2007-08-31 06:58:16 · 39 answers · asked by know_no_no2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why the need to end it while they are over their risking their lives? Wait until they are home safe and have the comfort of family and friends around to help them deal with it. None of us who haven't been there can begin to comprehend what they go through day in and day out. There is no need to cause any of them more stress or sadness then they already have to deal with every day. Be selfless for a while, as they are, and wait until he returns!
2007-08-31 07:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you a wonderful, loving wife? Why'd you marry him if you were going to want to ditch him when he went overseas? You need to wait until he gets back. Right now, all he has to look forward to is coming home to you, and you want to snatch that all away, for what? A fling? Some 'new guy'?? Think about someone other than yourself. Keep your pants on, and break it to him GENTLY when he gets home. Unbelievable! What if, Gods forbid, he doesn't make it? He's going to die a miserable man. Let him have his peace for the time being. Maybe you should get some counseling to find out WHY you suddenly don't care about those vows you made. Marriage is supposed to be forever, not when it's convenient.
2007-08-31 07:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't know the background of your particular situation, so we don't know WHY you want to end your marriage. However, I would recommend waiting until he gets back. Granted, that could be many months away. But in the long run I think you will be more at peace with your decision if you wait.
This is a stressful time for BOTH of you. You may just be ready to move on with your life. Unfortunately, that's just not possible. Soldiers are under a tremendous amount of stress. To the level that people like us just can't understand.
To tell him, you not only put him at risk, but you put his fellow soldiers at risk as well. He needs to be concentrating on his job, not worried about his marriage.
I know it seems unfair to you, but it really is the right thing to do.
2007-08-31 07:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen what this does to guys when they are over there. I'm glad I didn't have you as a wife while I was there. I might have done something stupid and gotten myself, or worse, someone else killed!
Get the picture?
This will seriously damage his morale. Depression is a killer over there.
Wait until he's home to break up with him.
I hope to GOD you don't take all his hard earned cash from this point forward and spend it on yourself so he has nothing left when he gets back. You should have him open up a new account so only he has access to it. but then you'd have to tell him about what's going on in your heartless mind.
I'm done.
2007-08-31 07:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sean C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is tough. He is probably going through a lot right now and you dumping him won't make him feel better, but it will also hurt him if you wait until he comes back. Is this not something that can be worked out? Maybe you've forgotten how much you care about him. I don't think you should stay with him just because he is serving in the military, but give this as much thought as possible.
2007-08-31 07:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Alli 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't and I will not judge you. You don't state the reason you want to break up, but I would hope that you would have the heart to wait and tell him and be honest with him as to the reason you want to leave. If the reason is another person who has come into your life, remember what goes around comes around.
If and when the two of you do talk, please be honest with yourself and get to the root of the problem and don't just focus on the person who has taken your husbands place (if this is the reason).
2007-08-31 08:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by AnneMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna guess you started seeing someone. Otherwise I doubt you'd have made this choice while he is in Iraq. Wait until he gets home. There is no reason to put him through the emotional upheaval of a divorce while he's being shot at.
2007-08-31 07:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You wait and support him while he is fighting for our country. Even though I think the war in Iraq is one of the worst policy decisions our country has engaged in years, we must still support the individuals who are overseas fighting (but not the politicians who put them there). If he's laying his life on the line every day, the least you could do is stay faithful until he gets back.
2007-08-31 07:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow. thats horrible. dont tell him now.........i am a military wife too and could you imagine being that far away and in that situation and being told your spouse is leaving you. not only will that hurt him imensely....but it wont help his state of mind while he's over there. right now you are all he is thinking about and fighting to come home to. if this is because your lonely or needing someone there for you.....well thats just plain wrong.....you knew he was military and this is something we do for our men. i feel really bad for him. and i hope you change your mind and wait till he gets home and try to work things out.
2007-08-31 07:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jen S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how much of a skeez bucket you are, then do it while hes over there. He'll have a good support team, and hopefully he wont get shot or worse while thinking how skeezy and selfish you are. Im sure you'll make excuses for yourself why you have to do this, so just get it done with. You my girl are hell bound.
2007-08-31 07:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mark H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋