I get so mad at my husband sometimes that I wonder why I married him. It's over small stuff. He doesn't abuse me or our children.
I have learned to drop my expectations for him. Like him helping me clean the kitchen after dinner or... expecting him to clean up after himself, etc. (He doesn't treat me like his maid.) When I dropped them, it helped me to not get so mad at him all the time. He's actually gotten better without me nagging him. Any way... I sometimes wonder if I really love him or not.
2007-08-31 11:48:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage is about
1. giving yourself in service to another
2. accepting another
3. and committing to love that person
and doing so without exceptions or conditions
No one promised that would be easy
being in love with someone goes in cycles, just hang in there and love him that much more. You already answered your question .
2007-08-31 12:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is possible. Its called remembering noone is perfect. I have been married for 18 years and I would marry him all over again. There are times I want to pull my hair out and there have been some that I wonder why I married him but then he does or says something that makes me remember why I married him. Besides if you want to remain married have the mindset divorce is not an option (except in abuse cases)
2007-08-31 19:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by LISA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you love someone unconditionally doesn't mean that we will never get upset or angry. I mean think about your children... don't you love them unconditionally? don't you still get angry with them.
we all have issues in our marriage... from what you are describing, your issues are just simple things we all go through.
when i feel the way you describe, i think of the love i have for my husband like the size of an elephant. then i think about all the things that i can't stand about him like little ants.
no matter how many ants there are it would never be more than an elephant.
i know it sounds weird... but think about it. my marriage counselor gave us this example and i really think it works.
just thank god, that the biggest problem with your husband are the ones you just mentioned...
2007-08-31 19:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love somebody unconditionally there might be small problems or maybe not so small problems but if you don't know why you married him or are confused then you do need to evaluate or think about it. It is possible for somebody to just fall out of love. Seek counseling to find out what it could be. Your probably just confused or not in love with him anymore.
2007-08-31 18:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just marriage. after 20 years i still sometimes get bothered by my husband not helping but in reality i really don't need his help just want him to offer. through all these years he still hasn't learned and really don't expect him too. but through all my nagging he still loves me and i still love him
2007-08-31 22:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kelli sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love him. You do love him. Both. A hybrid of the two. In between. And maybe, just maybe, neither you or I know what love "is"... and if we are fairly certain, we may have different subjective feelings about the thing.
2007-08-31 19:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all have our little faults that drive our partners crazy but it doesn't mean we can't love them unconditionally.i never expected my husband to help clean or anything other than doing yardwork,so i never got disapointed or mad because i knew he wasn't going to do it ahead of time.
2007-08-31 19:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only God can love unconditionally.
2007-08-31 18:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice.
2007-08-31 18:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of this & ask yourself this:
"Does it really matter?"
"Does it really matter if maybe he dosnt want to watch a specific show with me?, he let me watch it shouldnt that be enough?"
or
"do i really want to argue with him over _________ (blank)?"
listen to the voice that says to not question yourself.
2007-08-31 22:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~*Sunshine*~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋