I have been married for 15 years. I found out that my husband has been seeing the same woman for 5 years He is a good provider, father and caring husband. Their hasent been very much sex for about 10 years and I thaught it was because of his medical conditon I do not miss the sex but I do not know what to do I have spoken with him and he does not want to end the marriage but he does not want to give her up. What will I do.
2007-08-31 11:21:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I guess it depends on whether you can accept the other woman in your lives. You dont mention you love him.....do you? Maybe he wont give the other woman up because you have made no demands of your own. Of course if you accept this situation, he wont do anything differently. If you can live like this, which I know I couldnt, then accept that he has 2 women in his life. If you dont want to share yout husband, you have to be a bit stronger.....you have to demand he get rid of the other woman or he loses you. Maybe you are underestimating yourself. Your husband seems a bit arrogant to tell you he will not give up this other woman. Dont let him intimidate you into accepting the unacceptable. You need to make a stand and expect more your husband. If this is all you expect, then it is all you will get. Value yourself a bit more and want more for yourself. Take care.
2007-08-31 11:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand why you have let this go on this long! let's get real here, he is happy because you have let him be with another woman for the last five years, what about you? don't you feel you deserve better than that? I hope you are thinking divorce because this is just not right! He is not a good father or husband if he has been sleeping with another woman, and honestly I have to wonder what kind of marriage you are in, I mean is it really ok with you! is this like an agreement and you are now feeling the effects of your decision. I really hope you make the right decision for yourself and your children, I would not stand for it for one second. It's like he is putting your life at a stand still, you need to move on, there are really nice men out there that will treat you like you deserve. Why wouldn't he want to end the marriage if he is with this other person and for so long, it's almost disgusting. Let him go and move on.
2007-08-31 18:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by robink71668 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he doesn't want to end the marriage doesn't mean that he has all the control. You act as if he has power when he doesn't. You have the ability to end the marrige by taking yourself to an attorney and filing for a divorce. You don't need his permission to do anything. If you want to end it...then end it. Don't tell him that you are gettiing a divorce...you just do it. If you tell him then he can talk you out of it.
2007-08-31 18:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce the adulterer. He has been totally disrespecting you.
Get counseling, because you are no doubt devastated. He has no respect for you, so have some respect for yourself and go to the divorce lawyer.
He is getting his cake and eating it too. How disgusting. Get the house, get child support and alimony. I would so drop him like a hot rock. He is a lying cheating dog. You have to face reality.
2007-08-31 18:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just wrong and you know it. granted, there are some that like the idea of an open marriage but that kind of makes it unnecessary, doen't it. it doesn't matter if you don't miss the sex. the fact is, he's not supossed to be getting it anywhere else.
2007-08-31 18:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE. He is treating you like a fool. Your children will see this and think it is okay to toerate a cheating man regardless if he is a good provider, etc. What advice whould you give your daughters if this were them? Get yourself set to move on. Do it for your kids.
2007-08-31 18:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by noitall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will you have an open marriage and continue to share YOUR husband with another woman, or will you find someone that will love you and only you? Good question, but only you can answer it.
2007-08-31 18:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices.
Share him and live your life heartbroken, at risk for sexually transmitted diseases,(who says she is not cheating on him) disregard the lies and disrespect he has forced you to live with over the last ten years,
or
Get a divorce and find some one who will love and honor you as you deserve.
2007-08-31 18:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. If you can deal with having another woman in his life, then don't change anything. If it is not acceptable with you, give him an ultimatum and live with the consequences.
2007-08-31 18:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell you what to do, but I know what you should do. You should pray to become the woman that God intended you to be. From this day on.
2007-08-31 18:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋