Marriage & Divorce - 31 August 2007

Read the whole thing on her site.. I had to abbrieviate
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2007-08-31 16:16:17 · 6 answers · asked by Alexandria 2

he is trying to put the blame on me.the reason we didn't have sex is because he was having sex with other woman and we had 2 children and I had to worry about contracting a std and dying. Does this make sence to anyone else but me. I stayed with him hoping he would quit and come to his sences. He also tells me that I have turned our children against him because I told them about this other woman but I had to tell them I kicked him out of the house . I had to tell the kids why or they would have tought I lost my mind. Is he just stupid or does he have a point or am I crazy for kicking him out . I am so confused We had been married for 23yrs and I CANT GET OVER HIM.

2007-08-31 16:11:33 · 44 answers · asked by jusayg 2

2007-08-31 16:10:25 · 11 answers · asked by twysted469 1

Is there any way to get out without hurting her feelings? Should I act like a jerk so she will be the one who breaks up with me?

2007-08-31 16:10:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married 2 1/2 years, and he agreed to "try" for a baby. Now it seems like when it's that right time of the month to try he finds excuses why we can't have sex. When I try to talk to him about it, he either doesn't want to discuss it, or he gives me all the reasons why we shouldn't have kids. Any advice? Thanks

2007-08-31 16:09:14 · 7 answers · asked by Penny P 5

Been married over 18 years and have a wife that is so into her work. This is a typical week/weekend.... If she's not talking about work or people at work, shes watching home improvement shows, medical shows or anything else on T.V. When I bring up something of different interest, she just looks as if you took her away from some dire emergency. Unreal !! Anyone else have a spouse like this that shows absolutely no interest in what the other mate is doing???? Frustrated in nowhere land.

2007-08-31 15:58:04 · 13 answers · asked by six7foru 2

in a nut shell: wife had three miscarries, went through invetro the last one. left me for another man, while she was still pregant with the planned baby.(which she miss carried). Got pregant with new guy and had a natural birth when told she couldnt. left him and she wants me back. Got divorced because she wanted it, i feel it was hormones and the stress of three miscarries that caused her to make poor choices. She cost me alot of money and heartache. But i love her. she left the father of her baby and we are trying to work it out. Am i crazy or do i put my heart first.

2007-08-31 15:55:58 · 13 answers · asked by jobu 2

When I'm in a hot dress, hair done and make up, I will rarely get a male glance. Yet, when I have no make-up, hair looks like crap, am in a tee shirt and old jeans, men will approach me and flirt. Why is that?

2007-08-31 15:45:03 · 16 answers · asked by Sondra 6

is it worth staying w/him if he bugs you mostly?
& i mean he can really bug you. not so bad other than that

2007-08-31 15:18:39 · 17 answers · asked by jennie 4

My husband is always on the computer looking at porn...and I mean ALWAYS. He even yells at me if I go into the room to clean or get something. I don't have anything against porn, and I understand that men love to watch it, but it is ruining his life. He'll stay up till 4 in the morning (he wakes me up when he climbs into bed) when he has to go to work at 10 the next day. I give him sex plenty, once a day, sometimes twice. I am currently 5 months pregnant and recently had an eating disorder. He says I'm very "sexy" and "hot", but I can't help but start to hate the way I look. I am so close to restricting my calories and over exercising, but I want to be healthy for my unborn baby. It's ruining my self esteem, and I feel hopeless. I just want to make him happy and he does not stop! What can I say to him? Please help?

2007-08-31 15:12:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I understand there is a high divorce rate among firefighters and wondering the reasons. thanks

2007-08-31 14:51:21 · 8 answers · asked by haloperidol4u 2

What should I do? 3 days before our anniversary I found out my husban was seeing another girl, It broke my heart when he told me He was not sure if he still loved me. Well we kind of worked through it but I can't stop thinking about some of the hurtfull things he said to me. and Text messages I read that he wrote to her, He told her things like he wished he was with her and not me, and said he would divorse me for her. Well He also works with her and everytime he goes to work, I just feel sick to my stomach that he is still talking to her. What should I do? I am HEART BROKEN!

2007-08-31 14:03:42 · 29 answers · asked by Crystal Wilson 2

2007-08-31 14:02:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

how did u know they were the one for you?

2007-08-31 14:01:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-31 13:59:32 · 10 answers · asked by Chanel P 2

2007-08-31 13:41:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've met my wife's mother a few times and she is STRIKINGLY similar to John Adams. She has the same hair color and baldness, she's old, she's a bit fat just like him, she also knows a lot about history, and their faces just look the same.

I'm having dinner with her tomorrow and do you think it'd be funny if I told my wife and her mother that she looks like John Adams?

2007-08-31 12:58:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-31 12:48:17 · 14 answers · asked by Page 4

He was appointed executor of the estate. I traveled to California with him to help settle affairs and arrange the estate sale. This took over one month. In the following months, I assisted with phone calls and correspondence. We reside in the state of Illinois. My husband deposited the entire inheritance funds into his personal checking account. Am I entitled to a portion of these funds immediately, or do I have to wait until he decides to compensate me for my time and effort? I assume that if anything were to happen to him, the money would automatically go to me (if there is any left after he is finished blowing it). Just in case any serious marital problems arise, what are my rights to this money?

2007-08-31 12:37:16 · 70 answers · asked by flashforcash1 2

My wife is always against me ! no matter what the discussion is, she always wants to have the last word, she always wants to be right... extending this to some obvious nonsenses !
She even views things that work well being the fruit of here work, and when it doesn't she attributes it to me !!!

Funnily she is very shy in public and is almost always silent, here degree of affirmation in public has nothing to do with the one she has with me !
On the other hand I tend to be rather talkative and convincing ... publicly.

She tells me that she feels well with me, this is why ...
I accept this to a certain extent ... but i still wish here to develop a bit more aggressivity in public and to be a bit more submissive with me !!

What should i understand in here attitude ?
How can I change this ?
Is soemething wrong in the relation ?

Thanks

2007-08-31 12:29:03 · 12 answers · asked by tomcat 4

This is in CALIFORNIA. I have all the details such as CASE# and everything about the divorce case. My friend does not want to call the lawyer because he is lazy and charges a lot for each call she makes. Can we check the status of her divorce caseonline? Or what is the number to call? This is in California, Solano COUNTY. Pls advise.

2007-08-31 12:12:49 · 4 answers · asked by pinaytechie 2

I dated a guy for 2 yrs.He broke-up with me b/c his dad said I was too young for him (4 yrs younger). I was so heart broken. He wanted to get back together the same week.I always hated when couples would break-up and get back together several times so, I made a "rule" that I would never go back w/ someone who broke up w/ me.For the next 4 years I received letters, pictures, and visits from him while he was in the army.I think about him often.I feel like he's my one true love.What's the problem you may ask?I'm married with 4 children.My husband and I have to work hard to make our realtionship work.I know that it's not all a bed of roses but I also know that we don't have chemistry like I had with 1st love.I saw him today & cried afterwards.I have so many questions.I think I believe that everything happens for a reason.Like we didn't get back together. We both married other people. I think he feels the same way. I know I would never act on it, just wanted some opinions.

2007-08-31 12:12:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I'll try to sum everything up in 1000 characters. I've been with my husband for 5 years. We got together when I was pregnant with #1 (not his). We had #2, got married. Had #3, and now I'm preg. w/ #4. He is out of the house from 7am till 10pm. We have our own little contractor business, so I stay at home with the kids, answer phone calls, do all paperwork, etc...He only does the physical labor. Then he comes home, eats and passes out. But not after waking the kids up to give them candy he bought them on the way home. So every night, I have 3 hyper kids at 11pm...and he's sleeping through it all. The kids usually pass back out around 12am, and I'm free to take my shower. Last night, He woke up at 1am as I'm getting into bed and told me that I had to go and find all of this paperwork he needed for today (we're moving, so everything is in boxes). I get done at 3am and am really tired and angry with him. Then he asks for sex. I say no, and he starts saying things.

2007-08-31 12:01:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I get so mad at my husband sometimes that I wonder why I married him. It's over small stuff. He doesn't abuse me or our children.

I have learned to drop my expectations for him. Like him helping me clean the kitchen after dinner or... expecting him to clean up after himself, etc. (He doesn't treat me like his maid.) When I dropped them, it helped me to not get so mad at him all the time. He's actually gotten better without me nagging him. Any way... I sometimes wonder if I really love him or not.

2007-08-31 11:48:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Things you can do at home..I Cant get out at the moment!.

2007-08-31 11:46:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a married girl and having a small kid and I am deeply involved with a guy who is 9 years elder than me and who is married with 2 small kids.We really understand eachother better than our spouses.My hubby hurts me emotionally every time and he has promised me 2 times that he will change but he keeps on hurting me degrading my character even before when I didnt have anything with anybody.This guy I love is married for 20 years and he is married to her not because of love but because of fear,She always threatens him like goign to jump from the balcony with the kids or even before marriage she used to bang him and threaten him saying she is going to jump from the subway and etc.I have seen with my own eyes how sge treats him and humiliates him in front of his relations and family .She yells and talks very rudely while this guy is bearing up everything.Nowadays we have planned to settle things with our partners and trying to get a divorce so we can move on and live together.willit work

2007-08-31 11:44:33 · 18 answers · asked by pinkgirl 1

I am home with the kids during the day and my DH has said, "don't yell at my kids" in front of our kids on two occasions. The first time was a while back and I was in tears. I contemplated staying with him or not. This last time he said it and my daughter who was watching the whole thing, not more than a few feet away- got a wry look on her face when he said it. I felt like she was thinking, "uh-oh. How you going to deal with this one, Mom?"

Ever since then I have been contemplating a way out. It's been 7 years and he berates me in front of the kids and never apologizes for this behavior.

2007-08-31 11:34:33 · 12 answers · asked by wawas7 2

2007-08-31 11:34:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married last year after meeting her for a week after a family introduction; our was to saty engaged for two years and get to know each other better before getting married; circumstances changed and was somehow married within three months. I know I was weak to get married looking back but there is little that can be down now. We broke up after she attempted suicide for the second time in a week after a few difficulties.
I had enough by that time as she forced me to breal contact with my family and forced me to move 400 miles away form london and live with her parents.
I was not happy. A year later she decides to start a divorce after my solicator said to her that we would start the process. She made allegations that I had been sleeping wiith prostitutes throughout the marriage and that i never gave her any money.
She is form a very wealthy family and is a diirector in her family business. Her father owns a business employing three hundred staff.

2007-08-31 11:31:01 · 16 answers · asked by omg my wife is a nutter 2

I have been married for 15 years. I found out that my husband has been seeing the same woman for 5 years He is a good provider, father and caring husband. Their hasent been very much sex for about 10 years and I thaught it was because of his medical conditon I do not miss the sex but I do not know what to do I have spoken with him and he does not want to end the marriage but he does not want to give her up. What will I do.

2007-08-31 11:21:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous