I got married last year after meeting her for a week after a family introduction; our was to saty engaged for two years and get to know each other better before getting married; circumstances changed and was somehow married within three months. I know I was weak to get married looking back but there is little that can be down now. We broke up after she attempted suicide for the second time in a week after a few difficulties.
I had enough by that time as she forced me to breal contact with my family and forced me to move 400 miles away form london and live with her parents.
I was not happy. A year later she decides to start a divorce after my solicator said to her that we would start the process. She made allegations that I had been sleeping wiith prostitutes throughout the marriage and that i never gave her any money.
She is form a very wealthy family and is a diirector in her family business. Her father owns a business employing three hundred staff.
2007-08-31 11:31:01 · 16 answers · asked by omg my wife is a nutter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why should you pay her anything? What did she contribute to the marriage and what did you contribute?
2007-08-31 11:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can see that she has treated you badly, but try to be patient as mental health problems are beyond her control. Obviously this doesn't excuse what she has said, but it will be a factor in her behaviour. Whatever went on between you, I hope you and her family are encouraging her to get help with a therapist. Perhaps it would be best, and least stressful for you both if you postponed the divorce until she was a little more settled emotionally? I cant see any reason why you should have to pay any settlement as you didn't have a marital home or children together, or I imagine, any assets of any significant value since you were together such a short time. If you can sort it out amicably between yourselves it will save you both a lot of money (and stress!) so offer your support over some counselling and suggest dealing with it when she is feeling stronger. I offer you my very best wishes as divorce is a horrible thing.
2007-08-31 11:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Need2know 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as "alimony" in English law, and no such thing as a prenup, and where a prenup exists, the courts do not recognise them. Also, English courts no longer deal with child maintenance payments, a government agency handles them. Anyway, all she is entitled to are half of any marital assets she made a fair contribution to. English divorce settlements which do not include former Beatles and one-legged models usually end with each person keeping what they brought into the marriage and half of what they amassed together, and counting time raising a family as a fair contribution, rather than just looking at money.
Judges generally do not expect men to keep the ex wife forever, especially where there are no children and the marriage was only short. I think you owe her nothing, and she owes you nothing. Don't worry about her lies. Judges have seen it all before, her recent self-harming antics will sway the judge towards taking her word with a pinch of salt. Enjoy your freedom.
Her cutting you off from your family can be construed as unreasonable behaviour, and good grounds for divorce.
It is also worth noting that orders issued in English civil courts are generally not worth the paper they are written on, especially where the person failing to comply is female, there are often no repercussions for breaching court orders!
Sounds like it should go ok for you.
2007-08-31 11:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Phil McCracken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need good legal advice to answer that question, but if i were you i would be seeking an annulment.
Do you have any evidence of the suicide attempts, like hospital rcords or such?
If you can confidently state that she was not in her right mind when you married, you can annul.
Get some proper legal advice. If its a matter of money, there are many legal advice centres around for free, but its worth keeping on top of things.
Play your cards right and you may be able to claim a settlement.
2007-08-31 12:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
inspite of no count number if he's saying he did or did no longer have amorous affairs with this female. while a guy and female marry eachother, they connect lives in each element, which contains funds(till a prenup). For the easy actuality that he grew to become into secretly tapping into their value reductions so as to pay for yet another womans gasoline, she has each suitable to react how she wills to this. a marriage is approximately have faith, and the information tutor that he strongly went against the have faith element. like it says above, he has toddlers, and works six days each week 9 hours. How approximately putting your toddlers and spouse first in the previous you paintings those style of hours to have spare funds for secret womans gasoline. After this actual element is made, then hardship on the subject of the affair, which Im confident he's mendacity approximately that too!
2016-12-12 14:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... 8 weeks is not a marriage and if she attempted suicide twice in a week then you should be suing for what you have been thru and the fact you were cheated. dont pay anything be strong.
2007-08-31 12:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe then you should get an alimony from her? ;)
Why would you marry or be engaged for two years with some stranger?
2007-08-31 11:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she has more money than you, she may have to pay you a settlement - make sure you have as few assets as possible and speak to a solicitor.
2007-08-31 11:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your right about one thing...there is no point in regrets what is done is done. dont let her take you for a ride...if she wants a fight give her one especially if she has made you feel miserable!!!
she's a total gold digger...tell her to spend her own money and leave you alone!!!
2007-08-31 11:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by david k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A couple things: 1. If you can prove that you have no income, you won't have to pay. 2. If a judge orders you to pay, you have to pay. 3. And, unless you have signed pre-nuptials, you're screwed.
2007-08-31 11:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋