Do you believe in 2 people can be HAPPILY married for 50+ years???

Question

I have been married 7 years and I believe I will love him forever... I stare at him sometimes when hes sleeping (I know creepy) and think how blessed I am.. he still laughs uncontrollably when I tell him that a yardsale gave me a woody (I am a women) . I guess its because we are so alike in so many ways..and yet very different..

Answer 1

Yes, I do believe. I've witnessed it first hand. My in-laws were married for 50+ years before my father in law passed away. they were in love right up till he passed on, and my mom in law still loves him today. And, yes, i do believe they were happy. Yes, they fought, but they always loved each other, and didn't go to bed angry.
My husband and I have been married almost 25 years(in oct), and I wouldn't trade one moment. I'm looking forward to another 50.
I'm not going to tell you that it's all been a piece of cake, and easy, because marriage takes 2 people to work hard. I still look at him and my heart jumps, and i know i'm blessed. he's not only my husband, he's my best friend. i'm still happy...so far.
I wish you lots of luck......just keep loving each other. :)

Answer 2

I believe it. My neighbor across the street has parents that visit them often. They are the most happily married people I've ever met. They celebrated their 50th anniversary about 3 years ago. They go dancing together and everything. They are still very much in love and very devoted to each other. Your marriage sounds very similar to mine. I've only been remarried for 3 years but I still feel the same as I did back when I met him 7 years ago. My husband and I are similar in alot of ways (especially personality and sense of humor...we are very sarcastic and most of the time nobody knows what we're laughing about except us). It's good to be the same yet different. You would not want to be married to your clone. I asked my husband if he believed 2 people could be married and remain faithful and in love forever. He told me yes, he believed it and felt our marriage would be that way. I'll let you know how it goes in another 47 years!

Answer 3

I know in my family, there are have been very few divorces. My moms parents were just a couple months away from their 50th when my grandfather passed. My dads parents were together for 56 years, until my grandmother passed (last week). And I know me and my husband will never get divorced. After 10 years, were still like we were when we were dating. I still get flowers and cards just because, and I do the same for him. Even when he is working we talk on the phone at least 4 times when he is gone. I call just to see how is night is going, or he calls just to tell me he loves me. The only way we wont see 50+ years is if one of us passes.

Answer 4

Fo Sho home is what you make it. So it is all up to you 2 whether it will last that long or not. There is no reason that you cant make it that far if you both are really in love and happy. So as long as you keep each other that way you should be fine. Every couple is different and some compliment each other better than others. Sounds like you guys will have no trouble making it that far and farther.

Answer 5

Yes I do believe that two people can be together for fifty years and still be in love ,and they are very lucky indeed because that is rare. If you still feel as you do after seven years I think you have a good chance of being one of the lucky couples and just keep respecting each other and I wish you the best fifty + years ever

Answer 6

Hi...Yes I do...My mother and father were a perfect example. They had been married for over 55 yrs. My father just passed away. They were very much in love. They were soul mates. They had met each other in College and finally got married in the early 50's. They argued just like any married couple but you could tell that they loved each other very much. I had wonderful parents. My dad will be greatly missed. Have a great weekend!

Answer 7

All you can be sure of is now. No one knows what the future has in store. So live one day at a time. There are many, many marriages that have lasted longer than 50 years. So yes it can happen.

If you treat each other like you want to be treated, be kind, caring, understanding, patient, tolerant, selfless,giving, have unconditional love for each other, be quick to forgive and slow to anger.

Answer 8

Well.
My great grandparents have been married for 60 years. Yeah they argue, but everyone does.
I asked them what's the secret to a long happy marriage once, and they told me that you had to have the right person, and understand that they have faults and so do you.
I asked them if they would take back anything during the whole entire relationship, and they said "Not a second."
So I guess I believe it, since I've seen it.

Answer 9

YES definetly you can. But keep in mind that marriage is both partners putting everything into making the marriage work. My husband and I just celebrated 36 years. Have we had our ups and downs?? YES, but we work at our marriage. We plan outings with just the 2 of us. We travel together, we love spending time together. I have surprised him at time with a romantic dinner or even snacks, he came home from work once and I had apetizers set up on our screended porch with glasses of wine..a wonderful time we had..we do have arguments and disagreements, but who doesnt. Its how you handle them. Never, ever throw old arguments back in their faces, never hold grudges, and never ever say something horrible that cannot be taken back. Keep disagreements to the point of the argument, dont bring every little thing you have ever argued about back up and never call each other names in the heat of the moment.

If you have made it 7 years you can make it a lifetime. Just continue working at it and never ever take the other for granted.

Answer 10

Yes, I do think that a couple can be happy after 50+ years of marriage. My husband and I have been married for six years. For at least two years, we were roommates who occasinaly had sex at best. Yet, through our stubbroness, our faith in God and the grace of God we're stronger and happier than what we've been. Any day now, God will bless us with our first child. From the start, though, our marriage was focused on God; We just had to be reminded. (Her due date is the 21st and I'm hoping it will be about then, as we're not quite ready for her and we can't even get insurance for her until tomorrow. It would be cool if she were born on my dad's birthday, tomorrow, but her due date is more around his mom's birthday and one of my niece's birthdays.)

Anyway...

My parents are close to 45 years of marriage. Even in their every day dealings and teasings, I see the love. It's a great motivator. I remember the week of my wedding (I was still living at home) and I was in my old bedroom. I don't remember what they were talking about, but in their teasing and joking was the love that their 40 years (or close to it) built. I thought it was sweet and hoped my then-fiance' and I were like that.

My in-laws have been married 30-odd years. I know there is affection there, but I don't know how much. They do things behind the others' backs. They don't even share a bed and sometimes, they seem more like roommates than a married couple in love. They even address each other as "Mom" and "Daddy", not even by their names. They have done things that have been an example for my husband and me of what not to do.

My dad's parents are incredible. They will celebrate their 67th anniversary in January of next year. Unfortunately, my grandmother is suffering from dementia and is basically clueless most of the time. Yet, thankfully, she still knows Grampa. It still hurts that she doesn't know me, her son's daughter, but she still knows Grampa and that's what matters. My grandfather at 96 (his 97th will be in January) is still smitten with her and brags about her. It's obvious they're still deeply in love.

Both my parents' and grandparents' marriages seem to have the following formula which my husband and I emulate: God, the other, themselves. Even after six years, I treat my husband with the same basic courtesey as what we treat others; The way we would want to be treated. I see the same thing in my parents' and grandparents' marriages. As sick as what my gramma is, she still knows her husband and still gives him love and respect. It's way cool.