You make a choice. You leave your spouse and hope the other person will, too, or you stop all contact with the other person and work on your marriage.
Personally, I would advise that you break off all contact with the other person.
If you don't make a choice soon, the situation could be found out and your spouses will make a decision for you. It might not be the one you want....
2007-08-31 04:55:28
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answered by Melanie J 5
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The only way this happens is when you allow it to. Where is your integrity? Why are you so greedy? Listen to the advise of these people! You have a choice. You don't go into details about your marriage, so it is hard to find out why you'd even want someone else. Marriage isn't like "things." You don't just throw it away or swap, when it isn't giving you what you want or need. You need to work hard at making it the best. Choose to find out what you can do to save your marriage. Step one is to stop all contact w/the other man. Trust me, even if you leave your current husband for this other man and you two get together, if you don't change your integrity and greed, you'll be here again. Good luck.
2007-08-31 05:06:42
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answered by Brain 4
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You got married to the person you are with for better or for worse...no matter what. Ask anyone, no marriage is perfect and it is hard work. The easy way out of a situation is to ignore your marriage and seek what you lack in someone else. I urge you to stay faithful and work at your marriage...both of you deserve that. The same goes for the other married couple. You need to avoid the other person and focus on your own husband. Bring the romance back, go on a date, have a nice meal...anything! Just don't take what appears to be the easy way out...it will not only sabotage your marriage, but that of the other person as well.
2007-08-31 05:02:39
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answered by Kim 5
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You need marriage counseling or at least you need counseling. Obviously there are some issues you need to deal with. Are you sure you did the right thing getting married? Maybe you need to re-consider this? Its not fair to be with someone when you really aren't IN love or have feelings for someone else. Your spouse deserves to be happy and the truth so you need to reevaluate all these things. Maybe you should just forget about that guy and move away from that situation. How would you feel if your husband was doing something similiar to you? Treat your husband how you want to be treated... or maybe there is something missing in the relationship that you need to discuss with your husband. But don't go there, stay away from that man and do the right thing, be faithful to your husband. Honey you'll regret it and its just not good...There's a saying that if you sin with your hand then cut if off cause its better to lose a hand then to lose your body and soul....
2007-08-31 04:52:19
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answered by 2legit2quit 5
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Breaking up another family is worse than murder, Every person in the situation becomes bitter and dies a little bit every day. Leave him alone, tempting him to be evil is not love. Seek wisdom, get marriage counseling; try to be grateful for all the good things YOUR husband has provided ,value his effort. A good woman creates a happy loving home... Who tears down their own home and throws her children out to the wolves. It is up to you to spice up your own sex life at home. It's not fair to either of you to withhold your sensuality and then say see we do not get along. Good luck hope you start making good decisions for your family; in the end your true happiness lies in their well being!!
Maybe try looking at the Riddle and Joke section:
It will get your mind off inappropriate people,
It will cheer and lighten your day,
It will give you something to share with your cute little hubby
later (always impresses him when you can carry off a
Good joke)
2007-08-31 05:42:25
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answered by stump the bump 2
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You are treading on some very dangerous ground
in a high stakes game....
First, you need to ask yourself whether
you are really prepared to lose everything-
because that is what will happen once this
affair is out in the open-
and if there are any children involved-
yours or his-
what is going to be best for them
has to come first- ahead of your feelings.
For now-
Just keep your lip zipped and do nothing,
until you can figure out whether you
are really in love, or if this is just
a passing infatuation based
on looks and physical needs.
Don't do anything until you know
the answer to that question-
2007-08-31 04:58:47
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answered by DG 5
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First of all, you should not have gotten yourself into this situation. How could you fall in love with someone other than whom you're committed to.
Take a few steps back and tell yourself that you messed up.
Focus on your marriage. Focus on your husband. And tell the married guy to do the same. Don't keep in contact with the married guy... don't go near the places where you run into each other... create boundaries. Hold to them. Work on your marriage and falling back in love with your husband.
2007-08-31 04:58:11
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answered by Anonymous
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The grass ain't always greener on the other side. Another married man will tell you what you want to hear, to make you feel he's better than your man now. You have to compare the two, and look at it as a whole, do you really want this guy you're ******* around with, or would you rather keep the loving husband til death do you part?!
2007-08-31 04:55:34
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answered by StonerChick 3
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You deal by making your marriage your priority!!! What the heck is going on with all these married people and their hormones? Getting married too young, me thinks. For better or worse, remember; keep oneself only unto their beloved whom they married. Grow up, respect your marriage and your spouse or leave so your spouse can find someone a whole lot better and more deserving than you.
2007-08-31 04:54:14
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answered by gma 7
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By focusing on your marriage partner and having absolutely no contact with this other person. Why? Because it would hurt innocent people if you pursue this, like both of your spouses, and if their are kids involved, they will get hurt, too. And for what? Because you are bored with your partner and are lusting after someone else? That's what's really going on. Perhaps it's time to work on doing things to make your marriage better rather than worse.
2007-08-31 05:03:44
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answered by Stefka 5
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My mother did this to me and left my dad for another guy and lied about where she was staying. Her new man is married still but the wife has alzehimers disease and she is so advanced she is put into a rest home and this is really ****** messed up. Don't be stupid and reck somebodys else's marriage.
2007-08-31 04:59:58
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answered by Amber H 2
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