2007-08-31 08:04:04 · 74 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know people will attack you for this question. People seem to get so offended by this!!!
2007-08-31 08:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by L 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting to have an affair with a married man then you both need to get divorced. Cheating is never an easy thing to do. There is too much sneaking around to do and you'll both end up having to be liars. You both will be living two different lives. People who cheat most times end up getting caught eventually. You should not even consider wanting to cheat on your husband. If things are that bad in your marriage and you are wanting to cheat then you need to end the marriage and then find someone who is not married.
2007-08-31 08:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. It's just going to be a fling you two have. A dangerous fling. Do you plan to leave your husband? Is he planning to leave his wife? How many times have you hear stories that the guys say they will leave his wife and never do. Why play that kind of game? Are you unahappy in your marriage? Gave up and don't want to work it out? Then do him a favor and tell him you are divorcing him because otherwise you will have an affair. How can you even think that it would work? Is this a game to you?
Really think this through before you get too deeply involved.
2007-08-31 08:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Pwincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-31 08:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking "will it work" in terms of 'will I get away with it' or are you meaning 'will the affair go anywhere'?
If you are wondering if you'll get away with it, that's totally up to you and how deceptive you are. Many people get away with it every day. You just have to decide if it's worth the time and energy you are about to devote to it. And if it's worth hurting everyone involved when/if it comes out.
If you want to know if the affair will work, I'll have to say, "Probably not". For one thing, you are having to question it before you even start. Also any relationship that is based on deceit and mistrust is going to be a rocky one. Maybe you should consider getting out of your present situation before starting on something else.
2007-08-31 08:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not concentrate on your husband instead? After all, you did PROMISE him to stay faithful to him ONLY. You have no right to have an affair and hurt your family this way ~ or the other man's family.
Take pride in who you are, knowing that once you give your word, you will keep it. Trust is a very precious and fragile thing and once broken, your life will Never be the same again.
Tell this guy you have given it great thought and have decided not to be an ADULTERER, that you choose to do all you can to put the spark back in your marriage because you love your husband and family.
Instead of thinking of yourself, start giving 100% of yourself to your husband and his happiness. Do little things to surprise him that lets him know how much you treasure him.
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2007-08-31 08:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a married woman why do you need to start a relationship with a married man dont you have your own , what if someone did this to you how would you feel i am not married but widow and dated a married man and i wind up getting hurt, so dont do this to your husband.
best of luck
2007-08-31 08:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. But affairs dont start because you are looking for them to work. They start for sex or communication or to be with someone different but not to start new relationships. Because the minute one or the other spouse (or both) finds out you are either both divorced or only one of you will be divorced, cause I dont know why but one of the offended spouses always swears they love them despite the affair and takes em back. And if you think you are his first affair you are sadly mistaken
2007-08-31 08:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Did you ask if your marriage would work when you married your husband?? Do not start an affair with anyone...but especially with a married man. Nothing good will come of it...and many people will eventually get hurt.
2007-08-31 08:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Depends on you and the person your having the affair with. If you know this person well enough to know he will be discreet, and you know you will never tell anyone yourself it might. It's a very slippery slope, and things can blow up very quickly, you have to know that. It can work, and does in many cases, but I think there are many more that do not for various reasons, getting caught, becoming to attached, jealousy, the list is very long.
2007-08-31 08:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "will it work" as in "will my husband find out" or "will his spouse find out" or.. both? Honestly the fact that you would want to start an affair shows that you're uninterested in your spouse and same with him. Maybe you two .. couples can consider "swinging" or trying new things with each other to spice up your life if that's what you're looking for.
Other than that, consider your (or his) family if either of you have one.
If so, you are just going to become a HOMEWRECKER.
And that's a pretty bad name to be called.
2007-08-31 08:09:30 · answer #11 · answered by Besch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋