I know this is such a horribal thing i did but sometimes you just cant help who you fall in love with. ( Now i see it was lust) We both decided to break it off. So i recently met someone (2 months after we broke up) and he found out about it. Now he is the nastiest most cruel person to me ever. I dont think satin could be this mean. This is a really great job and i cant leave. Any advice? And NO, im not going to threten him with "im telling your wife". Thats just childish
2007-08-31 06:24:19 · 19 answers · asked by Page 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My advise to you is you are getting JUST what you deserve....that's your punishment for messen with a married man...cheaters suck! Take your lumps..you earned them!
2007-08-31 06:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by MC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he's doing is totally illegal. It is sexual harrassment and creating a hostile work environment for women. Whatever the ethics of yours and his past relationship, he has no right to let it interfere with your workplace. Do not talk to him about this or give him any warning about what you're going to do next because who knows, he might make it look like it's you harrassing him. If possible record and document him being nasty to you, make sure there are plenty of witnesses around who see him being cruel, then show copies of your evidence when you file a complaint at your company's HR department. If they do nothing, hire a lawyer.
2007-08-31 13:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you excepted that things went back to normal? What is childish is you complaining about what he is doing to you after you and him had an affair. I feel sorry for that poor wife. I think you deserve the way he is treating you. This guy used you . You didn't respect yourself enough to leave him along. And now you want his respect. Now you are the childish person . He is treating you this way, because you let him since you decided to have the affair with him.
2007-08-31 13:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Esperanza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd still look for another job; there are other great jobs out there. After an affair, you should have no contact at all with this man; he is not good for you. He has no right to be upset with you being smart and dating others who offer much more than he could.
2007-08-31 14:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a gym. Work it out of your system. Don't sit around idle and let the past "creep up" on you. You know you learned a valuable lesson. Office "love affairs" are seldom "secret" and the woman is always cast as the villain.
2007-08-31 13:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - "satin" is a type of fabric. "Satan" is the big bad guy in hell.
Secondly, if you're being harassed, you need to report it to the human resources department. They are required by law to investigate any claims of harassment. If you're not willing to do that, you'll either need to find a new job or live with it.
2007-08-31 13:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are still able to do your job and he's fair in assigning work. Either way you asked for it by having an affair with your boss. You pretty much told him he owned you professionally and emotionally.
2007-08-31 13:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by why ask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad move to ever date from the office, but you knew that. I would say you need to leave the job, unless of course you would like to bring up the sexual harrasment thing on him.
2007-09-01 01:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and if that doesn't work go to the the person above him. It might cost both of you your jobs. Sometimes things blow over. Maybe give it a little more time.
2007-08-31 13:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him. Tell him you both made mistakes and that you still love your job and can move past what you both did. You hope that he can also. That it is unfair to you to have to deal with his attitude and is uncalled for. try honesty first then go from there. Plus I wouldn't bring bf around work place....
2007-08-31 13:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I messed up the first answer...go to the HR department if he keeps bothering you but you need to tell him that you want to keep it professional and hopes he will calm down and move past this so you can both get your jobs done.
So give him a chance to calm down. But if he keeps it up or is even cold to you (unprofessional), you need to tell HR and no one else.
2007-08-31 13:36:14 · answer #11 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋