Like the title says I am getting married! I met her at a cafe and compliminted me on my glasses and I complimented on how she looks so cute so she sat down and we talked she had a major in philosophy and was a college teacher. so we went on a date and it went pretty well she has a sparkling personality and she is pretty cute and pretty. so 5 years later proposed to her and she said yes!! now we are getting married tommorow and we follow the tradition of not seeing the bride till the wedding. my best friend is my best man. But am starting to get cold feet about this is that normal? I mean before we started she said that she was exited for sex on the honey moon but i don't think I'm ready for the sex yet and if I don't think that i'm ready for that then should I be getting married in the first place? I need your opnions on this.
2007-08-31 04:51:02 · 14 answers · asked by j.r. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL!! Getting cold feet is perfectly normal,
and of course, you are excited and scared
at the same time-
However, when you see her waiting for you at the altar-
everything will be fine.
And sex is always awkward the first time,
but gets much, much better
with lots of practice. ;-)
The only thing you need to know is whether you are in love with her-
Best Of Luck- Much happiness to you both!!
2007-08-31 05:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by DG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your not ready....Why did you ask her if you weren't ready. Cold feet is normal but, I have never heard a man say he isn't ready for sex. I think you better get to doing what needs to be done before you hurt her more. You might just have extra cold feet cause you haven't had sex yet and are nervous about all of that too on top of being married.
And I think that if you do call it off you should be the one to call and or tell everyone don't leave her standing at the alter looking like a fool. You made the choice you deal with it ALL.
2007-08-31 11:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Waiting for that long to have sex can make it scary. Being scared is fine. But if you honestly believe that the two of you are incompatible as mates for life, then your fears are a warning. If you are nervous about performing in bed, I'm sure that's normal. If you're nervous about making a huge life change (the marriage itself), that means you are being realistic knowing that this commitment is very real and it will not be easy. You are taking it seriously and that is wonderful.
2007-08-31 12:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your cold feet issue is only related to sex, then you're just fine. If your cold feet issue has to do with her, then you shouldn't go through with it. Don't worry about sex as it will happen naturally and she probably feels the same way you do. Take the lead on your honeymoon and be gentle and understanding with her. No worries, as this is a wonderful time you'll remember forever.
2007-08-31 12:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to all these people saying you should have had sex already. Just because they have slept with 50 people doesn't mean they know what they're talking about. 95% of people are too immature, undiscipled, and lacking of self control to wait. I applaud you for waiting. Don't worry about it, of course you're nervous just talk to her about it. Good luck! Marriage is awesome, especially when you don't have baggage like everybody else.
2007-08-31 12:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by DrewS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about. In 5 years of dating, you haven't had sex? What are you, 18? You are definitely not ready to get married.
2007-08-31 12:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cold Feet is normal... i would have thougt differently if you were together for about 1 year... but 5 years... your ready... and enjoy!!!
2007-08-31 12:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by happygolcky75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal feeling, don't panic. As of sex, wait to see what happens... mmmm, maybe she will seduce you, and then you will not be able to stop. If you explain to your bride what's going on, she'll understand you.
I wish you the best of luck!, congratulations !!
2007-08-31 12:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure cold feet are normal. Go with your guts. Do you love her??..If so then you shouldn't have any doubts in your mind about marriage. Don't break her heart now to later decide you made a mistake.
2007-08-31 11:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Leigh08 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
congrats!!!!!!!!! honey it normal to get cold feet. and you are so ready for this, did u read what u wrote about her? u obviously want to spend the rest of Ur life with her. stop thinking and enjoy whats coming!!!!!!
i really wish you a life time of happiness, and lots and lots of babies, to make ur life alot more challenging and exciting!!!
2007-08-31 12:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋