My wife will not ever try anything new...it's to the point now that i don't even want to make love with her anymore because it's either one way or the other and nothing new. it's boring to me, and i'm tired of it...what am i supposed to do?
2007-08-31 07:39:19 · 37 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to discuss it with your wife. Tell her how much you really love her, but how you feel about the intimacy and if she is any sort of reasonable person she will want to keep the relationship alive.
One of the main things that lead to divorce besides money is sex life. Let her know that you don't want your marriage to become a statistic and if you guys are going to make it, than you need to find ways to keep your marriage alive and exciting (even outside the bedroom).
2007-08-31 07:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dragonette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about during four play you slowly, but confidently, work towards doing something different. Just flat out asking to do something different could cause her to get defensive and possibly question "why would he want to do something different...am I not pleasing enough" and can cause future problems.
You want her to feel like you're just trying out a ferrari and you love the porsche you have, not a big jump just something new and different. Not that what you have right now is a pinto and you're wanting to test a lincoln.....you dont like what you have and think anything would be better.
When having these conversations you have to understand that the wording and expressions mean as much as the message itself. You dont want to come across as "you're boring and I'm tired of you"
Hope this helps
2007-08-31 07:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Phil M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee man, you need to ask your wife why dosent she want to try something new. I mean there could be a lot of reasons why she is being to conservative and if you dont want to guess or track down the reason then another way to find out is to straight up asking her the reason why she is being that way. Communication in a marrige is the best way to get to the bottom of things if theres no communication then theres no progress you will grow to dislike each other if you dont talk and work things out when if problems arise. Good Luck bro hope you work this out, dont do what Im thinking you wanna do till you talk it out and work at it with your lady.
2007-08-31 07:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by D S♦T♦A♦R♦S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you and wife are married and she wont try anything new in the bedroom, you and your wife were compatiable when you married. You should have discussed this before marriage to find out if you liked the same things sometimes this is how we mistake when we marry for all the right reason we think and men sometimes want to expore in the bedroom.
I dont know what to tell you try to work it out sex is playing a big role in your marriage hows everything else going.
best of luck
2007-08-31 08:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its ok to spell out sex, hon ! Try to get her in a relaxed mood, something she enjoys outside of the house, make her feel special, etc., a "date" so to speak where the attention is all about her. Perhaps, you've been neglecting things in this area? Dont make rude comments when things dont go your way the first time, just try again......patience always wins the race ! Speak to her calmly and when she's in a good mood tell herabout what you feel you are missing with her. TELL her what you need...............!! Explain that you feel the intimacy between you two needs some spicing up......
2007-08-31 08:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend I don't have any advice for you that I can put into words but I promise you I have a solution...try spending a month or two away from her...When you get back you won't need to be creative...trust me...there is nothing better than "I missed you sex" with the woman that knows you the best... If its as boring as you say this is the perfect remedy...
2007-08-31 07:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by dkbutler88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your wife is just too burnt out with other responsabilities! I went through a period where I just wanted to fall asleep and be left alone! It was after having kids--not to scare anybody! My energy level was just way down and sex, or trying new things was low on my list. Part of what helped me get out of that phase was education! Having my eyes open to how important sex is for men and how it is a NEED. Part of it was taking time for myself, to relax, to take a bath, time to get in a sexy mood! In general we women tend to relate sex to lovey and affectionate feelings. Whereas you guys don't! So, maybe it's just a phase! Try doing something like washing the dishes after dinner, then giving her a massage and easing into something different, without asking first. I am a strong woman, but in the bedroom I LOVE when my husband takes charge and manhandles me! You know your wife, if she isn't into being manhandled then like I said, ease into it! Good Luck!
2007-08-31 08:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by im sure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a sexy outfit. Or even just cute bra and panties.
What about some massage lotion or edible body cream?
What about a feather?
I would start with small things and work your way up.
Have you talked about why she's not willing to try anything new? If shes completely against it maybe you should seek out a therapist to help get to the root of the problem.
Let me know if you need anymore ideas. My mate and I are very open and have tried a few things.
2007-08-31 07:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by GoldenButterflyKisses 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all you need to talk to her about this find out if she feels the same way.or go to a counselor.....then try to spice it up watch a porn together role play talk dirty to her jo while she is watching you or get her to jo and you watch, try oral
buy her sexy clothing like thongs bras fishnet body suite, uy her a day at a spa let her get pampered and then a nice dinner go and stay at a hotel, flowers wine the whole nine yards......send her kinky emails or text msgs tell her you are craving her....good luck but remember to talk and if its not working get professional help don't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do it will make it worse....TIME IS OF THE IMPORTANCE YOU CAN ALWAYS MASTURBATE
2007-08-31 08:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand it can be frustrating, but you might consider that maybe your wife is sensing your feelings towards sex, start having sex how you know she likes it, or is comfortable for her, SLOWLY try adding diiferent things, be patient, talk to her if you can, dont go into the bedroom with the attitude My sex life sucks, because then it def. will and for all you know she is thinking the same thing. Goodluck.
2007-08-31 07:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Nay Nay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋