my husband and i have been separated for a while now. he moved out of our house and moved in with a mutual friend of ours. he and i have been trying to work on our relationship, but recently i have heard from mutual friends that they are dating. i have also found pictures of them on websites. the pictures do not tell much. just regular pictures, but she write captions like... we are in love, and stuff like that. when i have asked him about it, he has always denied any relationship between them other then sharing a house. i know she is on medication and such. i'm starting to wonder if... either she is lying and this is her way of manipulating the situation in hopes of breaking us up for good or he is lying. how can i find out the truth?
2007-08-31 06:53:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanx to all that have answered so far. to answer some of the questions. we have been together for 10 years. he spends most of his time here with me and when he isn't with me he is still with our daughter. i have already filed for divorce, but we are trying to make things work. the woman is much older and is one of those woman that lives with a ton of cats. basically, as pathetic as she is, i wonder if she is dreaming all this in her head in hopes that i will come true. i have thought about confronting her but even when we first met, i got the impression that she was weak and unstable.
2007-08-31 07:12:19 · update #1
#1... WHY IN THE HELL DID HE MOVE IN WITH A FEMALE??? There is no reason he should be living with another woman when he is trying to fix your marriage... mutual friend or not. You need to talk to him and tell him that if he is really wanting to fix this marriage he needs to get rid of this chick. It isn't right and it deffinatley is NOT helping the situation. I wouldn't trust a man who is willing to move in with another woman and be such great friends with her when he is trying to fix his marriage. that situation needs to change STAT!!!
Good luck and God bless.
2007-08-31 07:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never find out the whole truth and it will tear you apart inside to try to find out. The hard truth is that you will damage the future friendship/relationship with him if you try. And you could possibly destroy it entirely by trying. I know this from years of experience. The relationship may never recover if you try. However, in your heart of hearts you probably already know the truth. You have seen them together and how they look at each other. And you have seen his face and heard his answers. You know by instinct if he is being honest with you. If you know him well enough to be married to him, your heart knows the truth. Follow those instincts. They have been right for me every time. And don't fight it. If he is looking elsewhere, he is not going to be happy if he has to fight to be with who he wants. If he is lying, let him go and just let things be. Have that much respect for your friendship with him and for yourself. By doing this you may actually be able to give him the space he needs to examine the way he truly feels about not having you with him. He may need that space to come back to you. Good luck.
2007-08-31 07:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He moved out of your house and is living with with another female. Friends are telling you they are dating. There are pics posted on the internet of them together with captions saying they are in love...ummmm, yeah he is sleeping with her and involved with her. He is lying to you. Heck, there is a chance that they were intimate before he left you and moved in with her.
Your marriage to him is over and he is not telling you the truth because he is either
A) Trying to keep having sex with both of you.
B) Trying to avoid drama and court ordered financial payments and asset division
or
C) All of the above.
Get a good lawyer. File for divorce. Stop contact with him. Move on.
2007-08-31 07:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how long you been married but if my man of 20 years left me to stay with a 'mutual friend' that is single, while he can just stay there. He is playing you and "he's got his cake and is 'eat'in' it to". I'd take 1/2 and get on with life.
2007-08-31 07:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy*flame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK let me get this straight you husband moved out of your house n into the house of another women who is your friend? you have found pics of them together stating they r in love!! if you don't believe your lying eyes than you should spy on him n her or hire a someone to do it for you !!
2007-08-31 07:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i would move on, its going to take time but u will over come that. the other person must have moved on or they just want for u to think, wonder whats going on, and make u beg or making it seem like u cant go on with out that person. once u start moving on and not calling no more. that person is going to start thinking about u and what u doing .
2007-08-31 06:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by diamond_gold22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he should not be staying with a mutual friend. It puts all three of you in an awkward position. I would explain that to both of them.
2007-08-31 06:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just end it and move on that is the best thing to do. there is nothigm more to see but hose pictures tell alot right? i mean you will be better trying to find osmeone whose more to you then this guy taking you two on and not being honest with no one.
2007-09-04 06:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
helloooooooooo. YOU saw the pictures of them on the website... she didn't lead you to them so why would she make up such captions.... wake up.
2007-08-31 06:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's a head case and he is staying with her what does that say about him? And all of you are "friends" with friends like that you certainly don't need enemies.
2007-08-31 07:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋