm sure i'm not the only one.

I don't know what's going on in his marriage. It's fairly new. But what if he tries something? Would I be totally wrong to submit to him? After all, he's not my husband, he's hers. And the fault should lie with him, imho.

2007-08-31 07:41:26 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife will not ever try anything new...it's to the point now that i don't even want to make love with her anymore because it's either one way or the other and nothing new. it's boring to me, and i'm tired of it...what am i supposed to do?

2007-08-31 07:39:19 · 37 answers · asked by ? 1

2007-08-31 07:33:29 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-31 07:13:46 · 29 answers · asked by annleo04 1

diffrent state who will have jurisdiction?

2007-08-31 07:11:25 · 8 answers · asked by Dannielle F 1

my boyfriend is causing arguements and when we argue he alway says oh thid aint gunna work and then breaks up with me for like an hour or 2 and i always begg for him back

2007-08-31 07:10:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

There is something that my husband wants to do in the bedroom that I am completely uncomfortable with and he nags until about one time a month he gets his way. I don't even want to be in the same room with him anymore. How can I make him understand how I feel about it. And is it even fair of me to say no?

2007-08-31 07:08:24 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I both work full time but she also goes to school, so we share the chores (but really I do most of them). I do not mind because I am a bit of clean freak, and I figure if I take care of a majority of the chores, she will have more time to concentrate on her studies and get more organized with her work/school life. However, my wife is the unorganized type and has the bad habit of waiting until the last minute to get things done. So when things aren't done, she gets mad and blames me for not helping her. The times that I even offered to help she would tell me that she will handle it, but then get mad at me when things go wrong. I tell her to ask me if she needs help with work/school, but she thinks she shouldn't have to ask and that I should know better. I feel like she thinks I should be like her mom and that she can act like an infant child and not look out for herself sometimes. Any advice?

2007-08-31 07:08:19 · 8 answers · asked by fsfdsfsf 2

2007-08-31 06:58:16 · 39 answers · asked by know_no_no2006 1

my husband and i have been separated for a while now. he moved out of our house and moved in with a mutual friend of ours. he and i have been trying to work on our relationship, but recently i have heard from mutual friends that they are dating. i have also found pictures of them on websites. the pictures do not tell much. just regular pictures, but she write captions like... we are in love, and stuff like that. when i have asked him about it, he has always denied any relationship between them other then sharing a house. i know she is on medication and such. i'm starting to wonder if... either she is lying and this is her way of manipulating the situation in hopes of breaking us up for good or he is lying. how can i find out the truth?

2007-08-31 06:53:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-31 06:50:52 · 27 answers · asked by Sparkles 2

I know this is such a horribal thing i did but sometimes you just cant help who you fall in love with. ( Now i see it was lust) We both decided to break it off. So i recently met someone (2 months after we broke up) and he found out about it. Now he is the nastiest most cruel person to me ever. I dont think satin could be this mean. This is a really great job and i cant leave. Any advice? And NO, im not going to threten him with "im telling your wife". Thats just childish

2007-08-31 06:24:19 · 19 answers · asked by Page 2

2007-08-31 06:00:44 · 21 answers · asked by KerBear 1

can he get in trouble for this if i go to the police and use this as evidence of abuse and how about for the divorce. What can I do to get him off my back?

2007-08-31 05:58:37 · 33 answers · asked by WhErE Do I BeGiN??? 1

I checked my husband's voicemail and heard a woman calling him baby among other things. She left 4 voicemails. When I asked him he said he just got her number but never cheated. He also confessed to taking another girl's number. What should I do?

2007-08-31 05:57:48 · 12 answers · asked by tasha j 1

In the winter I walk fully clothed, and when something fell off or I showed him a piece of skin, he would oogle and want some.

now in the summer, i walk in my birthday suit all the time, and he barely notices me anymore! he doesn't stare etc

and i don't like it one bit. what should i do to remedy it? could all that nakedness have de-sensetized his visual senses so much that he does n't look anymore or if he does look he's like "whatever?"

i'm 11 weeks prego btw, if that adds anything to this.

2007-08-31 05:36:12 · 18 answers · asked by chapped lips 5

I have been married 7 years and I believe I will love him forever... I stare at him sometimes when hes sleeping (I know creepy) and think how blessed I am.. he still laughs uncontrollably when I tell him that a yardsale gave me a woody (I am a women) . I guess its because we are so alike in so many ways..and yet very different..

2007-08-31 05:31:02 · 50 answers · asked by GrassRootsRabbits 3

2007-08-31 05:24:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

As far as cheating goes I have quite a dilemna to overcome?
My fiancee' and I were going through some difficult times with lack of communication and general discontent. She went out one night with one of her friends. I found out from that friend that she met this guy and ended up going to the bar with him. On the way to the bar they made out. On there way back they managed to find themselves in an alley where he was able to get her pants off. She said there was never penetration - just that he tried to put it in for a few minutes but didnt and then she said stop and pulled up her pants and "just licked it". Is this a believable story? I'm inclined to believe she is lying and that they did have intercourse. If it were the truth is it cheating...should I end our engagement...I mean is this going to happen again. It is a tough decision and I will make it with my heart but respectful outside opinions are very appreciated.

2007-08-31 05:22:15 · 42 answers · asked by diggittey 3

My kid's father seems to think because we have kids that he has to know about every detail in my life! He basically tells me because I'm his kids mother he HAS to worry about everything I do. OMG! I am not his kid and if we're not together I shouldn't have to deal with his BS anymore. I feel like he expects me to always come him when something is going on. Oh and did I mention that it's been more that a year since our split and I'm married to someone else! But still I'm arguing my kid's father like if we're still together. It's crazy!! If anyone else has had this problem and has solved it please give me some advice.

2007-08-31 05:21:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before my husband and I got married, we agreed that porn, dirty magazines....ect.....were not good for our marriage. Well, my husband used to have a problem with porn, but he says he no longer does. He used to also buy maxim, stuff....ect. Well, here lately, he has argued with me that the things in those type of magazines are not bad, and that he doesn't like to read them for the half naked/naked girls that are in them. Well, it really bothers me that he thinks like that because I am thinking he wants to get back into that kind of stuff. Am I over-reacting for being so hurt. Serious answers only please....I realize that some of you see nothing wrong with porn and dirty magazines, but I do think that they are wrong, and there is no way I will change my opinion of these things.

2007-08-31 05:19:30 · 27 answers · asked by Kelli S 2

My husband has always been a lazy slacker. He's interested in all kinds of games, such as video games, making models, chess games,etc. He's chauvinistic, thinking women should do all the housework. He often wears dirty clothes to work with messy hair. I feel disgusted and hate him. Besides, we're sexually unharmonious. Not one in a year. Should I get a divorce?

2007-08-31 05:03:41 · 37 answers · asked by Cindy Q 1

I'm an educated woman with a decent upbringing. Hot stuff my friends say. I project an image that charrms people of all walks of life, BUT with a deep dark secret: I have fallen for a married guy. Tough for me, but I couldn't just break away. He's a poor guy, not college grad, and extremely good-looking. Whenever somebody eligible comes along, I'd feel guilty of two-timing , so I'd abruptly put an end to a good prospect. I get scared whenever someone is in dire pursuit of me. I get more interested with a reserved guy, someone who's hard to crack, who'd keep me guessing, am I the only one. There are times tho' when I'd prefer not to see this current boyfriend, when things get too comfy. This mood swing confuses me. Is it simply a woman's physiological imbalance? I wish I'd meet a soulmate who would make me feel complete. Or would I still stand a chance of finding one? I'm a nice person, in gen terms, nurturing, in fact, a top exec, intellectual, but lost. Oh, am separated, btw

2007-08-31 04:56:21 · 10 answers · asked by Gaea 1

Like the title says I am getting married! I met her at a cafe and compliminted me on my glasses and I complimented on how she looks so cute so she sat down and we talked she had a major in philosophy and was a college teacher. so we went on a date and it went pretty well she has a sparkling personality and she is pretty cute and pretty. so 5 years later proposed to her and she said yes!! now we are getting married tommorow and we follow the tradition of not seeing the bride till the wedding. my best friend is my best man. But am starting to get cold feet about this is that normal? I mean before we started she said that she was exited for sex on the honey moon but i don't think I'm ready for the sex yet and if I don't think that i'm ready for that then should I be getting married in the first place? I need your opnions on this.

2007-08-31 04:51:02 · 14 answers · asked by j.r. 3

2007-08-31 04:48:47 · 50 answers · asked by Heather H 1

I am in need of some serious advice. I am a stay st home mom and my husband is the only one bringing in any income. We live at his parents house since he doesn't make much money and we couldn't afford to pay the bills we already have otherwise. Now I find out nothing is getting paid anyway. I'm getting calls all day from collectors about this and that and I am completely in the dark. I just assume that since he is getting paid and we have no money that it is going to these bills. To the $500 a month car he insists on having, his $175 insurance payment, his 3 credit cards that he himself maxed out and a loan he took out a few years back. I have insisted on working and he flips out saying we absolutely can't put the baby in daycare and he just doesn't have the patience to take care of her while I work at night and on the weekends. I don't know what to do about this. It's just killing my nerves. He won't get a secong job or bend on anything.

2007-08-31 04:36:28 · 24 answers · asked by Ruby Tuesday 3