How many of you women would date a married man that's been seperated, wife has moved out & no divorce filed?

Answer 1

I wouldn't and I will NOT.

I respect myself and the sanctity of marriage.

If they are married, independently of the circumstances, they are off limits; besides, I don't care to be dragged into no drama or being a transitional relationship or worse, deal with other people's emotional baggage.

I only date honest available single men that are emotionally healthy. Do not get involved with people that don't have their life in order and most importantly, do not believe all the sad stories, most of the times, that;s the bait to get someone on the side, without any intentions to get a divorce.

Good luck

Answer 2

I am not sure. It depends on the situation and the man.

When I was seperated from my husband and had not yet filed, I dated the greatest guy. My soon to be ex was aware it was over and that I was dating. We just didn't have the money to file for divorce. 2 years later, I finally got my divorce and 2 months after that, I married that great guy. We have been together for 7 years, now.

So, find out why the papers haven't been filed yet. Make sure the wife knows its over and that he is dating. Don't let him give you excuses if you become suspicious of his actions/motives and follow your heart.

Answer 3

I would not. Number one, he is "technically" cheating on his wife with you because they are not legally divorced. Separation does not mean that people engage in other relationships. Number two, the woman that he is cheating with (which would be you in this case) is in the wrong because why would you want to be in a relationship with a man who is tied to another woman? Number three, has anybody filed for a divorce? If not, is there a good reason for waiting to do so? I just think that by you dating a married man that is not legally divorced, you are putting yourself at risk for being hurt. What if he still wants to be with that woman and one day decides to try to make things work with her again (people do it all the time)? You will be left out in the cold. It may not happen right away. You could be dating him for 6 months and then that happens to you. By then, you are used to this person and somewhat emotional behind this person. I don't know, I just wouldn't even go there.

Answer 4

Now that I am older and wiser, nope, I wouldn't do it. If I did date him it would be casual only, not exclusive and no sex, just friends. I wouldn't get serious with someone until they had a year of being divorced under their belt. They have too much hurt and too much healing to do in that time. Keep your self-esteem in tact and just be his friend, no matter what he says, he is hurting and is looking for someone to snuggle up to at night, believe me, and nothing more. He's not able legally or emotionally to commit to anything or anyone; he wants a booty call. It's natural. Not that he is a pig or anything, seriously, just human.

Answer 5

I would have nothing to do with him until divorce papers are in his hand, signed by a judge. Up to that point, he's still married, and the "I'm going to get a divorce" line is probably one of the oldest ones in the book. If he wants to be with you badly enough, he'll get a divorce. Most guys who play this card though, want to literally have their cake and eat it too.

Answer 6

Personally I wouldn't date a man who's just separated, if his divorce is been processed there's a big chance I'll date him.

Answer 7

From a man's perspective here...make sure that you are not the "rebound" girl in his life. So long as you feel that isn't the situation then you could probably go ahead and start dating him if it is truly OVER. The risk you have in this is a sudden reconciliation between him and his ex and you are left holding the bag.

Answer 8

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They might realize they need you and come crawling back!

If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.

Answer 9

I wouldn't. He is still married. It is still adultery. Besides, who is to say that you're just not the cheap thrill on the side? Essentially, despite the circumstances of the separation, he has proven that he cannot commit to the utmost commitment. For that matter, why are they getting a divorce? Is it something worthwhile, like abuse or adultery or just "irreconcilable differences"? (I don't get the blanket "irreconcilable differences" excuse. My husband and I discovered we had those on our first date.)

If you want a cheap screw and want to be somebody's cheap screw, go for it. However, if you "fall in love" with him, what are you going to do if he and his wife decide to be married in every aspect of the word?

Answer 10

No. He is still legaly married, if you two really love eachother what's wrong with waiting? You may be asking for trouble,
what if they decide to get back together? It is adultery and I personaly have no respect for people who sleep with other peoples spouses, no matter what the circumstances are. He should close one door before he opens another.