My wife and I both work full time but she also goes to school, so we share the chores (but really I do most of them). I do not mind because I am a bit of clean freak, and I figure if I take care of a majority of the chores, she will have more time to concentrate on her studies and get more organized with her work/school life. However, my wife is the unorganized type and has the bad habit of waiting until the last minute to get things done. So when things aren't done, she gets mad and blames me for not helping her. The times that I even offered to help she would tell me that she will handle it, but then get mad at me when things go wrong. I tell her to ask me if she needs help with work/school, but she thinks she shouldn't have to ask and that I should know better. I feel like she thinks I should be like her mom and that she can act like an infant child and not look out for herself sometimes. Any advice?
2007-08-31 07:08:19 · 8 answers · asked by fsfdsfsf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Without knowing you, I can't tell if you are obessive/compulsive or just a neat-freak. So, I can't tell if she is unorganized or just not a neat freak. Do you see what I mean? You need to love each other for your differences and, yes, she should take responsibility for her work/school and you for yours. Tell her that.
2007-08-31 07:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a situation recently where a client thought I should be a mind reader. My boss had to explain to her that I'm NOT a mind reader, and she needs to be very explicit in what she wanted me to do. You need to be very explicit with her in what's going on, and if she wants you to do something, she needs to tell you. You need to tell her it's not your fault if something goes wrong due to her lack of organization. Write everything down that you do that helps her, and the wåys in which it does. Like the housework helps her to be able to study. So does cooking, laundry, whatever. Also remind her that YOU are the one who works on the cars rain or shine.
2007-08-31 14:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she's being a brat. She needs to grow up. Men aren't mind readers; hell, very few can't even take very noticable hints much less vague hints.
2007-08-31 14:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds stressed to me...but that doesnt mean that its ok to take things out on you.
she needs to take responsibility for her own actions...if HER schoolwork or HER work is not completed or satisfactory then that is her problem completely and she should not blame anyone, especially someone she loves for her short comings.
she needs to get a grip
2007-08-31 15:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by charli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Women huh? Well, what I suggest is that you just help out where you can, whether she asks you are not. I also suggest that you talk to her about how it makes you feel when she is angry with you about things that are beyound your control. Good Luck to you!!
2007-08-31 14:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o yeah, she needs help big time..next time when you do something start writing it down, and also offer her if she can finish certain things to write it down also, so there is no confusion..she needs help, but too stressed and think you dont understand her..
2007-08-31 14:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Marina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes probably just really stressed out with both school and work you should have a serious talk with her and let her know how you feel
2007-08-31 14:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Eliza N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah you shouldn't have married someone under 22
2007-08-31 14:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by sa_183327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋